Im so excited!

LOL have fun

 

Yeah, I had the same prob with an ex husband. When I tried to talk about it, he told me it wasn't one of his priorities. He would go three months at a time. Of course when he said it wasn't a priority I said "Hell, it doesn't even make it to the top ten list!" He was amorous and sponateous till the day he got married. LOL It was an evil plot to convince me to say I do.

 

Yup, I have heard that "priority" bullshit too. Grrrrrrrr

 

LOL you gonna drive down to Texas and do me? hehehe

 

How many here know what it's like to work 13 hour days ? FUCK ALL that's what .... do you work outside the house too ? I'll bet that the tattoo artist knows more about your sexual "frustration" than your husband ... get off the net and go talk to the man. If I pulled 13 hours a day I'd be well pissed my ol lady was treatin me like that.

Actually the more I think about it the more pathetic it is: ur old man who's breaking his ass everyday for you and your kids and now he's paying for you to go and get inked and discuss your sex life with some tatt artist who you get daffy around????


I'd expect a little bit more maturity from a mother of 3 children.

 

Well buddy, I work my ass off raising his children. And raising them well. I earn his paycheck just as much as he does. Excpet he gets more breaks then I do. He doesn't have to get up in the middle of the night to nurse a baby, change a diaper or reassure one from a bad dream.

And yes, I have discussed the issue with my husband and I get put off. You honestly think I haven't tried to do something about it? I have talked with him.

Unbelievable....

I pity your partner or future partner. I may sex deprived but at least he knows damn well that what I do at home with 3 kids is exhausting and he will be the first person to tell you that what I do at home is tougher then what he does at work.

 

So you're tryin to tell me that you've been tellin your husband that you want some action for the last 16 months and he's not been able to provide some relief. Excuse me but are you also selling some bridge type real estate in Manhattan ?

I ain't married but if my lady found out I was talkin to other chics , chics that I was attracted to about our sex life then she'd have every reason to chop my nuts off.

Feelin' guilty would be a teensy bit more likely now huh ?
Yeh believe it.

EDIT: Just readin over your original post I realise the poor bastid has to work from 4am.... just exactly which part of the middle of the night do you NOT call that ???

I break my ass along with my partner at work (nothing like 13 hour days - more like 10) , when I make it home believe me I likes to make with the love but I can cut her ass some slack (and not jaw onto some other woman) if she's pooped.

 

Yes, Thats exactly what Im telling you.

I have asked and tried to talk about, we have fought about it, I have tried to be creative in my approach.

Yes, Im telling youthat for 16 months I have asked for sex and have got nothing.

No, Im not feeling guilty whatsoever because Ive done NOTHIGN wrong babe.

I totally beleive that relationships require nurturing. And I think my husband has gotten lazy and comfortable which can be both good and bad.

Either way, marriage is work. I love my husband dearly but feel a bit deprived.

 

OK , then I apologise , I suggest you get his ass on HRT immediately - a 300mg shot of test will turn just about any man into a raging hard-on and cure what ails you. he should also have more energy and look better too. From your pics you're a good lookin woman so this should sort shit out double time. Respect to you for not sumpin on your marraige at the first stumblin block.

 

Thankyou and I accept your apology.

Like I said in the begining I love him very much and would never do anything to hurt him and sometimes maybe I stare a little too long at other guys or have a little too much conversation with some of them but I think most would in my situation.

Its also frustrating because when I talk about HRT he gets angry and defensive. I think it makes him feel less of a man at even just the thought of low testosterone, ya know? So I don't know....its an ongoing battle. I think I will give it a bit more time and see how it goes.

 

With three small day care aged kids you would be lucky to break even working outside of the home *coughtoadcough*
She already stated she talked to her husband. She also didn't say she got "daffy" around the guy, just that he is hot! Yeah, she talked about her husband and kids. She said she drooled but I'm sure that was more a figure of speech ffs!
He is being treated like what? She has no designs on being unfaithful, she cares for home and family, they have a great relationship and spends the time he is home with him. Other than no sex life....where is the abuse here?
Lots of people talk about their personal life. If there is something to be ashamed of, maybe there is behavior that needs to be addressed then. Sometimes you just wanna talk to a freaking grown up too.
I've worked 60-70hr weeks for months at a time. I've also been stuck in the house talking care of two small children with very very little adult contact. Have you?
I guess its immature to find someone of the opposite sex appealing...
There are times for all things at any age. She is only 28! She supposed to have stopped enjoying being alive because she has had three children?

 

I've worked days that long, running machines in factories, climbing in ovens to make repairs, that never stopped my sex drive.

I dont by the work to much excuse.

Maybe it is low testosterone or something, but i think 16 months is a bit extreme
for any excuse you could come up with. Too tired would make like once a month.

So, texas, well i was supposed to go there last week lol.

What part we talkin? =P

 

Whew~ Thankyou! And thats exactly it! Maybe I shouldn't have been so open in the conversation but when you go weeks at a time not talking to any other adults it can be very frustrating! You nailed it right on the head at the entire situation.

 

Wow! You were going to be in Texas? What for? (There is nothing here but tacos and GWB bumper stickers)

Im in SaN Antonio. Its hot, humid and ugly.

 

Slip him some Viagra, nobody wants to waste an erection

 

HELL YEAH, you tell em lady. I knew i always liked you.

 

No need for him to get defensive at all about HRT... there's an absolute slew of men who are regular users nowadays.... if you have medical insurance then you can usually get it paid for but its cheap as chips in any case....

Personally I wouldnt use the gels - just have a regular weekly high shot dose - if you guys go together into the doc and mention "low sex drive" then you'll get it for sure - it's a little embarassing I understand but it can help a guy so much.

he should count himself lucky - there are craploads of bodybuilders and athletes who have to ship over to Mexico to get their shots (I'm a former pro athlete). You can always PM me for info - there are some natural tricks you can use to boost natural test production as well such as adding zinc to the diet and avoiding fatty foods , doing cardio in the mornings on an empty stomach etc.

I feel bad for you guys that you are trying so hard and this really fundamental part of your relationship is lagging - try and introduce it to him in a sexy loving and not a nagging way .... you can take the word of thousands of men that it is pretty much the elixir of sexual youth.

As an afterthought you oughta maybe remind him how much you need him more than any stoopid job and that no-one ever thought that they wished they had spent more hours in the office on their deathbed.

Good luck.rob

 

At the moment there are 8 kids living in the house here. I could go a few months without sex but damn, not 16 months.

YellowBellyHippy, I love the pic in your siggy and usually like your posts so hopefully my comment here doesn't get you to upset.

 

Noway Babe I love the input....It makes me realize that its not my fault. Its really made me feel unattractive and shot down my self esteem

Thanks for the compliment about my posts ...

 

No she didnt state before you posted that she had "talked" to her husband , you stated that you had COMPLAINED to your husband and got back something which you interpreted as an excuse.... she just said that she had heard the same excuse.
you know what's funny ? When men are blunt as fuck women get their nose all out of joint but they cant handle the same thing... point of fact it makes everyone defensive and angry .... which doesnt help ... no surprise your posts contain ZERO efforts at a solution.

Secondly she didnt "just" state that he is hot , she said that she discussed her sexual relationship with her husband with him and that he hugged her.... you think that's right ???? Put your husband in her shoes for a few seconds and try that out.

Personally I see sex as a very important part of any "great relationship" as you describe it... I thought that was kinda the point...

Lots of people talk about their personal life surely but like my girl always says there is a time and a place. I understand your desire to be one with the sisterhood here but somehow I get the impression here that you're not really feeling what you're saying.