Is it wrong?

oh i see..hmm

well i hope it all workds out for the best for ya..if it does turn out that somethings going on..please just dont take that shit & accept it..u deserve better.. but still i would give him an opportunity to explain before you come right out & accuse, there could be a ogical explanation.. but yeai see why u suspect

 

his phone gives me a mesage which says, This phone has "incoming call restrictions activated"

 

hmm that is odd.. u get the same message from his freinds?
where was he going? could he be somewhere that he had to shut it off for some reason?

 

He was going to the pub around the corner, supposedly....

I feel like a nutter, I just rang his house, at 3:30 in the morning... no answer... fuck I hate feeling like this

 

So let's see - he says he doesn't want you seeing your ex, yet you did.

And now you're calling him at 3 am to see what he's up to, checking up on him?

Putting the fun in dysfunctional are we? Sarcastic to make a point, dear retro.

 

if the pubs around the corner why not walk around the corner & see if hes around..

 

when did he say that?

and, I dont live near him... t was the pub around the corner from him... ugh!

 

as for calling him, I was calling because its bothering me, and I've been crying for the past three hours, and all I want to do it talk it over and tell him how I feel so we can sort things out, and I can know where I stand

 

Sort what out?

Seems to me that he doesn't want you to post pics (another thread) and you're now asking if he's OK with you seeing your ex.

You're crying at 3am girl - that means there's something wrong.

With your looks you have your pick of men. Dump this guy. I mean, how much money does he have that you'd put up with this?

 

he might have gone home & shut off the phone so he could sleep..ever concider that?

 

Imaginations run wild. Just wait till morning to here him out. Then make a logical decision. As for the nude pics - dump him! Just kidding I've not even read that thread.

Best of luck and use your head - its usually right.

J

 

Hey, I hope everything worked out OK...

But at least now you know how it feels...

 

You know what though? None of it matters. Whether one visits with his or her ex, has the phone on or off, or does something they shouldn't you cannot control another person. If it is meant to happen it will happen at some point whether you tell them to go or not to go. It is a hard lesson that I have to keep reminding myself of because I'm a control freak. If someone is going to cheat on you, you can't stop them from doing it. There is no well if I cooked a better dinner or if I took care of the kids better or if I lost 15lbs, no if someone is going to cheat it is entirely up to them and their character. Honestly, regardless of gender (Iron) someone who loves you should take into consideration how you might feel in the situation, and if they love you they shouldn't want to hurt you in any way, nor would they do anything to make you feel insecure in the relationship.

Sometimes you just have to have faith and trust that the person who says they love you really means it and nothing is going to happen to break the bond you share. However, if you do find out for certain that he has cheated on you, or you have decided regardless that you do not like how you have been treated in this relationship, then maybe it would be best for you to end it and move on as best as you know how. I mean it beats sitting around and worrying about it. Worrying never solved anything.

Best wishes to you.

 

If a girl unexpectedly bumps into an ex and they stop for coffee....fine. Just don't hide the fact from your present guy. If the girl wants to go "hang out" with the ex....is there a reason that her present guy can't hang out with them? If there is nothing going on with the ex, then there is nothing to hide from the present guy.
If the girl insists on "hanging out" with the ex by herself, then she should have no problem if her present guy wanted to "hang out" with 1 of his ex's....unless she is a hypocrit full of double standards, which I hate.

 

I never said anything about me wanting to hang out with my ex, it was him who was hanging out for drinks with his ex....

 

I know how it feels to sit up all night, worrying and getting angry, while your partner is out on the razz without you. It drives you bloody crazy, but most often it's just paranoia getting to you, I think.

If this guy is smart, he'll stay true to you, Retro. If he doesn't stay true, then he wasn't even aware of how good he had it with you, and isn't even worthy of dating you, and you needn't worry about his sorry ass, anymore.

Everything will work out. Don't worry too much.

 

Aww Thanks Inbloom!

Thanks everyone infact! You all really got me through, got me thinking too, more rationally.

So are you coming down under with Lucy???

 

Nope.

 

Awww, why? That bites, more than any drop bear ever could

 

Retro - in that case, I refer you to my original post on the subject in which I say if he's MALE he is to stay away from ex's or be dumped.