Is the religious persuasion of your partner(hypothetical or real) important?

sure.

 

As long as they don't have one, I don't mind.


Actually...I would have married a Jew, if that option had come up.

 

I thought Pavel was a bit young for you.

 

This. Christian, Muslim, Hindu, whatever.. if you're bowing to make-believe unicorns and magical elves you're off the list.

 

The problem with some religious people is that they're adamant their way is right, and other people's is bullshit.

Whereas I know for a fact that my God has only one true prophet.
A gerbil.
Called Gary.

(His Holiness Gary, as his correct title..)

 

I am a very spiritual person, so they would have to have some kind of beliefs. I have a problem with religious institutions, so someone who is one of those "my god is the only god and all others be damned" type people would not work for me. I believe in bits of all religions. I need someone similar to me. Also, they have to have an open mind and be willing to admit that they may not have all the answers yet.

 

A long affair with a Jehovahs witness ended last year. I am an atheist. It split us in the end as she could not take the thought of being disfellowshipped and shunned by her family and friends. Who needs enemies when God rules?

 

I've heard of this happening more times than not. Growing up I remember being told never to date someone that wasn't a christian (I was raised Baptist). When people are strongly based in their beliefs it becomes their life. It's very hard to be able to merge very different lives. It is possible for people with different beliefs to have successful relationships, but it's rare. I haven't ever seen it.

 

I became an ardent atheist directly from my lifetimes brushes with religion. It is a thoroughly discredited movement.

 

but, but unicorns are real!!

Honestly, I've experienced this more with atheists than people who believe in God. I'd rather marry a Hindu because that at least ensures they know hindi and doesn't give my aunt another reason to bitch at us. Plus, I want someone who knows something about India and *our* culture.

 

Yeah I mentioned in my other post the potential problem with Atheists.
Altho some atheists believe in an after-life.But the ones who were adamant life was meaningless and finite, that'd be pretty scary IMO.

I think I'd atleast want someone with a spiritual side and some sort of values.Which religion or "label" wouldn't matter so much, provided it ain't really, really wacko.

 

I don't mind them not having a spiritual side, it's when people say that ALL religion is completely and utterly wrong. When people are completely close minded to any sort of idea. Well it's just as bad as a close minded theist, imo.

 

He's legal...

Actually I like the traditional sense of family and men with big noses.

 

And I like jew gold !

 

I won't be marrying you any time soon then.


I wouldn't mind the religions that actually allow you to marry in to.
Most seem to want to convert you...which sucks.
The ones that do "let you in" with out conversion are????
I don't know I would be interested to know.

Of all the religions: I'd probably like to marry a nice Jewish girl.
But I'm not altering my religous status for anybody...which is none.

It wouldn't be the faith that split us, imo.
It would be how they practised their religion.
Fanatical! Get lost.

 

Let you in? What are you talking about? Let you in to where?! No one's going to chuck you out of a temple for being atheist if that's what you mean.

I said I didn't mind atheists as long as people are open minded. It's like me saying atheists are most definitely wrong and my religion is most definitely right. It's closeminded and a stupid view to take.

 

I meant, some faiths won't let you marry somebody with out first converting to that religion.
I know Catholics/Jews/Muslims won't "let you in" with out converting.
Does that make more sense?

I DO think ALL religion is BS. So take from that what you will.
I don't personally think it makes me close-minded...
I'd respect you for practising your faith...but don't expect any deep and meanigful conversations about religion, because I've been there...and left running for my dear life.
If your faith - theoretically speaking - wants me to convert: forgetaboutit.

 

The weakest thing about "religion" in my view is the word itself.

You religiously follow an exercise plan, a business plan, a diet.
But sometimes just following something without question is counter-productive.

Wouldn't the phrase values, beliefs and customs of Christianity or whatever be a better descripion?

All this "follow without question the Elders" isn't always right.
There's vast differences between different divisions in one religion, today and throughout history.

To me, a "religion" is a guide for a journey, with the terrain being the era it is operating in.

It doesn't always make sense to "religiously" follow a guidebook, if the obstacles are changing since it was first written.

But... everything's relative.

 

I wrote out a long response to this analyzing the different relationships I have been in and the religious preferences of all of the above, but ultimately came to the decision that it used to not matter, and you know if I ever dated again, it might not matter, but it's such a nice thing to be with someone who has close to the same set of beliefs as you. I've dated two Christians, one satanist, one confused Catholic, an evolutionist, and a guy who finally settled with Hare Krishna, I think...I don't know for sure, we don't talk much these days, and it very well could change in the blink of an eye anyway. And Daniel is just spiritual, as am I. We don't believe in following a set religion, we rarely talk about it, just because it's a personal thing and we respect each other's spiritual space...boy that was hippy dippy, lol.

 

What if your partner was?