Is this cheating?

Your fellow sounds like a serious prick. Every guy I have ever had, has been that way too. When you mix "free love" (which to them has meant "free sex") in with it, the whole thing falls further ... they get to fuck around and you don't even have the license to FEEL bad!

But as far as the physical phenomenon: I have had that too. That explains the ex I recently considered re-hooking with. Even though he is an ass ... hey, what the hell? You just have to weigh the good and the bad -- and in my case as well as apparently yours, the bad was heavier.

Go find his brother and FUCK him.

 

Maybe you are just attracted to assholes. I strongly suspect that some women are. Some of my male friends only date nasty bitches, so I guess it goes for both genders.