Is this wrong?

Shit Homie!

After reading more about what you say about her she sounds total biatch and just using you like a slave. You sound like you treat her very well.

I'm talking sex issues aside even, just seems like a complete one sided relationship on everything.

Forget counseling and move on.

 

It`s the old bait and switch. Rule #1 in any prostitute`s rule book.

If I were you, I`d pay the alimony with a smile on my face. Knowing I`ve learned my lesson!

 

I thought it over and decided to wait a few more months, til the end of summer. If things get better, they get better. If not, then I'll somehow have to tell her it's over. That'll be the hard part for me, I'm not good at confrontation.

 

I like to think I tried that also, as a experiment/curiosity I bought the KY Intense lube. Instructions are to put a moderate amount on the clit, rub in, wait 5 mins. She put the tiniest drop on her finger and rubbed it in rendering it useless and a waste of money (that stuff isnt cheap).

If I said lets go to the mall, she get excited.

The communication is semi alright, there's no problem on her side asking for something (money, car needs fixed, get a movie to watch). Everyday I ask her how was work and she ask me the same, we talk some more, watch TV and then we go to sleep.

 

I generally think ultimatums are pointless, but in this case maybe you should try that. Let her know now that if she doesn't make more of an effort to talk to you, to tell you whats wrong, and to put more effort into fixing your sex life and your emotional life so its not all so one-sided, that you're through with everything by the end of the summer.

 

I have a saying, "I feel like I'm talking to my balls". That's how I feel when I talk to her. I make moves all the time, they're small but subtle. I try random body massages, kisses and sometimes groping. I swear the only time it's offered is when I have 5 minutes left to go to work.

She says to wait for her to make the move, been told that a couple of times but nothing every happens.

 

Hold out a bit longer! Distract yourself with a hobby/gardening/fitness anything that isnt sexual-when she comes to you don't jump on her or ram your tongue down her throat be cool...

I would suggest stop watching porn and stop being so egar when it comes to getting laid, show her you can think of other things besides sex! Even stop replying to her sex texts.

Regarding the house chores if your at home all day then sure do it, if you are both working then tell her you want some time out to pursue other leisure activities...

You need her to come to you, failing that I would say her fire for you is out and she just using you until something better appears sorry but that is how it looks to an outsider.
Good luck and be happy
:2thumbsup:

 

I been waiting years for her to comes to me, when I said we had that talk before. The only thing for sure that I know works is if I reject sex with her. She loses her mind, but it's contradicting to what I'm trying to accomplish.

An idea of her come on to me, is her laying in the bed saying here you go or her pulling her just bending over sayin here. There's no seduction or romance.

 

WHAT A BITCH. THAT IS ALL. A woman must be pampered and mind read. I think you should throw a tantrum too. Let's both act like children.

 

Yes. Or just find someone else to have sex with, lol - sounds like you have a higher sex drive than her, or something.

 

It kinda sounds likes she's getting her sex somewhere else :\

You know honestly I'd not put up with this shit.

 

Thats why I been thinking. I often thought bout calling cheaters.

 

^ This. It's called a mistake.

 

do like real man do, and get a mistress

 

uhhhhh...no

real mean gets mistress, ok

 

soooo...she now tells me that she wants to do wifely duties and those are what'll make her want to have sex with me. Here's the fun part, she doesnt want to do them, except cooking, but doesnt want to wash dishes at all. Even after I cook.

 

have you considered tying her up and having your way with her?

 

I don't think this is true at all... I personally love it! And I know a lot of girls that do too!!!!! I actually don't know anybody that doesnt... And on these forums and I haven't seen many at all!

 

Seriously, how the hell is you doing the dishes actually going to get her horny? Dont fall for that shit, she's just trying to train you

Or put your foot down and tell her she's got to do the dishes now and in lingerie and if everythings not spotlessly clean she's going to get a firm spanking

 

I realized that she wants me to do basically everything and when she wants to do something she'll do it, which is ever so often. We just talked about our future and she wants to be a housewife with no kids for awhile. I told her that if she gets that, then I want the kind of sex i want. She said she's not a prostitute, smh.

I dont think I'll ever get the kind of sex I want.

I have no idea how many times I've asked her to cook, "clean", something in lingerie. NO DAMN LUCK!