Kids these days (smh)

No I don't have kids, but I would make a great father. I am terrific with kids.

 

I guess the clincher would be, if I just didn't like the name like there's a lot of names I am like, eww. Lol. So if it's ugly then I get that, but if it's just for the sake of it.. Probably not. Eh, fuck I don't really care. I care about my name though.

 

Oh ok. I don't know my real parents either, hopefully I will some day. I'm proud to carry on the name that was given to me, as I have much to be thankful for, looking back.

 

That is a good strategy, if that's what he's doing. And yes, I would assume for it to be legal, parents would have to be involved because she is a minor. I just couldn't see going that far with it before I lost my mind. I guess the thing that bothers me the most, and sometimes I go through this with MY family, is, why doesn't his wife squash this shit?
I often find myself frustrated when my wife doesn't have my back. When I provide structure for our daughter, she
liberates her behind my back if I'm not around. He's going through the same thing, but worse.

 

It depends on their reasons if it is rebellious then NO, but if there was a reason then it would be to be dealt with differently

 

What could be a good reason, other than being rebellious?

 

Not under my roof.

Teenagers are so dramatic.

 

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Something serious would but that's just a trifle. Picasso obviously a boy changed his patrilinear name "Ruiz" to his Mother's name and no one bats an eyelid. It would be no problem unless the Father were to make an issue of it. Most problems are not really issues it's just people making a fuss about nothing because their pride is hurt or they can't accept being wrong or something. Of course I don't know shit this is just my gut feeling and moral perspective.

 

I've thought about changing my last name to my mother's maiden... But not as a kid and not for kid reasons.

No fucking way my parents would've listened to that shit.

 

But kids have no business running over or undermining an adult. That's how is see all this, and just couldn't be able to tolerate.

 

I would have a problem with my teenage daughter wanting to change her last name.
That's disrespectful and hurtful to the father.
And I don't know what horrible things he'd have to do to deserve that...?

 

That's probably the reason she says she wants to do it. :/

 

I changed my name to make my middle name my last name. Dropped my mother's name. I was an adult when I did it but the feeling my full given name wasn't ME was there a lot longer. She didn't mind. When I was three I went through a phase of making everyone call me Mary. I don't really agree with the fact they went along with that.

 

Well that depends on who you ask, I've heard people wanting to change to their mothers name due to the fact their father left.

 

Now that one I can agree to.

 

well sometimes they do. just not in this case, unless there's information we don't know.

adults can be wrong though; sometimes they need to be undermined.

 

Agreed, if they are in fact "wrong"

 

I have two girls, my eldest has already gone through the process of a (married) name change, I'm not too sure if the other one would change it, although as she's 30 now, it would be her choice but I'd expect she would.
although what's in a name? Pseudonyms are used in various professions of the entertainment business, writing or even to retain a business status where one's name can carry a lot.
The theme here is somewhat different with a choice being made for different reasons. "Like, cos I feel like it" does not on its' own seem right, but 'behind closed doors' who knows what are the underlying reasons -bad/lax parenting good/free parenting?
In the end, I 'm of the opinion it's more to do with the contents of, than the label on, the tin.

 

dude is just asking for another 10 years of drama....hell, wouldnt want to actually show support to ones own child for taking that brave step into adult decision making..throw a child out for wanting her moms maiden name?...that is also ''acting out'' except in an embarrassing adult way lol

that is how children learn...by making their own choices and finding out the results in real life and in real time....it is a tiny thing and will change zero in anyones life

 

not your place to assume anything in someone else's home....unless you see a need to protect a kid from some kind of in family danger you should stay out of it

and I can see how you would be stubborn like that....but you have already admitted that your wife undermines you with your own daughter....does that not make you at least a little bit suspect of your own process?


this is how kids become homeless drug addicted whores....they get tossed on the street by parents who say it is out of love? lol