Kind of an Awkward Situation. I'm weird. Your thoughts, please?

hmm well...I see what you're saying. But I also think it's clear that she's interested in me but considering i'm two grades above her and seems a bit shy that it's not likely she'd be able to pull that off. I know I could never pull stuff like that off.....

I really want to explain that to her....that seriously....out of all the girls that I've been attracted to and thought I could get along with there was only her that I was ever ever able to work the courage up to talk to. And I'm not quite sure why.

 

She probably just turned red because you caught her sneaking a peek at you. She may have been eagle-eying you for a while.

I'm sure your exaggeration didn't scare her (unless it was really dorky)... she already knows you have bold energy because you accosted -- I'm sorry -- approached her to demand her name.

 

just chill out man. Dont think of the little things too much cause its the little things that screw with you....clearly you want to have something to do with this girl cause you are stressing over small things, so just get back to your normal route from class to class. Then strike up a convo one day when its not awkward. Remain calm, crack a joke, look her in the eyes and smile

 

Well today was the day I finally talked to her again. Basically I think any kind of human relationship is out of the question between us. First let me just overview the encounter. Just as she was leaving her locker I went up to her real nice and said "Hi. I believe I owe you an apology for calling you cold." She didn't look thrilled at all to see me...almost as standoffish as the very first time, there were no smiles at all. She said "Well that was a long time ago." In a tone and manner I felt was like "leave me alone". I said "I know. but it's something I felt really bad about." Then she went on to admit that she wasn't very nice to me either. I told her that her reaction was actually normal and that I approached her too strongly. She didn't have anything to say about that. But I went on to explain to her that she was the only person I've ever approached in my entire life and that she'd maybe like to know that. Like a fool though the last thing I said was "I understand if you don't want to talk to me, but all I wanted to do was apologize." Then we parted ways and I told her to have a nice day.

At very first I felt relieved to have gotten the apology off my chest but slowly throughout the day I got more and more upset about it because she had nothing to say at all after she made it obvious for a long time that she was interested in me. It sucks that she couldn't express those feelings because I was being completely open with her. I suppose I am just a little confused why she either refused to open up or had such a radical change in heart. Especially when the previous friday she randomly appeared alone just waiting around a place where she's seen me hang out with my friends.

Ofcourse there was a lot more I could have said that would have made it much easier for her to open up. I could have even asked her to be honest and share with me how she feels. If she wants to open up I really doubt she will approach me because I've learned she must be very antisocial (unfortunately a lot like me). Most definitely I will not approach her again because it was obvious me coming up to her at all bothers her.

So this is something I'm just gonna have to get over. Sucks for her if she does have feelings for me though. That's unfortunate. But even right now I'm feeling really good. I'm really happy that I was actually able to apologize. I can start being happy that the school year is coming to an end. I guess things just don't work out like you wanted them to but life goes on.

The end.

 

you know what it is, you think down on yourself. you think down on your self and constantly doubt your own actions. you seem to second guess yourself a lot and place too much worry in what other peoples reactions to your actions will be. you've never approached any other girl before? in your life? dont be affraid of rejection, because your only rejecting your feelings like that. you need a confidence booster and some self esteem. you can pull anything off if you want. thinking that you wont be able to do something only reinforces your self doubt.

 

Listen to me, and if you don't your an idiot. The guy above me is dead-on as well and you need to heed his advice, it's a classic thing that many people come to realize after highschool, why not get a head start and learn this now?

Anyway...

She smiled at you. After you guy's crazy introduction, that means she LIKES YOU. You even saw her hanging out alone somewhere where you hang out.


Next time you see her, walk up to her and say hi. But DO NOT start off with any sort of apology or "clearing the way" between us, save that for another conversation or at least just don't bring it up right away. Don't bare your soul to her right away either about how you feel or be so heavy hearted towards her, the truth is that girls are generally repelled by the idea of a guy having huge feelings for her before they met or early on. It's nature.

But you saying that she had a great vibe was a great thing to say, and it was obviously sincere as well, that's the type of thing you wanna go for, know what I mean?


But next time you see her, approach her again and move towards a friendship. Not the next time it feels right, or the time 7 times after next time... NEXT TIME. Just remember to keep it friendly and lighthearted, and don't even mention an apology right away, you want to appear confident. nature... Just approach her...even if she doesn't smile at you remember: CONFIDENCE...girls are funny...they play these kinds of games. Just approach her, and say hi, and ask her how she is doing. Be lighthearted, MAKE EYE CONTACT AND SMILE.

Don't expect a girl to take the initiative...the lions and chimps on discovery channel who mate are the ones who take initiative and it's no different with humans.

I went through this same shit you did when I was in highschool a few years ago and kick myself now. Even though that's not that long ago what it means is that my high school experience was similar to yours as far as the types of people we went to school with, so listen to what I'm saying.

 

Okay. At this point though I'm damn sure she wants nothing to do with me. She hasn't been where I used to see her regularly after I went back up to her. I most likely have just let this go on too long and that is the simple nail in the coffin. I've let this go on too long for myself aswell. I'm way too emotional to keep thinking about some girl I had a silly crush on. If she does want something to do with me I'm sure she'd be where she usually goes and would talk to me for once because it was a pretty polite conversation and nothing to keep someone away. I don't want to keep bothering her. It was rude to some quiet girl like that for me to strongly inject myself into her life.

 

Right. I can't believe he backed down after calling her cold and APOLOGIZED!

What a WEAK move. I'm disappointed.

 

Right! She liked him. No apology was needed. And he waited way too long to follow up on her smile.

I'm not sure how this can be redeemed at this point.

 

Eh...now, I may not know how girls think...seeing as I am one and all, but really, it didn't seem like she liked you in the first place. Good for you for moving on. She still sounds like a bitch.

 

Jesus Thanks. That was motivating....

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You're right...it is a weak move. I am also disappointed...probably more than you.....just maybe. But the whole thing was making me feel weak all around. I need to start fresh.

 

Well, good luck.

 

The fact that she showed up alone where I usually hang out demonstrates that I could have "won" her though. There were things her and I both could have said to open things up. Neither of us knew exactly what they were. Obviously I put more effort in to finding those things so maybe she was sort of lame. I still think she's probably extremely unique however quiet she may be.

It does entertain my heart. It was very interesting. I am, after all, a gemini.

 

Kinda sounds like a bitch...

 

Sorry, but sugarcoating it and making it sound like you have a chance when it just doesn't seem that way to me would be insanely unfair and setting you up for more disappointment than you already have been dealing with. Rejection blows ass, but repetitive rejection hurts way worse. Just accept it and move on, you'll find someone worth your time and effort.

 

Ah nah, that was intended to Synful who was dissapointed in me.

 

Actually it wasn't really a fantasy. It's called wanting to get to know someone who appeared mysterious and unique to me. Call it a fantasy. Whatever. It made it even more interesting (and sound like a fantasy when I talked about it) when she made it hard for me to befriend her. Well actually....I made it hard through terrible social skills. But anyways.....

The REASON I brought the story here was because it wasn't quite something I wanted to bring up with anyone in my personal life. I guess I just wasn't comfortable with that. I was keeping it all to myself for quite awhile but I was a member here and knew this was a very open place with A LOT of open people willing to talk with you about life. I wanted some opinions. Sounds basic to me.

 

Whether she liked you or not, it sounds like she has problems. That said, I think I had those very same problems when I was her age. It was so bad that even though I wanted to socialize, I didn't and even strongly avoided it. So that may be what she was doing.

Not everyone who comes across as shy is a bitch even though it may seem that way.

Sorry it didn't work out.

 

I'm pretty sure there was nothing more he could do. He tried. She blew him off. Whether she meant to or not is another story.

Don't be so macho about it.