Ladies: How do you feel when men call you "honey"

Not really.

For some, the feeling is similar to hearing the "N" word used.

Also, the use of these terms should be reserved for people who are familiar with each other and accepting of them; also, similar to the use of the "N" word.

What it is time for is for people to give each other the respect each person is due and to stop gouging at their souls with these condescending terms. It's time for people to stop oppressing others and to stop telling them that their desire to be shown respect is bullshit.

It doesn't get any more simple than that. Wake the fuck up.

 

Just don't call me "Late To Dinner"!

 

I've heard that one before. It's cute.

 

Cliche is more like it.

 

I have, many times. It gets mixed results.

I can't understand why you automatically see pleasant names being referenced to pleasant women as so damn......unpleasant.

Sweet= good thing
Heart= good thing

Sweetheart = disrespect?????

Honey. Who doesn't like honey? Sure it's sticky stuff, and you have to risk nasty stings in order to harvest it. But have you tasted local 100% pure honey?? That shit is delicious!!!!

This thread reminds me of a woman by the name of Rhonda. She is a 300+ pound black woman who asked me for a light outside of a comedy club. I went in to light the ciggerrete that was hanging from her lips. Rhonda slapped the lighter from my hand, and began to shout obscenities.

"What you think that cuz I'm a black woman I can't light my own damn ciggerrete!?!?!?!? You gotta be the big strong white man up in here?!?!? Can't trust a nigga to hold yo lighta?????!!!!!!"

That bitch through my zippo off a balcony, because I was being a fucking gentlemen. That woman is a byproduct of feminism, and the end of chivalry in today's society.

\Rant

 

guys don't say "honey," they say "bro" or "dude" or "buddy."

women call strange men those things all the time, so really men calling strange women those things is giving women the exact same respect that a man is given.

are you really comparing "honey" to "******?"

 

lol

Oh wow.

 

I call people darling in a southern drawl because I like the way it sounds.

 

Quoted for emphasis

 

Speaking of words: they are just words. When I learned that words could only affect me by giving them power to do so, I stopped giving those words power by not caring about what people called me.

 

I called you a bad theoretical philosopher and logicialist (or something likewise) and you gave me bad rep for it.

Enough said.

 

We're not haters just because some men think we owe them some kind validation.

Most people don't use terms of endearment to complete strangers. Usually the ones that do are much older. The ones near my age are creepy.

The one I hate the most is kiddo. A guy I went to high school with still calls me that and it is degrading.

 

No, I gave you a negative rep because you deserved it. :sunny:

 

There are no oppressed words, only oppressed minds.

- Bob Dylan

 

No. What I said (exactly) is that for some, the feeling is similar.


What some people still don't understand is that we don't get to decide what level of discomfort we can impose on others.

We can't say "I think it's okay and you just have to accept my attitude and treatment of you".

Those terms of endearment become condescending and demeaning when used outside of personal relationships.

I know you all "get" this. You aren't stupid. Stop acting hard-headed about this because it's really beneath most of you.

 

Nobody deserves a negative rep. That is such an egocentral mindset.

 

Anyone at any given time in his life deserves to have something negative happen to him.

 

Why?

 

Because.

 

What's with this new generation of Hipforumers