I think that this was NOT her fault that this guy came onto her. But she did put herself in a bad situation. I feel bad this guy acted like a jerk, but at a rave when there's so many drugs going around you need to protect yourself. It's quite simple.
But still I can't count the number of times chicks I don't know have taken a walk with me... If I wanted to rape them, there'd be nothing to do about it...
it's one thig to take a walk it's quite another to take a walk with a stranger out in the woods all fucked up on drugs and while he's fucked up too.
I'm a stranger, I'm high, she's high and I'm not just talking about a walk around the building... I'm talking about a walk, like a long walk just like she did
My point is that lots of chicks walks with strangers and normally nothing happens... Just because he talks to you, and walks with you doesn't mean he wants to rape you, ofcourse it's allways good to be prepared (with some sort of weapon like mace), but still I've taken walks with chicks where we suddenly stopped and none of us really knew where we were or how to get back, so even that he takes her to a forrest isn't a clear sign that he want to rape her (if he even wanted to, maybe he was just beeing eager), it should ring an alarm bell tho but bells work slower when you're drugged...
So you shouldn't be taking risks while you're so fucked up on drugs. Plain and simple. Taking long walks with strangers in the dark isn't asking to be raped or anything. i'm sure lots of girls have succeeded in that. But there's always a chance and that chance is greater when you are fucked up.
The ways to avoid situations like this this are one thing, but the fact remains that that guy didn't take no for an answer and tried to force himself on her. THAT is why I said if you see him again, call the cops and say that he tried to harm you. Otherwise he will just do it again and a girl may be hurt. The fact that she was fucked up would not or should not stop her from calling the cops.
I don't want to argue with you... It was my final comment anyways I think the same as you do, so nothing to argue about... I just wanted to make that point.
Oh I see now, very clear! You might, at least, try and keep your story straight huh? You want to know what I see? I see someone who made many bad decisions that night who will continue to make bad decisions over and over again because they won't admit their own mistakes. You would rather believe you did nothing wrong and it was all your friends fault for leaving you, the drugs fault for making you impaired and the guys fault for taking you away from the party and putting you in a bad situation. Bravo for being the typical teen.. "NOT MY FAULT".
O WOW.. Your just not getting it.. I didnt place blame against anyone but my self... I really feel bad about this whole thing.. Whatever I'm done with this thread..
that's awesome--15 years eh? shotokan is the shit, i am so happy i'm being trained under the "best" style. flash is nothing, power is everything. sensei stresses the basics and then the basics again.... and again. he's seen the flashier styles and the taekwondo black belts and they punch like beginning shotokan disciples..... this is coming from one of the best in the world though; i'm sure you've heard of Fusaro? Robert Fusaro is 66 years old and 7th degree, disciple of Nishiyama (spelling?), 85 years old, who i believe is one of the most respected in all of Japan. Robert's son, Michael Fusaro, is my sensei and he is only 45 years old and apparently ranked 5th in the world tournament. this guy is crazy--first day of class a couple years ago and i was instantly inspired. now i'll NEVER quit. i'm so lucky i happen to be studying where these guys live (minnesota).... interestingly, michael's father Robert can kick his ass and the 85-year-old from japan can kick all their asses.... it's funny how that works. anyway, i'm still a "beginner," so to speak, but i'm slowly making my way to my black belt, which will be an immense honor and then a whole new set of doors will be open. currently i'm 5th kyu, so technically i'm half way there, but the browns will be a long haul, i know. regardless, i am convinced--i know--i could do some serious damage; but i can't wait until i can triple my mass.... and yeah, karate people don't ever fight unless they absolutely must; i'm glad you walked out of that bar--you would have EASILY killed him. i've heard stories of drunks taking swings at black belts not having a clue of what could potentially happen..... that's why it is our responsibility to avoid the situation in the first place. peace.
I don't get a sport where every punch and kick is taught to be lethal, I could if I wanted to kill with most of the stuff I know because of the sheer power I am taght to administer and the places I am taught to kick and punch, but I am taught to neutralize instead of killing... Because face it, killing will get you to jail, neutralizeing will get him off your back... The beauty of kung fu (as I am taught, kung fu is many things) is that you can use you own strength as a way of wasteing him totally, or just use his own weight, height and force to throw him around and knock him out of balance (wich is quite fun )... But it's the same with every single one of the deadly arts, if you don't train every day atleast a few hours it is worth jack shit in a fight...
This is true of the philosophy behind Shotokan, no doubt, and in that sense it is less practical than other forms like JuJutsu for example, or, as you mention, Kung Fu. The idea, though, is that a fight is all or nothing, sort of a fight to the death. If you're in a situation in which violent behavior is the only option, it's serious, and you gotta finish the job quickly and effectively. I have never been in a fight since I started training, but if someone tries to attack me, they're goin' down. And you're right, you gotta train often for it to be effective. Another point about Shotokan, though, is control, we are taught to adjust the depth of penetration of any blow, so I could hit someone with full force and barely tap them, or I could take them out. This is key in sparring, 'cause we don't use pads, we just adjust our depth of penetration so as not to hurt the opponent. There are lots of forms of martial arts out there. I trained Judo for a few years when I was a lot younger, then I took up Karate in College, 'been at it ever since. I've considered dabbling in other styles, but what I've found is higher level martial artists have similar body dynamics, and I don't wanna water down my training and be distracted with other styles at this point. Every so often we have a Ju Jutsu class from a guest instructer who teaches within the same facility as us, and every time we do, I find I do pretty damned well at the techniques and throws because I've developed the low stances, the hip motion, and the posture necessary to execute these techniques, it's just a different application of the same body dynamics I've been doing for years. I'll bet Kung Fu is an awesome discipline, and I would imagine you gain a great deal of physical, mental, and spiritual power from it.
It's like a mixture of a greatly usefull fighting skill, aerobics, yoga and some zen shit allmost I love the whole dicipline of the sport tho, I don't use pads either s you mentioned I fight my sensai only, since I couldn't fit the time of any class I got meself a private trainer, and he can take pretty much anything I can put up, alltho I get a fair beating once in a while I also love that you train to fight with mostly any weapon at hand... I think your sport sounds good with the ajustment of power thing, it's not that I don't like the fight to the death thing, and some people even tries to kill you, but killing a man carries to great of a punishment I like to if it's one on one, just let him hit and kick in the air, maybe push him around a bit untill he tires out I just think that any martial art is great because of the awesome dicipline that is no where else to be found, no matter what people say and think, the diciplinary factor in martial arts is found nowhere else.