Let's be honest here: chicks who don't sleep with you the first night

I wish I could but I honestly don't think I have the strength. I'm faltering as it is. It's like, I'm only cute enough for dating, but not for the full pornographic treatment.

Fuck that noise, jack.

 

Perhaps you just need to help things along? Drugs and alcohol tend to help people forget about their silly rules

 

Yes, roofies and duct tape. I always knew I was playing too nice.

 

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When I was a young girl and even now I never swooned over celebrities. I have never just jumped into bed when guys make passes at me. I am very picky and it isn't looks that attract me although they do have to smell good. I have had my share of pretty boys in my youth but usually had more fun with the more comical theatrical fellows. One guy tried to pick me up at a party. I told him I did not have sex with strangers. He wrote me a series of 30 page love letters to win me over, that winter and eventually I got with him for 3 years. That was before I had children and did belly dance for 10 years. Before I got fat and old. Still last year a guy tried very hard to get with me and I rejected him. He was to young for me.

It is not just women who choose to wait. I know men who do not just jump in bed on the first date.

I have never seen a male ego get crushed when rejected on the first date. I have seen them rise up to the challenge and make an effort to win a woman's attraction.

For guys who just want one night stands and just sex there are plenty of ladies who are the same way but all of you miss out on the alchemy of sex. To you sex is just a drug and nothing else.

 

Is that an actual fact or what you want to see? Well, for everything there's a first time. I hope this thread hasn't been too traumatic for you.

Now you can't say you have never seen it anymore.

See, that disgusts me. I'm sorry. I can't get it up after being rejected for 3 years. I can't help to feel sorry for the guy, and I can't help but to think that you can't be any good in bed. Being good in bed requires practice and a variety of partners.

I can't think of anything less romantic, contrived, and ego crushing than sucking up to a woman and putting her pussy on a pedestal without getting anything in return.

You obviously think of sex as a favor you bestow on men, I think of it as an even exchange. Which is why I must be wired to be gay.

Quite the contrary, sex is a drug to you women who have to use sex as a means to get an ego rush every time.

I don't think of sex as heroin, I think of sex as fruit. It's healthy, it's good for you, and if it's available I'm going to eat it. Why not??? I'm not going to die if I don't have fruit, but I am going to lead a significantly less healthy life without it.

 

Cherea, there is another option. Maybe the woman who said that only said it for you to think of her as 'respectable' and win you over or something.

Especially if you say that other women told you they wouldn't sleep with you on the night they actually did, maybe they just say that for you to think they don't normally do that, and not think of them as 'sluts'.

 

Thank you for that.

That definitely makes me feel better about myself than the idea that I'm supposed to chase a pussy made of gold indefinitely, because women are so much more worthy than me. They are the prize, I'm just some guy who competes against half of humanity.

I still don't buy it, though. And the reason is, women obviously don't have that same concern with other guys. Other guys get one night stands, I don't.

It's a pattern. Ï'm trying to figure out what's happening.
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Note to suckers: I'm not looking for pick up advice. I know them all back to front.

 

I don't think either sex ever states what's on their mind. Cherea has a problem with women not jumping into bed on the first date. He doesn't want multiple dates because then the woman starts thinkingthey're getting into relationship territory. I wonder how many times he's been completely upfront and stated on the first date that he only wanted sex?

I've never had a guy say this to me. Ever. I'm sure I've dated plenty of guys that Just wanted sex but they seem to think buying me and spending money on dates is a better way to go about it. I think being upfront about their intentions from the beginning is a better way to go about it.

 

Cherea I can see why women reject you. You're a sad puppy. You are rejected probably because of your attitude and it is transparent that you hate women and just want to have sex with them.

If I was bad in bed men would have dumped me. I have never been dumped. My parents were wife swappers and I grew up in a non monogamous environment. Their sex lives nearly got me killed when a jealous woman tried to drown me because my mom was sleeping with the guy she was in love with. So yeah, i grew up to be picky because some of the idiots my parents slept with were pretty disgusting. There is nothing wrong with being careful. I have lived a life with never contacting an STD. That is something I am pleased with.

 

This deserves another post.

If indeed their intention is to appear respectable to me (a hypothesis I don't buy), they've failed miserably. I can respect a woman who has sex with whomever she wants, whenever she wants to. What I cannot respect is someone who's unable to make up their mind on their own, and is constantly flip flops.

But, again. I don't think that's what it is. I think there's just something women pick up on about me...it's too easy to say that it's just my height. I think it's something more primal, having to do with my bisexuality...that just makes me untouchable.

I'm like kryptonite to chicks. They hate me before they've even met me.

 

Fuck you very much. The doormats you lead on, would be happy to be in my situation.

 

Hey, I never said that it was a successful strategy, but some women may think it is because of the double standard. Some guys do think that girls who sleep with guys on the first date are sluts. Which I see you don't, but maybe they didn't know that lol.

 

They didn't dump you because they were worse than you. Make no mistake about it grandma, you'd have no chance with me even if you parted your pussy lips and curled you finger at me.

 

Only person that I didn't sleep with on the first date, ended up being my SO

 

Guys, there is nothing wrong with wanting only sex right now. Commitment can come later. We all go through different stages.

 

Once I get a divorce, I hope to date a man/men repeatedly, sleep with him/them repeatedly, and NOT have a relationship. It would be great to have that freedom, and have a lot of fun, instead of being bound to one again.

 

There's nothing wrong with that at all.

There's nothing wrong with a woman, or man, who wants to get to know someone first too. There seems to be the assumption here that women that don't sleep with someone on the first date are either playing games or not attracted.

Maybe it's just that some women think swapping bodily fluids with a stranger is gross.

 

Um, no.

 

I had a buddy like that in my mid twenties. It was a nice arrangement until he got it in his head that he was in love with me. I am still friends with the guy and he has not had a lover since the year I quit sleeping with him. Which was 27 years ago. So misunderstandings can happen after a while. Just make sure you are absolutely clear with the guy. I thought I was clear with my friend and ended up hurting him bad.