lets talk about....

he's getting there just have to nudge him a little you know? I don't want him to change who he is but instead I want him to learn and become a better person. I don't give up on people unless I can tell that there's no getting through he has improved over the past month. I mean we haven't been apart a day for almost a year it will be a year this friday which he has promised to spend the whole day with me without any of his little buddies coming over and no video games but at the same time I can't get online or text all day.

 

will that be the 1st time he hasn

i understand what your saying..i do..but.. being strong meanes you gotta be willing to take care of yiu..
its not enougfh to say i diont like this or that with nothing to back it up ya gontta be willing to say you have to work on this or that or we arent going to work out
alotta conmtrolling guys just love that mantra "she aint goin nowhere" that allowes thenm to get asway with anything.. butthe second it changes tio shes going away if i dont get my shit together then they have the insentive to do what they goottado to keep and desserve you.

 

since we are talking about tats I figure I'll show mine off
right after it was done

and after it was healed

and the symbols mean:
top:beauty
left:life
bottom:serenity
right:love
and the lotus means beauty also
the chinese and the lotus is also a symbol of my heritage.
also the name of my cell phone is a lotus by lg.
just thought that was pretty funny I didn't realize it till after I got my tat

 

are you possitive about the chinese translations
lotus is also a spiritual synmbol, often used to repressent the chakras, envisioning each chakra as a lotus with differingnumbers of pedals and visualizing those lotuses opening over each chakra center onyoir body opens the flow of energy through each.

but what i was getting at about the chinese. many tat places have tat'ed chinese symbols on ppl claiming they had a certain meanning only for it to turn out they had radicly different meaningsone example was i think the girl wanted something like devine love andgot something like goat fornificator

other cases had simularly insulting ones.

im not sure if thats the cade in more reputable places but theree was 1 tat shop that had done that with pretty much all requests for chinese characters

i like it thiugh
just ya might wanna double check the translations just to be sure

 

I looked them up myself I wasn't going to trust anyone but myself to do translations because I didn't want to have anyone to blame but myself.
The tattoo really represents a side of me most people don't get to see too often.

 

good and im glad
and yea i see that side of ya
now ya gotta add a tree of life behind it, with the symbol of strength at its roots

 

nah I want this one to stay blank until I know I will love a colour for it
I plan on getting my moms dog tag tattooed on my right shoulder and my grandfathers name and a fish on my left shoulder

 

A man came up to me on the train today and asked me if I am truly happy, and for once I said without any doubt 'Yes I am'.

I wonder you long this will last.

What is it about me attracting random men on trains?

Peace
Akai-Chan

 

soubds like he was a hippy ty
i dunno if id say it was attracting as it was connecting, someone ya were meant to talk to for some reasson
happens to me now and then too, and if ya give it a chance for the converdsation to go on youd be surprised at where the covbersation might go
things lake that can be very enlightening..or very bizzare either way they get ya thinking

 

Sounds to me like a cult leader....

 

huh? how do u figure? ive dealt with cult leaders before..here on the forums in fact
that sounds nothing like a cult leader
the 1 ive dealt with the most here would say you cannot possibly be happy withiout mel, without me yoyr nothing but a demon fucking whore..

this sounds more like just a freindly, but slightly odd hippie genuinely interested in the happiness of others

 

SE, you should know that cult leaders don't start out being all controlling like that. They pick out young impressionable girls who are not happy with their lives. What better way to find out than to ask. You already knew all this though, didn't you guru

"Let us look for a moment at how some of this manifests in the cult leader. Cult leaders have an outstanding ability to charm and win over followers. They beguile and seduce. They enter a room and garner all the attention. They command the utmost respect and obedience. These are individuals whose narcissism is so extreme and grandiose that they exist in a kind of splendid isolation in which the creation of the grandiose self takes precedence over legal, moral or interpersonal commitments. Paranoia may be evident in simple or elaborate delusions of persecution. Highly suspicious, they may feel conspired against, spied upon or cheated, or maligned by a person, group, or governmental agency. Any real or suspected unfavorable reaction may be interpreted as a deliberate attack upon them or the group." :smilielol5:
-"Captive Hearts, Captive Minds" by Madeleine Landau

 

BTW, to those concerned. I hope you don't take that as a deliberate attack upon SE or your group... I'm just playin'

 

Wow, man, I'm totally lost, but anyway I didn't get piss tested today so life is good.

 

so every person that says ho how are you is a cult leader? asfter all they are asking how you are?

so ya never ask anyone if theyre happy?
or sad or hungry or anything?

i guess if your at all concerned about your fellow man (or woman) your automaticly a cult leader?
wtf man

you must come from a rather dark paranoid world my freind to assumre every person that showsthe slightest interest or concern or human emotion or desire for a connection is automaticly suspected to be out to control you?

im sorry when i ask someone how they are, i genyuinley want to know..if theyre happy id like to sghare in that maybe talk about how they became so happy, and if theyre not id like to know why not and maybe help them find a way to not be so sad
its called caring about people and some ppl are capable of caring bout others besides themselves..asnd some care about perfect strangers on trains about homeless ppl in the strets about random strangers they run into
and a simpl,e question like are you happy is away to connect, to make an emotional bond with someone who for one reasoin or another felt like someone you should know or at least reach out to.

happiness is something everyone desserves so wouldnt the world be better of we all asked eachiother are you happy now and then and tried to help eachother to become happy if we arent?

hell i love loove love it when random ppl ask me if im happy..it makes my day it meandss not evceryones all wrapped up within themselves afraid to care about random ppl on the street.

the suicide rate would be much much lower if that question was asked much more often dont ya think?



so..i'll ask you


are you happy?

 

wow, considering it was a joke im surprised at how defensive your getting. I really was just kidding, and I thought that was obvious but you've got me wondering now...

again regarding cult leaders

"Paranoia may be evident in simple or elaborate delusions of persecution. Highly suspicious, they may feel conspired against, spied upon or cheated, or maligned by a person, group, or governmental agency"

thinks that make you go hmmmm....

Anyways, I don't know about anyone else, but I would certainly find it a bit odd if a random stranger came up to me and asked if I was truly happy. Not paranoid, just think it would be strange and an uncomfortable situation.

And SE, thanks for asking if I'm happy. I really have never been better to be honest. How are you?

 

i have randonm strangers ask me simular things alot and it always makes me happy
and i wasnt being deffensive in the least just amazed at how assinine ya can be
your jokes aint funny
your throwing ariund random stupidity..why? i dunno start confrontstions?

whatever

hell some of my freinds here becamne freinds by asking simular questions like are you hsappy.. ..or the oposite why do u seem to not like yourself.. its how ppl make deeper copnnections with eachother by trying to get to know the other on levels deeper then idle chit chat

questions like do u like reggae arent going to cause a deep bond, maybe a slight sence of kinship but questions like have you ever felt like life is a great big joke and nobody gets the punchline or any more deep emotionaly charged wquestion will cause a deeper bondiong beyond the superficial..questions like do you believe ijn love..or like have you ever just met someone and instasntly felt like you knew them.. these are all questions as deep as are you happy and they create a deeper sence of knowing the other that goes beyond theyre fav=orite color
its called showing an interest inthe interests of others..in theyre feelings
maybe ya should try it instead of trying to trample on others feelings so you wont get hurt or exposed?
is that why ya strike oit?afraid someone might try to know yiu?

why are ya trying to start shit over something so dumb as a question like are you hasppy

hmmmmm

 

If a random stranger came up to me and asked "Do you believe in love?" I would immediately think "Drug addict or pyscho." Also I would never get on a bus, ask a person a very personal question in the hopes of forming some type of deep emotional bond with them. That to me is bizarre and irrational behavior. There's lots I could pick apart in your defense of people asking personal questions to strangers but I'm just gonna leave it there.

Also, since you didn't seem to get my post I'll elaborate. After googling "cult leader characteristics" I stumbled upon that description. I immediately thought of you as a "dreadlock forum cult leader" when I read that and thought the parallel was humorous. I was simply commenting on the fact that you seem to dominate this forum and go on the offensive when people suggest trying methods other than what you believe in. You also seem to be very paranoid about other people trying to make their locks look better by maintaining them.

I really don't know why this seems to be escalating any further or why I'm wasting my time explaining myself. All I can say is I was never trying to start shit and I think you need to just take a chill pill Soaring Eagle.

 

your very stranfge if you automaticly think the worse of people for asking you questions
you must have an aweeful lot to hide if such questions make you run in fear

and to go on the attack over something so silly as just a more elaborate how are you?

the average person when asked how are you responds fine no mstter what
at the time they are asked they can be in extreme emotional pain questioning theyre value as a person contemplating suicide or worse but they will always respond fine to how are you
cause most peiople when they ask how are you dint give a shot how they are, its just what they say to make small talk.

but how dare anyone everafctusaly care how ya are? actualy wasnt to know igf you really are happy dsaad or scared shitless to question wether your happy or not?

are you afraid someone might actualy discover the truth of how you are? how you think and feel? are you only confy with empty wotrdss like how are you fine how are you? im fine too?

and what if your not so fine
are you scared to let someone know?

theres something very very odd about you that youd reacte so negatively about someine simply wanting to actualy know if your truly ok or not..

you also have a very negative attutude about people, people who try to care to maybe think aloittle different from you
people who moight not want everyone to make the same mistakes you did..

but what really gets me..is how coldly you lable anyone who has feelings a freek a cult leader or drug addict psycho simply because they arent emptyu they dont go around mindlessly not caering just sasying how are you fine obver and over without ever even questioning...am i really fine?


now if i ask you again if your happy can you think asbout it 1st?

happy people dont lable everyone who gives a shit about em ass psycho

happy people welcome that question
miserable people fear it..if they have to look at theyre happiness or laxck of joy they see just how empty they are
but if they are happy they love yo say yup im tryuly truly happy
its a good thing to see yourself as happy
so uits a great thingto question as well

so

ARE YOU REALLY HAPPY? and if so, why do you act so scared to be asked such a simple question

 

yo dude it was a joke! calm down! if anything your taking it past a joke and being really hyper defensive...