Let's talk standards

they're all married with kids. i mean literally, every single one of them.

 

so MILF's then?

 

yeah, but taken milfs.

 

I think most men can only have sex with someone they're attracted to, same goes for women.

I think this belief that men have sex with anything is a myth that many people, both men and women believe. Men believe this in order to stand out amongst other man. They think most men are like this, but they're not because they have to have some sort of attachment, such as attraction, so they think they're special. Women believe this because women don't think men have any other deeper thought or feeling besides sex, as if sex is not deep enough. And they too think when they find a man who isn't solely concerned with sex, that means they're extra special. When in reality most men don't only concerned themselves with sex and think sex is just sex.

I think everyone knows of a person or two, maybe even three that have settled, just for the sake of having sex. And I think because of that one or three people, other people convince themselves of this belief. When it's just one or three people in the majority of people who don't do this. Also, despite the fact that their perception of someone else's actions is an example of settling and having sex with anything, that might not have been what actually occurred.

All in all, sex is not just sex for most people. It might be for that one person, but even then sex as we perceive it might be a totally different thing for someone else.

 

That, I don't completely understand.

I do understand that looks and personality come together to form an attraction or lack of. So, if someone is lacking in one element, for example looks, it can possibly be fulfilled with another element, for example personality. But, what I don't understand is how someone can think someone else is ugly, but form an attraction. I understand it as far as not being with your ideal attraction in terms of looks, and satisfying those missing parts with personality or other elements that contribute to attraction. But, to think someone is ugly and then because of their peraonality forming an attraction, that's where I don't understand. I would think there is no way to fulfill that with other elements of attraction because that is too much to fulfill. It's not that this person doesn't fit your attraction in terms of looks, where you can replace it with personality and other elements of attraction. It's that you think this person is ugly, not just unattractive. How can any kind of personality or other elements of attraction replace that?

 

Depends how shallow you are. =p
There was this blonde chickie last year that came up from Austria to work in a stable for a few months and I'm not into blondes and never have been and so I was not attracted to her at all. I got to know her well though and she was a cool girl and every day I wanted to get to know more of her. After a few weeks I was totally attracted to her personality, still not her looks, but her personality was quite exquisite and i had a crush on her.

I still didn't like her look but her personality swayed me into being attracted to her anyway and we formed a bond that lasted her entire stay.

It's all about your first impressions and impressions change. Like a shitty cd. There's lots of CDs I thought were terrible and I never want to listen again but now they're like my favourite cd. =p

 

I know a few people that I'm not automatically physically attracted to but their personalities definitely make them attractive to me. Looks aren't everything. I'm usually much more attracted to who they are verses what they look like. Looks fade. Their character is what lasts and that's the important part. So what Yggdrasil said makes perfect sense to me.

 

People usualy want things that are hard to get.
I wont sleep with woman at every possibility because there are golden rules.
Respect yourself,dont ask for anything,dont let women give you a favor.
Act confident,have standarts and finaly when to have sex is not only her decision but yours as well.

 

They're not gay you dumbass, thats the realm of married men.

Southern Highlands hey, you think there are a whole bunch of gays guys living down there waiting for the truckdrivers to finish their hamburgers then go into the mens room, its the guy that lives across the street, the guy in the local post office you talk to cos your kids play footy together, your dad....and evenually you if you keep thinking about it too much

 

Anyway, as for the topic

Personality is over rated, everyone has a shitty personality if pushed far enough

Emotional bonds are soooo ghey, and its really just code for a whole lot of gardammm talking

Dont respect yourself cos geing treated like a dirty little whore is what you really want anyway

Try base everything on physical appearance, cos if you know they are hotter than you, then its nowhere near as insulting if you get rejected. But if you score, if you cum too quick if you are a guy, or come off too desperate if you are a girl...then it doesnt matter anyway you were never going to hang on to them and you got your jollies - everybody wins

 

I didn't mean when you're not attractive to someone's looks. I meant when you find someone ugly. It's one thing to not find a blonde attractive because that's not in your ideals, but it's another thing to find someone ugly because of their appearance.

We all have these ideals of attraction that vary from person to person and we play this game of give and take between our ideals and what is the reality of our situation, but I think it's fair to say that no one wants or is attracted to an ugly person or what they consider to be ugly. Or at least that's my assumption, but it's not the first time I have heard someone say what was stated above and every time I hear it, I'm interested. Honestly so. I would like to understand.

 

Spoken like a true misogynistic, disgruntled, middle aged homosexual man who generally isn't that bright.

Wouldn't expect anything less (or more) from you VG.

 

It really bothers me how men negate their own humanity with comments like this. It's obviously not true, it's obviously a stereotype perpetrated by mainstream media, and yet so many everyday men repeat this stuff and I think they even brainwash themselves into believing they're not supposed to care when they do. That's a problem.

 

But... you guys.. I really have seen and known plenty of men who would sleep with anything. I mean sure I'm talking about guys who are usually at bars and drinking and have no standards and stuff... but I know they exist.

I ALSO know not every guy is like that. I know PLENTY of guys that aren't and have standards and class.

 

Actually, I have heard some women say this as well. I don't think it's right or wrong. I'm in no place to judge, anyways. I just want to understand their point of view because I don't understand. However, I do understand how it can be wrong to consider anyone ugly.

 

LOlz, 8 out of 8 members like your response thus far

Thats 4 chics and 4 guys with sympathetic menstrual cramps

 

awe, you know we all have a special place in our hearts for the albino ape. :love:

 

monkey sex is awesome

 

Considering friendly standards fucking is not always a positive choice speaking from having been fucked over a few times. One of my favorite relationships is with my grandson and sex is far from that estate of joy.

 

Popularity is a fad and doesn't really speak for good sense. Smoking used to be more popular than it is now.

Occasionally some remember they like going to the zoo...I think you entertain.