Let's talk.

What I would imagine a mammoth would sound like lol quite heavy on her feet

 

We ran out of chat????

 

How did we manage that?

 

Some cat stole the tongues. lol

 

It was cold here last night, so neighbour's cat climbed in open window and snuggled up behind me on top of the duvet all night.

 

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

 

Wow how cute is that.x

 

My roast Pork is smelling good.

 

Ooooohhh - Can I have some of the crackling Candy darlin' ???

 

That is my favourite. Yes, I can share. xxx

 

It's nice to share.

 

Well, vasectomy is a month out; assuming no nuclear winter... April 6th! Then, the long wait until graduation.

And so... I haven't really discussed it with my wife (fiance, really) but I don't think we will be very sexually active. We will be affectionate (requisite*), but as for intercourse, that will be relegated to our honeymoon and occasions (anniversaries, vacations, etc.)

When I think about it, sex has a tendency to spoil things, for me anyway (I can't speak for others). I have noted that I'm super emotional and moody following sex, and really, a little bit insecure about the "performance". I'm not superman; I'm more of a Mickey Mouse plain Jane vanilla husband in the bedroom. It's not that I'm lazy or unimaginative, but honestly it's because I haven't had a lot of experience.

 

Darling, you worry too much. xxx
Why a vasectomy?

 

To demonstrate commitment, believe it or not.

It's my way of tattooing my fiance's name on my forehead

I think too, in terms of practicality there's no comparison. I told her and I'll say here now, I don't like the way a condom takes a minute... In that much time, I'm flacid and wondering what sports are on TV.

I'd like too to avoid unintended pregnancy. We both said we want kids, but not right now; and she says, "I'm not ready." It's simply not a good way forward for us right now; especially because she won't know much English when she gets here.

 

I think you need to think this through. I understand, but!

 

Well, the other thing we discussed is my mental health.

Not only is schizophrenia problematic in a budding relationship, it's also adverse for being an adequate father. Priorities change a lot when you live with schizophrenia; even mild schizophrenia like mine. A young person will need someone who can consistently provide the same support without some charismatic imaginative variation or something like that.

I don't want a genetic anomaly, and there is also disease. My mother is afflicted with Crohn's disease but has Humira and so is pain-free most of the time, thankfully.

Either ailment could pass from me to my children.

 

DARLING, these days they can check for genes that can be passed on. It is a very simple procedure.
BUT, you can both either foster or adopt too. xxx
You will both get support, just ask. xxx

 

I've scheduled the procedure and pointed to a donor, adoption, or foster.

 

You are all organized. I am very impressed. x
You know I support you. xxx

 

Thank you!

We have nothing to do but discuss everything, but even then we are saving much of the discussion for later. We'll cross that bridge when we come to it.