Little kids that LIE too much

a year now...

ummmmm ya prolly mentally damaged the child so that he can blame you the rest of his life for his issues...:

but

seriously, sounds like he has simply been rushed too much to be a big boy and i did see you say a younger sibling in another post,,,, so I would say its a regression type of thing...., jealousy perhaps or envy type of thing etc etc,,,

 

So basically, I just need to get off his back and show him a bit more attention?

I could see that being the case, I s'pose.

 

i would try it and it certainly cant hurt him... dont be so hard on yaself CF... we can only do what we know to do and try our best at it..

 

Yeah I know. But this isn't one of those things you can take to the shop and have looked at if you screw it up..... I just worry too much.

I'm about to get a book recommended by another member about worrying less and enjoying life.

Thanks dilli.

 

Honestly? I just kind of rode it out. I realized that with my son, his particular issue was that he was feeling left out, insecure about his place in the family. I made it a point to spend more individual time with him, make sure he wasn't feeling replaced. After a while, he simply stopped peeing/pooping himself.

Kids go through all kinds of whacky phases, sometimes without any real rhyme or reason. But you also know you've been having a bit of a tough time yourself lately, and kids do pick up on things like that. It's amazing, but they do.

Anyway, I know it's a frustrating situation. Being a parent is hard work, there are days where you think you're going to lose your mind as much as you love the little buggers! But this phase won't last forever. I promise!

Hang in there, take a deep breath. It's going to be okay.

 

actually instead of asking him if he peed himself, since you already know that he did (shaming & reactive) just say: I see that you peed yourself, lets get you cleaned up and figure out how we are going to keep you dry.

And then: get him on a toilet program. My suggestion is to cut back on fluids 2-4 hours before bed, no night drinks, and get him up to pee at night, help him out. That's what parenting is about. Helping the child not stigmatizing the child.

As for the urine scald: let him air out and if that doesn't work, healing salve will sooth, and also maybe a waterproof barrier (diaper ointment and a pull up)

Maybe developmentally your child isn't ready to be dry at night and needs a diaper type of protection. Boys sometimes don't stay dry throughout the night until well into their 5th year, my boy still has to work on it, but we are way more chill and casual and not accusatory.

When my boy has an accident it's like: oops you had an accident, and he says: oops, I'm sorry.. ya know we keep it light, because I know it takes a lot of time and practice to be able to wake up to that sort of body sensation, AND get up and know where to go...

2 times my son thus far, has woken up and stated he had to pee and I just said, go to the bathroom. And he did. But last night he just started to whip it out, so I got him up with me and we had a night time visit to the potty. He was dry the rest of the night. He's 4 1/2.