Loyalty... or lack of !

Its seems you dodn´t understand !

 

Why should others' lack of character bother you? Be confident that you're a better person than that and don't make other people's shortcomings your issue.

 

No, I saw it. Maybe I misinterpreted you, but the impression I got was that you are disgusted by what these girls did, and are just disappointed with your friend's actions. It appeared to me that you blame the girls more.

If that's not the case, I apologize. It's just that these kinds of issues really pisses me off. Some people just have such horrible views of women, and when people have affairs or when a woman is raped, they blame the woman because "she seduced him, she was drunk, she's a slut," etc. In some countries, they still stone women for committing adultery. The men are not punished because it's considered to be the women's fault. I'm not saying you're like any of these people or that you want to murder women who commit adultery, because I think it's safe to assume that you're a kind, peaceful person who would never consider such a thing. I'm just trying to point out that often times, people have very different standards for women and for men when it comes to issues of sexuality.

 

Maybe I've red over it, but isn't he blaming the girls more ONLY for the thing that they have boyfriends they are cheating on? I understood it like his friend is single and thus free to do things like that. He isn't saying girls aren't free in that.

 

Yes, that's probably what he means. But if he thinks it's so horrible for people to cheat on their boy/girlfriends, then why isn't it as bad that his friend has been involved in that three times? I know that analogies are often bad, but isn't that kind of like saying "I think it's bad that people do drugs (cheat on their boy/girlfriends), but I'm going to give them drugs (mess around with them) anyways?"

 

I don't know about that, I only thought I'd mention that from what I could see this situation wasn't about sexism at all.

 

Well interprit it as you wish but I am not a sexist, I always analise a situation from as many angles as possible. After going through the information I received from him I still strongly feel that my friend comes upon three girls willing to have sex with him and have sex he does. The only really negative action he took was meeting one of the girls boy friends and acting normaly. But then again he couldnt just bring up the subject "so I fucked your girlfriend two days ago".
On the other hand you have three girls who comitted in my opinion one of the worse sin´s possible which is dishonesty to their boyfriends who, if have not cheated on the girls are inocent.
I can´t stand two faced wimen !!