Lust V. Intamacy

id pick the second choice ....mainly because it could go on until death....


the first one is a bad choice mainly due to impotence percentages as we age (50% at age 50,,60% at age 60 etc...)

 

Every person has need for it, wether they look it up or not. I'm not saying every person who is without it is miserable, though most feel like that at least sometimes. That there are exceptions does not make what I said a false statement.

 

I was in a 15 year marriage that lacked intimacy for just about all 15 years. I was miserable. I am an affectionate, passionate, sensual person; so it was very difficult.

Not having that intimacy (sex, cuddling--nada) brought up issues; communication being the largest one. I am no longer in that marriage (well legally for a few months--court is coming up ). I just started dating last year and meaningless sex is good for the moment; but I crave the cuddling/intimacy. Touch is one of the ways I feel loved and how I like to express it.

I forgot to quote Spaceman's post---I agree! Especially with the aging comment. Besides, you didn't say that cuddling couldn't involve a special toy.