Bella, I understand the need for simplification. That's how things get done. They are... necessary errors, let's say. Because things are complex of necessity, but going around in circles and twisting your noodle isn't also the best thing to do. But when it comes to "meant to be" I draw a line. There is simply no such thing that comforms to any intellectual integrity or standard. This is what people tell themselves who are too cowardly or lazy to face the uncertainty of existence.
I believe in it for myself, even though Ive been around marriages which are anything but happy and successful. They dont matter though. I used to be so cynical about marriage but now I see myself finding a man who I can share my life with and have children with; its what I want.