Marriage

true... although in my cousin's case she's marrying ridiculously young not so much for love as due to a personal crisis regarding the fact that she was adopted... which is why i don't see it lasting more than just the age...

 

Personal crisis? Did her parents not tell her till she was 19 or something?

 

If it was my cousin, I'd try to talk her out of it , if she was doing it for the wrong reasons. Have you tried that ?

 

she's only 18 now... i don't really know; i rarely see her... mostly just going based on what i heard from my mom...

 

we're not close... i don't think i have any real influence over her... and i don't really care much either. most of my cousins are already divorced, so i guess she might as well join in the fun...

 

I guess marriage is the commitment to TRY in good faith to grow old with someone you're deeply compatible with.

But I have mixed feelings on putting the emphasis on foreverness. It's delicate.

 

I hope one day to be a married woman with a baby on the way. No one in my family has ever divorced. I feel like there's something special there, in the brew. Although Ive always felt the black sheep.

 

Same here.


Once I get married, i hope its gonna last forever. Oh how lame it sounds.

 

Interesting. Me too, in a way.

But in my case, I feel the black sheep for the absence of a father.

 

It's cause you're going to marry a Texan.

 

I never thought that not having a father has anything to do with feeling that way.

 

Ive always been a wild woman, it seems fitting.

 

What was the cause of the absence? Id like to hear more of your stories. PM or otherwise.

 

I'm not sure what you are getting at because you quotes a sentence fragment...again please?


Also I was talking about getting abused. I won't tolerate it, and whether you know people who do, the fact remains that women used to have nowhere to turn and the cops wouldn't even help them... we do now, and a lot of us don't stand for it.

 

actually yes it does

100% of the time

 

It was clear from the context what I meant. I know a whole lot of people for whom that isn't true. There are a lot of people who do put up with that bullshit.

I'm not arguing that things haven't improved. They just haven't improved that much.

 

I wouldn't get married before both of us are done with edumucation.

 

funny, ive always felt like the golden child. then again, all the family taht im biologically related to and know (aside from parents and gparents) are, well, white trash. so very very very white trash. or else too good for us and my mom severed contact when she became preggers with me (they told her to her face that shed be a terrible mother and should put me up for adoption)
and nearly everyone in my family has divorced or separated at least once. my madre, thrice now.

but im all for marriage ive met the most wonderfullest man EVER and i want to spend my life with him. realized fairly early on in our relationship (like, 3 months into it, i think... or earlier) that iw anted to marry him. i do expect a proposal within the next year (preferably within the next 6mos or so), but i want a decently long engagement (like, 2-3 years) so we can save up money for the wedding, he can finish school, etc

 

at what point does someone stop being "young" and doomed to divorce?

 

about 24, when people enter the general population