marriage

And that`s not even marriage itself. Marriage is giving up on life, turning into your parents, and boring everyone else to death and making a big fuss about it.

Married people do not go out with a whimper. They need that BANG!
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Edit: At 19, I was engaged. When I look back on it, I totally wanted my parent's verification. :biggrin:

 

Not sure age has to do with it so much as experience and investing the time necessary to know your partner on all levels. If you've gone off and lived a while, know who you are and what's important to you, you are much closer than some dewy-eyed child that has only their own idealistic preconceptions about life to go on. You have to be a whole person before you can give of yourself that which a committed relationship requires.
Then, you have to find that person, develop a relationship, get through the honeymoon period without running off and eloping and gagging everyone with your enthusiasm for each other, and then reality sets in. You move in together, you learn each other's quirks, habits, all that shit that you hid from each other in the beginning. If you can stand each other after all that, and you still want to keep that person by your side through thick and thin no matter what, because being without them is worse than putting up with all of their bullshit, then you have my blessing.

This is all from my completely unprofessional 24-year-old, in a relationship for 7 years, engaged for 2 opinion (the only reason we're not married yet is because we're poor and my family is Irish-Italian-aka: Justice of the Peace ain't gonna cut it ). I'm sure I've got a hefty dose of naivete about me myself, but I'm a little bit more prepared for what I'm in for than some teenager who's mad at her parents and runs off to elope with her boyfriend. All I know is that life in unbearable without hope, and if I lost him, it would be like losing a part of me. He is so much more than a man, a catch, or a lover- he's my best friend, my other half, the one I share everything with and feel no shame. When I think about life without him, all I see is a void. I never thought I'd be that girl. That's how I know.

 

I got married at 21, divorced at 25. I doubt Id ever get married again. It doesnt really matter when you get married. Its either gonna work or its not.

 

Everyone is very different though dear. so I think 25 + get marriage....

 

The most appropriate age for marriage is when you are ready for it and you have your beloved one near you....that is how it should be

 

Marriage is a scam designed to let some people look gooey-eyed and foolish for a few hours, and make other people embarrassingly rich.

I grew up in a single-parent family, with very few models of why marriage should even be important (seems like most of my extended family is divorced or widowed anyway) and yet I still think of myself as a moral, decent person.

Once in a great while I think I might want to give it a try someday, but for me I'd need to have some kind of "unconventional" type of marriage, like I've heard of people who've been happily married for years but live separately. Something like that I couldn't do the whole get-hitched-live-in-the-same-house-for-50-years-make-babies bullshit like that it wouldn't work for me.

Still, to me long-term GF seems like the best option all around for people

 

Save your money on that stupid, one day wedding thing, and instead put your money toward a down payment on a house. Makes much more sense.

 

I was married at 21, my husband at 24. We have a daughter together (9m/old) and still going strong, and I'm still ridiculously in love with him.

Peace,
-FlowerMama