Married 19 yrs he has a porn addiction he has had help

You are correct that's why as a relationship counsellor you have to sometimes serve them with the ultimatum otherwise their relationship will end .

A relationship is like an investment. You can only get out of it what you put in. Put nothing in then it will cease to exist.

 

I really do hope that you give it one more chance to get it sorted. It seems a shame that you have come this far . Good Luck

 

I really do hope that you give it one more chance to get it sorted. It seems a shame that you have come this far . Good Luck

 

There is no easy answer here when there is silence form a partner. Porn is like drugs with additions and withdrawals. Communications is key but getting started is hard. You may have to start slow and work on it to find the answers. I hope you can work it out.

 

Lot of replies for a thread that was only started a couple hours ago, and from members we dont usually see

Its almost as if they are just lurking, waiting to pounce on a new sex thread that has been created

 

Just watched some good porn

 

Maybe that's because I am new. However I think I have been has constructive as I can be giving the information that was presented .

 

Do you give your constructions, structural integrity?

 

As a relationship counsellor with quite a few years experience

 

Who?
Is it a "sex thread" ?
Just because sex is involved in the situation.
I imagine OP really wants the closeness and intimacy that sex provides, especially for women.
It's a relationship issues thread.

 

I think your bang on the money .

 

Look, guys never accuse each other of having a porn addiction.

Ladies are never going to get the truth if its always what they think they are supposed to say language.

OP already knows the truth anyway, for some reason he went from once every two months to once everyday, then back again. Probably because he either forgot to pay his internet bill or watched one of those dumbass youtube vids informing him of the health benefits of giving up porn -then he turned into a sex fiend and everything got worse

 

I reckon he's stumbles upon some t-girl action and is feeling confused.

 

Yeah well. She wanted some opinions because sometimes even when you know the truth, if it's not what you want, you hope someone else's perspective will help. Or else it confirms what you know. I just didn't see all these rarely seen posters jumping on a sex thread. I thought Glen's post unnecessarily mean. We get enough obvious trolls to laugh at, don't we?

If someone is reaching out for help, and you don't have anything useful to say, post in a different thread. Works for me.

 

Funny thing is that if most couples did actually tell each other the truth when they sat down to talk, most people in your line of work would be out of a job

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

this happens all the time, but i don't think it's really true for this one. OP posted a ton, but she's the only one i haven't seen around before.

 

Watch some porn together. It'll soon be steamy in the bedroom.

 

Well helpful then if she gets the truth, at least a different perspective.

Porn saves us from millions of road rage incidents a year, murders, even mass shootings maybe.

'Closeness and initimacy that sex brings', back massages before hand, cuddling and talking afterwards. The guys never really understand why any of that should be more important than the Big O, blowing ones load.

He watches porn, its a lot less work and he doesnt turn into a sex crazed (whippable) maniac

I can guarantee he doesnt believe he has a porn "addiction"

 

There's an easy answer......................