meet a forum member?

No way!

 

i met my parents on the internet...

 

lynsey, he and i have talked for a couple years almost. but we have been involved with one another since July of last year.
i'm glad you are happy. you will be happier yet when you do realize all of the past hurts were just preparing you for where you are now and it seems like you are realizing that from your replies to me, yay! so letting go of hurts are needed and perhaps becoming friendly with the past boyfriends would be good for you. anger is hard to hold. took me a while with John, my ex-husband, but now we are so close. he tells everyone i am his best friend and that man was scary. he tried to hurt me by flattening my tires and breaking in...he was scary. but as soon as i embraced him with love and remembered the good and saw the spots in the relationship that i was less than what he needed, i was able to get past all of the hard feelings and it has helped me so much with Andrew and checking myself when i have fallen into past patterns again. i am not perfect, nor do i claim it...but i do know i am a goddess, just as you are....and we can create whatever we want.
best of luck with you. sounds like you are getting all you have worked so hard to get. i wish you much peace and happiness

 

i'm somewhat shy. if i wasn't, i probably wouldn't be here. the thought of meeting people from here makes me so nervous that i kinda get twitchy. i'm better than i used to be, but i used to not be able to talk on the phone without having a panic attack and giggling incessantly, which is aggravating to no end. it's like i've been possessed by some airheaded cheerleading bimbo. i hate that. so i fear meeting anyone from here because it takes me a long time to settle downa nd just be myself. i'm socially retarded.

 

though there are a few here that wouldn't make me nervous, i think. lynsey, trish, seamonster, irongoth, booshnoogs, hiro, antithesis. dunno why. maybe it's because they seem to just take people as they are more than others do.

 

i think you would be fine kc....most people want to see you and they already have a gateway into your humor and thoughts...so there is alot of comfort there already.
and it depends on the person. i am just downright silly and such, so i have found myself comfy with most simply because i make myself laugh. but i too have a bit of social phobia on occasion. some i would love to meet, some you couldnt get me near.

 

you know, hip forums is about the only forum i don't know for sure of having met anyone from that i'm on!

unless there's some people i know or have known in person on here using names i'm not familiar with, which is VERY possible. i do know one person's real name which IS a match for someone i did know at one time where i was living then, but don't REALLY know if she's the same person. odds seem against, but it IS possible.

the same COULD hold for a few others. either having known or knowing of. wouldn't surprise me any. but i don't KNOW of this being the case.

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He he I don't think I'd be interested on meeting anyone on the dacshund forum that I am on!!

 

You're on a dacshund forum?!?! Do you discuss your doggies? Cuz I have a question regarding my little mini.

 

Interval and I were a few feet from each other at a Dead show and didn't even know it till a couple of days after the show. We probably walked right by each other. I'm sure I did at least. I must of took 5 trips to the bathroom. :&

Haven't met anyone yet.

 

you're a bigger person than me. I don't wish anyone I've been with harm I want the best for everyone, really. I just don't want to have to interact with them lol.

It's the same way with everyone except my exfiance I saw him the other week. I was in my car finishing my coffee and scarffing down a muffin waiting for my nail appoitment lol and he drove by as he was coming from the grocery store or the boxing center I'm guessing and slowed down to look at me...I was uhm trying to get all the foam outta the bottom of my latte. That hurt a bit not because I love him romanticly but because I just feel sooooooooooo bad about some things I did to him, especially last summer. I made some horrible decisions about love and well I just hope I didn't mess him up for other women. When somone takes care of your every need for years and fills a void in your life it hurts because your missing that void,; not that person.
That's great about you and John. But you have a child together. I really feel like with how my life was that I need to only surround myself with positive men who will be good for me. Now that I know what healthiness is I really don't wanna go back. I love being built up and even somone telling me to go to the gym ( fuck you but you were right I feel better ) and just being able to be honest is nice and I don't want any friends in my life male or female who won't do that for me.
I've reconnected with most of my old sorit. sisters as well and they are all so supportive. I'm so lucky to have the people I have around me now!
Thank you I have been working my ass of but anything that's worhtwhile is hard work.
THanks a lot Marie and again congratulations on your new family

 

oh wow. that is so weird... i had about forgotten about that.

 

oh i wasnt saying we have to be friends with them. john is my only past lover that i have a friendship with, and yes it is because i have a kid with him.

andy and i actually talked about this whole subject last night. sometimes a friendship with a past lover is just not possible. there are too many feelings or uncomfort in how the other person could still be feeling. but for you, and i am not speaking of you directly, its best to let go of all of that anger, pain, regret so that you can move on with little or no baggage. its hard to get past those things and to stop blaming the other person for their faults and to see ourselves and our doings in the demise of the relationships....but i feel until we do, we will continue patterns. but that is just my point of view. i am not a guru or some saint, just someone trying my best to get through this life and to undo programming that has been instilled in me by learning the lessons that will allow the system to reboot. know what i mean, vern
wasnt trying to give a preaching vibe if that is what you had felt, was simply stating how complete i, personally feel, by not harboring negative feelings for past lovers....no matter how badly they had hurt me.
not that i dont envision kicking their asses here and there when something bad resurfaces in me though