Men: If you earn less than your woman

I want her to communicate with me and be honest about her feelings. I also want loyalty and a sense of humor.

But I think that is standard with any committed relationship.

I do not see this as a buying or trading thing.

I see providing as my obligation. I will also give back what I expect from her.

I have a house cleaner, I have a cook.

If she wants a business or has a major goal, I will do anything to make it happen.

 

Seems nobel.

 

Who provided before you came?

So you would feel obligated to clean and cook for her?

You wouldn't have an influence on whether or not she achieves her goals, although you may be supportive of her or not while she does so.

 

If I earn less than"my" woman--then I earn less than "my woman". That's about it. OK--what's next.

 

It really does not matter who provided for her before.

Why should I clean and cook for her if I have hired help that cooks and cleans? However I actually am a very good cook and sometimes when the mood strikes, I do cook.

If she wants to cook. She can cook. Same with cleaning.

You are correct. I cannot achieve whatever goals she wants to achieve. That is her job.

However I can provide any financial assistance necessary. I can also hire experts and consultants to assist her. I can also offer years of business experience and be someone to bounce ideas off of.

I am not going to live forever (as was pointed out to me earlier in this thread). What good is having everything as far as wealth if you have no one to share it with?

 

If it is not a matter of trade then you could share it with me.

 

Ah, but you see, I am looking for someone special.

All I know about you is what I read in your threads and posts.

If you have a quest that you need assistance with, I will listen. I am not promising anything. But I have helped others get started with their goals.

But again this is about that special person that I am looking for.

 

So it is a matter of trade.

I do have a project that you can help me with, be happy.

 

Earning less than my partner wouldn't matter to me

...because I wouldn't date somebody who measured people's value based on their income (and it doesn't affect my own sense of self-worth).

Based on how much you keep talking about your wealth and your riches, you seem to find the two quite connected. I hope that works out well for you.

 

I suppose you can see it any way you choose.

But since this thread is about a man providing for the woman in his life, I am not sure I understand.

For me it is about a deep spiritual connection with someone. If that means it is a trade, then so be it

I am actually pretty happy with my life. It may not be perfect, but believe me I have come a long way from being a total recluse who was on the verge of suicide just a few years ago.

If you are serious about the project please pm me. But realize the people I have funded had very thorough business plans or in the case of charities or foundations they are legally registered as 501C3's or legal foundations.

You best be prepared for some possible tough questions.

I did not work my way off the streets to give money away to people who were not serious or unorganized in their plans.

If I fund someone I want them to have a chance to succeed.

 

I never said I valued people based on money. How in the hell did you see that?

I said the man should provide for his partner.

Okay, I said it in a provocative way using an article I read and making vast generalizations.

I did not mention wealth until others asked questions or made comments.

To understand my thinking you need to know where I am coming from.

 

If the man is gay, which partner should provide? Should they go by dick size?

 

That has been asked before in this thread. I said I did not know.

But good question.

Ask a gay person.

 

I can only answer this from a personal stand point.

My sister is gay and she is also a professional. Her life partner is not a professional and has not work outside of the home since being with my sister.

My sister has twins, my niece and nephew are 14. Her life partner is home with them while my sister works.

I would not say either is a masculine or a feminine in their relationship. They both have traits that cross over but not any more so than any other couple.

 

You have something you consider valuable but you will not share it save for with that "special" person. Special is the price that you demand in return.

The project I have in mind requires your personal investment, not monetary investment. If you invest yourself for a cause then you have put a limit on your return of happiness or appreciation.

 

Okay, I might buy that. But I have helped total strangers at times.

Seems like most people would provide for a wife or girlfriend before anyone else. If that is the argument. everyone does it.

I really did not follow your second comment.

Sorry I am kind of clueless.

PM me about personal or monetary investments.

 

These are your rules.

I don't personally know any gay people.

 

well!!! in all my days!!! yeah, having my man provide for me financially would be a bonus, and i know he wants to, but it is the love between two people that is the most important thing surely? i have had poor partners and rich ones... love is love... money doesn't come into it...

i don't see you as a Male Chauvinist Pig just for WANTING to provide all for your woman... the problems would come only if that made you think you OWNED her in some way and treated her disrespectfully...

 

Any good woman should be able to support one man.

 

As a practical matter we cannot relate to everyone on an intimate level, but we can relate to all with love.

Happiness is a matter of the heart not of circumstance. Happiness occurs when we have totally given ourselves over to some activity or person. We have no complaint at the moment we are happy. We are only happy when we are happy.

So happy is a kind of unreserved giving. If you reserve your happiness, if you reserve your giving for a special circumstance or person, then you limit the measure of happiness.