"mentally cheating?"

So, I guess there's some intimacy in our relationship - just not the sex.

What are her feelings about it? Does she know of your feelings and desires? I know you mentioned earlier that you don't talk about sex ... but could you? What would happen if you brought up the subject?

 

Ok, here goes. Her feelings are that if we have sex, it's to satisfy me (not her). She said that sex doesn't matter to her any more. It's like, hurry-up and get it over with already. Oral sex is out of the question (I can't go down on her and she refuses to do me). I really miss that, you know, the taste of a woman. It really isn't good sex by any means. That's why I think about threesomes and having an affair.

I could talk to her again about it and see where it goes. Have you ever dealt with a situation like this in your relationships?

Spud

 

the question will be better if it was :
"would u get mad if some one will rape u mentally?" lol:sifone:

i voted no. i might get mad in my imagination though

 

Hi Spud,
I know that I am a little late in,on this thread,but does she give you any reasons of why she is not interested in any kind of sex?

 

Mr. Spud - - as I said before:

IMO your approach is doomed to fail. It's difficult to impossible to push a person into doing anything and have them to do it with enthusiasm.

Leading is what is needed instead of pushing.

How can you expect her to respect you ideas if you do not respect hers?

 

Spud -- I don't want to come across like I'm some big expert or something. I do think that her lack of desire is either due to a lack of feeling of intimacy, or possibly something hormonal ... but that doesn't tell you anything you didn't already know. How old is she, by the way? Is she post-menopausal? Plenty of women have issues with loss of desire after menopause, but there are ways of dealing with it.

To me, the solution to just about anything is communication ... talking about it, openly and honestly, but with love and compassion.

This is a two-way street. She deserves to know how frustrated you are. You deserve to know why she has lost her desire for sex.

 

Oh quiet down there OldTroll,this is interesting...
Sorry OP...

 

But I do love you Ms.Bear

 

I like to be smacked around(just a little though)

 

You get me excited .... and you know what happens then .....

 

hahah lol! :cheers2:

 

Thats if you can still get it up!!!
Just/joking

 

He's feeling pretty frisky on his birthday!

 

Oh he is always like this,always silly...

 

You certainly know better than most folks that little Willie always responds to the call to duty!

 

"duty"? Who's she?

 

That is a darn good question...
I do not know...
Please explain Mr.OldTroll.:toetap05:

 

Duty is what little Willie calls Ms.Bear when she yells "Ten-Hut!" in her drill sergeant voice .... little Willie snaps to a rigid attention.

 

LMAO pipe down there,drop and give me 20.