Mother Issues.

Personal Responsibility. At what point do you boys claim any? Being an adult gives you the power to choose what you’re responsible for, and you can choose to be responsible for who you are now.

Stop blaming your parent(s) for who you are. It is victim mentality and the only thing standing between you and your happiness is YOU. Not your history, your attitude.

@ Yggdrasil...Claiming your mom sabotaged your life and is somehow responsible for your current stupid behaviors and less-than-desirable outcomes, wreaks of denial, immaturity and delusion. You and only you, are responsible for your current reality, no matter what your parents have or haven’t done to you, or for you.

Grow up, let it go....be responsible for your self, claim your soul....and let it fly. If you no longer are dependent on your parents for financial support, then liberate yourself from the past. You are harming you with this attitude. No matter how much you think your parents deserve your anger, vitriol and resentment, it serves no positive purpose and will harm you more in the long run.

We all have our own "reality". You don't live in your mothers and she doesn't live in yours.

I do not think you need family therapy. I think you need counseling for you and maybe a life coach.

 

Sorry if that was a bit tough....but seeing grown men whine over their mommies, Geeze Louise!

Until you become a parent yourself...you will never know how difficult it is to raise a human being.

 

YOU HAVE TOLD ME TO F OFF, BUT WHO CARES!
SO WHAT? YOU ASKED FOR ADVICE HERE AND ARE GOING INSANE ABOUT YOUr MOM!
WE HAVE AALL MADE MISTAKAES!...IN THAT REGARD!
PROBABLY ME MORE THAN ANY!

I TRIED TO IMPART MY MISTAKES TO YOU....as I LIVED AND LEARNED AND KNOW HOW I SHOULD HAVE DONE THINGS and DID NOT WANT TO SEE YOU REGRET THINGS LATER ABOUT YOUR MOM!

I CARE ABOUT YOU!



i am IN TEARS!

 

i fought for you life!
you have TOLD ME A FEW Times you would kill yourself!
please do not!

 

your life is worth living!

 

Tony, you might want to read this book


http://www.amazon.com/Toxic-Parents-Overcoming-Hurtful-Reclaiming/dp/0553381407


It helped me alot.

People here are caring and will attempt to give you good advice but each situation is a bit different because each person is a bit different, therefore you may really want to talk to a professional.

Friends are good to a point but it burdens them unfairly to lay your troubles on them when there is more to deal with than the average person has training for.

 

My husband would do it. All of his life, his mother has tried to make him into the opposite of the wonderful, intelligent, fun person that I love. He has fought against it with every bit of his mind, body, and soul. She hates the fact that he's able to think for himself, which is what I admire about him the most.

 

Mother did it need to be so high?

 

I had problems with my mum when I was younger. My 3 sisters never got it but I did for some reason. I was so much and still am the daddy's lil girl, maybe that annoyed her and so I was treated a little differently. I can't complain though because her pushing away just set me up for an awesome child hood traveling with my daddy all over Central Europe and Scandinavia.

We are all good now though. She taught me a lot about cooking etc. and turns out even as a lesbian I'm more switched on and better characters than my sisters who still infuriate my mother.

Sometimes I sit and wonder about family. If we weren't blood would I still have love or in fact does the blood make me think I have to love? That's not really directed at my immediate family, but third cousins get outta here! But I wonder it about other people who have bad relations with their folks. Maybe just get out and get moving on? You weren't asked to be born and they aren't living up to the deal..

 

Ygd had some bad things to say about his mother, but it sounds like he had reasons to.

Saying you can't bash your parents online is a little like saying you can't bash your government online

 

Lolz, cos your dad worked out what you were early on and your sisters creeped him out once they hit puberty

 

You can see now that you were getting played the whole time

This thread has restored my lack of faith in humanity

 

Well...jiminy cricket! So this whole thread was a ruse?


I kinda hope so because like I said, grown men whining about their mommies is ridiculous. (unless of course someone was brutally abused)

 

I do not consider myself played....

When you really care about people it is different than being had or played or whatever....right?


That by itself can stand on its own, i think.

 

I am however looking forward to The Acorn Stair-lift..

 

Whaaa??

 

wink wink

 

I wonder if tony had the guts to f- his mother.
catch her in the shower or tube, give her the good news.

 

I'm not really sure as to whys she's changed to the behavior.
It could be because, you've 'not a little boy anymore' or that you and her haven't been as close as you explained when you were younger so, maybe that's why she's acting out.

I'd try to give her some attention to bring her back down to a good emotional place.
take her out for a movie, shopping, walk int he park. Something that will just give you and her "alone time".
But, whatever you do, don't leave her like you explain in your post. That will make matters worse in my opinion

My mother is VERY much the same. Aside from that, she has gotten physical with use as we were growing up.
All I did was, I aided to her the best way I could but, within reason of course.
You are her sun, not her slave. So, feel out some lines here and there when giving her attention.

My moms improved some these days.
She hasn't been physical but, this is mainly because, we're all now young adults. As for her temper, she still has it of course but, she has limited her outbursts.
Good luck