moving in with a couple

Don't do it.

 

wrong. when they fight around me, I tell them how ridiculous they are and tell them to grow up. this usually works, because her boyfriend just doesn't like confrontation, and liz realizes how gay she's being once I point it out to her.

and furthermore, it's not going to be like.. me being third wheel or whatever. it's never like that. they don't even act like they are going out around me. we are just people who are all best friends. I don't know if that makes any sense but they both respect me and I respect them... I don't understand how this is 'such a bad idea'

like... people go off to college, and are stuck rooming with a complete stranger all of the time. this will be two roommates, who are already my best friends.. ?

 

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You ever hear how arranged marriages tend to work out much better in the long run than people who are given the choice?

You might be able to do something about their arguing now, that you're all just a bunch of pals and things are peachy, but once you live together, things are different. Have you ever lived away from home? These people are not your family and won't have to put up with any shit. You will be accountable for your flaws with these people, and they won't love you unconditionally. If you interfere with their fighting, soon enough it's going to backfire, if not directly, at the very least in the form of resentment.

Also keep in mind that you might think you know them, but you get to really know someone when most of your free time is spent around that person and their flaws affect you directly. I've had strong friendships shatter because of the living situation. If you're so close, maybe you don't want to risk that.

Again, this could work out fine if it was a solid relationship. Really. But the relationship you're describing is all but certain to end, badly, and that's really not a situation you want to be in the middle of. But by all means, knock yourself out. At least it'll give you something to talk about. And valuable experience. You could consider it a social experiment.

 

Haha, dare I be the poster who disagrees with the majority? I do agree that if they fight and whore around on each other a lot, it'll probably wear you down pretty quickly. They're going to break up, no doubt about it, seeing as they're so young and have spent most of their teen years on each other, not to mention the cheating and fighting...it won't be pretty when it ends. So, if you decide to go for it, prepare for the worst, because it's inevitable.

The only reason I'd disagree otherwise would be because Daniel and I have been dating for almost 4 years, we moved in together after two, and our roommate moved in with us about a year ago. And so far so good, we've had some issues, but nothing that hasn't been worked through. But, roomie was just a friend to begin with, and not really even a close one at that. *shrugs* It's worked out well for us, but we have an odd situation, so...all I can say is go in it with a backup plan, in case things turn sour.

 

I agree with your post a lot. another thing to think about though, is that we are going to be living in New York City... where there is always a ton of things to do. we're all going to be full time college students, and also have jobs.. so it's not like we're going to be around eachother all that much, at all.

my older sister also lives in the city and she told me I can stay at her place if necessary whenever I want.

 

Thank you! Your post made me feel good, I finally have one person who isn't telling me that this is all going to inevitably blow up in my face!

Yes a backup plan will need to be made

 

Someone will never do the dishes.Someone will never clean.Someone will live like a pack rat.Someone will take over the bathroom almost completely.Someones' floor will not be able to be seen because of clothing.Someone will not chip in on--anything.Someone will always be late with their rent.Someone will not have utility money on time--if ever.Someone will move out leaving the others with more,maybe un-managable rent.---------Have I been there?Ohhh Yeeaah.

 

Your home should be a sanctuary. You shouldn't need a sanctuary from your home.

Again, though, it might work out fine, it might not. Just like anything. Good luck!

 

It would be like that with any roommate, though,and with the economy in the situation it is in these days, suggesting that she go without a roomie is preposterous. The fact of the matter is, no matter what, you're gonna have to compromise and know that you're going to deal with annoyances and shit you've never had to deal with before, but I'd much rather go through that with a friend than some complete stranger.

 

My son just lost his best friend after giving him a place to stay.Reasons as stated above. She's going to college so someone there might be able to help her ,or she could look for a bulletin board that lists people looking for roomies.As has been said--might be better to try living with someone she wouldn't care about leaving if it came to that.Although she'll probably do it anyway,I wish her luck too.

 

Not sure it's a good idea, avoid it if you can.