moving new place with new boyfriend

If you don't feel in love, and/or feel like the relationship is a cage, I think you need to relax and keep it casual. That's not to say don't move, but move casually. You could do it without some crazy commitment.

Then again, maybe you couldn't, I don't know how the relationship is. It sucks to just want a casual relationship that you could leave if you wanted/needed, but not have the other person on the same level. That would signal the need for a change.

 

Good luck in whatever you decide. There is no right or wrong choice, just follow your instincts.

 

My advice would be forget your heart or brain, leave all decisions to what your genitals want. It is the only true path

 

i meant i really enjoy being alone. privacy is awesome. i am really comfortable with rion, but i just think its a really big step to move in with someone.

of course. this is kinda my pro/con list, to be honest. i just like the ability to bounce my thoughts off you guys.

sometimes.

we are pretty casual. but doesn't the act of moving in seem serious? maybe that's my misconception?
i think, actually, i'm sure, i'm bugging out over this a little more than i should. but i can't keep it off my mind. he's on my mind a lot, actually. he's a great guy. when we're together its really comfortable and nice.
obviously this would continue in grand rapids.

in that case, i'm moving in.

G-G-GENITALIAAAAAAA

 

then i still say move to your own place. i don't see why that wouldn't be possible.

 

Good thing that you slowed things down to think about this. Let him try it out by himself for 6 months or so, and then decide.

 

i really don't have that option. my work is seasonal and the rest of the time i'm performing, not really that consistent of a job. so if i were to move, it would have to be with someone. i

i think i will do that. though he'll be disappointed, i'm sure.

 

is it still seasonal even if you get a job in the greenhouse there? you can always get a winter job. to me, it would be worth having two jobs to live alone and get out of the ghetto.

 

If, while you tell him, you reassure him that you like him and all, but it's a big step, and not an easy decision for you. Any decent person will be compassionate about that.

 

I think you should wait. If you aren't comfortable with moving in with him right now and feel like its moving too fast then don't. I think maybe you should let him get his place and live in it for a while by himself and just keep on visiting him. Then you can try to visit him more often and maybe he can visit you too and just be around eachother. Try to visit him and pay attention to his living habits like the things he does. Some people are nit picky and some aren't. Just see how it goes then after time of seeing him when you think you are ready go for it.

He might not like the idea of waiting but if hes serious and wants you bad enough he will wait a little longer and be patient. If he doesn't then hes not worth it.

I just think if you think its moving too fast then don't do it just yet.
Good luck.

 

you guys are so nice <3

the greenhouse industry tends to let off their assistants during the colder months of the year, leaving just the managers to help out. some are floral design companies as well, so they tend to have that sort of business during the cooler months, but even so.
i usually get a job just for the paycheck during that time.

 

I'd definitely screw the shit out of you!! having taken a look at your photos

 

problem solved.

/thread.

 

Bwahaha awesome.

Baby momma drama: his ex got her nose broken by her new baby daddy and ended up in the hospital. From what I've heard, its quite fucked. Poor girl. Can't say I didn't see it coming. The guy seemed like a total sleaze to me and I've only just met him. Not the first time he hit her either. My guy says she's really instagative, she probably had it coming, etc. But shit. Who loves a person and literally kicks their face in? So fucked.

 

Also, I've had a really good time in the past in regards to going with the flow. So I'm thinking ill go into this situation guns blazing. Its better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.

 

don't do it! Stay in chi town, much more fun!

 

that doesn't mean i wont be going to chi town!

 

Babyjay, please keep your beautiful self safe.
'Nuff said. :afro:

 

If you don't know don't do it.

You're not in love.

You feel like your relationship is a cage.

You want to move but maybe not.

If your mind is not made up you shouldn't be doing anything.

 

Why do you have to be in love to go have a good time?

As long as everyone's on the same page and she's not moving into a bad or dangerous or stressful situation..... if you've got the freedom, use it, as long as you've got a way out if things go sour, or are confident in yourself to gtfo if you need.

If you get tired of it, don't pull any wimpy "see other people" shit, say hey, I'm not having fun, I'm on my way, toodles.