has your husband tried to help you find it, does he eat your pussy often (as fore-play?) I would ask your gyno, or family doctor.. i dont think your abnormal, whats normal anyways? Everyone has a different size, shaped vagina.. your unique. If I were you, I would be just as concerned.. good luck.
yes he does try to find it but, well its so hard to! and yes he really does know where hes looking, and ok i understand that we are all different but surely not that much! its like looking for a needle in a haystack nearly damm impossible, thing is ok its meant to have so many nerves on it that even if it was small you would have thought that if touched i would be able to tell wouldnt you?
Your clit is probably not going to be stimulated through penile-vaginal sex A penis ring might do it There's nothing wrong with you Just make sure you focus on stimulating your clitoris mid-coitus. Maybe a venus butterfly (that vibrating thing to wear) would help
your right there - marvlman, no way does it do the job, mid coitus? you mean about 30 seconds in then? all the vibrating things in the world dont make a difference with me, hey guess what had yet another row, he just doesnt have a damm clue what the hell is going on with me, i have a real hard time with this sex stuff, he wants me to be different to relax more about it, but to be quite honest how can someone relax when it is so hard for them to get any pleasure, i would think that he would soon stop if he was in my position, btw postion doesnt help, we must have gone through the kama sutra trying to find something that works! the way i see it is this, for someone to calm down about something then it must happen on such a regular basis that it becomes part of their day to day life, i.e. you dont panick about breathing do you? you just do it, it happens so naturally you dont even realise that you are, unless you have an asthma attack then you have to struggle! well sex is so not the norm in our lives that any advances are making me very nervous and anxios (sp) once i get into that mode then there is very little that i can do to stop it continuing, because i have such difficulty with getting my head around stuff i find that even when i make attempts to initatate things then that usually falls on deaf ears! i have little to no confidence left that he even knows when i want sex so it makes me just turn over and go to sleep, last night he said that i should just ask him! what just say do you fancy a shag? impossible, i could never do that. is just saying that supposed to get me in the mood? when i have been treated to nothing all day, even the dog gets more attn than me, so they only way i can stop myself from feeling this way is "no sex please" i screws my head up so much, cause how can someone go from being treated like nothing then get shagged and then back to nothing for days on end without it messing with there head, when sex is supposed to be between two people that have some feelings for each other and would do anything together? i just get left with the feeling that ok, thats over for a while, just like when you need to go to the loo! actually i get more out of that than sex.
Actually, I'd reccommend getting some anti-anxiety counseling/medication before you do anything about your twat. You might just be too wound up to be able to enjoy anything.
Since your lack of creativity with spacing and seperating paragraphs has ruined my eyes, I'm just going to ask you to clear this up real quick. Can you give yourself an orgasm through masturbation? How often? Furthermore, it seems your guy wants you to be more 'aggressive' and take a little initiative. Instead of calling out, "Fancy a shag?" (which would probably work ;-)) you could simply attack him with kisses. Or just grab him by the hand and lead him to the bed room. Start a new thread, "How would you like your woman to initiate sex?" But most importantly, answer the first two questions first
as i said i earlier, i have no inclination to masterbate!. when i have tried to start things off, i dont get very far! surely if someone was to put their hand on your dick then you would get the idea? most of the time he will ignore my attempts cause of my refusals in the past, apparently i have been sending out wrong messages! i have done the kisses thing, but apparently its not giving the message, he likes the kisses for kissing sake but i generally cant get him interested by that alone. trying to initate is knocking my confidence levels down to zero, i have a real problem in asking for things, ots something from when i was a child, always getting refused etc, so this whole thing is reflected from that i suppose. i get to the point of saying something, its on the tip of my tongue, but then i feel like im being gagged and no noise comes out! so before sex, during sex etc. whatever i want to do or have, just never gets said, so i always end up frustrated, by me, not really him, cause he isnt a mind reader, but it sure doesnt get easier considering we have been together for 25 years. i have no real confidence in the bedroom, basically havent got a clue! i know what he likes but just get stuck on the "lets try this" or move here bit, it happens in my head but thats where it tends to stay, in my head!
Firstly: How can you expect someone else to make you orgasm, when you can't even give yourself one? Secondly: Do you think you have good communication with your husband?
i dont "expect" anything but i really cant push the buttons myself, it just dont do a thing for me, i just seem to be numb to my own fingers/head, so it seems a pointless thing to do, like when you scrtch your head, if theres no itch then why do it in the first place? communication -- thats a difficult one! i can talk and say things till the cows come home but cause of my other problem of expressing myself i have great difficulty in making those words coherant, well to him anyway, i mostly end up getting so upset that none of it makes any sense. well to him,
Alright, maybe we need to take things back a step. What is it you were initially trying to accomplish with this thread? In 5 sentences or less please
i am trying to find out if going to the sex therapist would be appropriate, as to the best of my knowledge you cant talk a clit into making an appearance can you? so if there was something that was actually wrong then perhaps i am making a mistake in seeing the therapist.
Going to see a sex therapist is a very good idea. http://www.aasect.org/directory.asp You can use this to locate one near you
