FWIW, my wife has to go to that "naughty place" in her mind to come. Watching videos of lesbians kissing helps her too. I think that for women, reaching a climax is 80% mental and 20% physical.
My first wife had much the same problem as you, and she was overweight too. She had a VERY small clit, that was hard to find, and was SUPER sensitive.No vibrators or rough handling...I found, that when I finally discovered it, that if I was 'very' gentle with my tongue, she could orgasm...but ONLY once. ...after that she was too tender to continue. For much of our married life, that was the only way she could orgasm..penetration did NOTHING for her...so I spent a LOT of time with my face between her legs..after a while she relaxed enough to let me lick her. Thank god I love eating pussy,and making my lady happy..
Take your time and explore in front of a mirror. Masturbate alot... it helps. Ask your gynecologist about how to separate the labia and show you all your parts down there. Most doctors and medical would show you and will use an abundance of caution to not make it awkward but rather a learning opportunity.
Tell him to explore with his tongue and fingers until he finds it. Repeat as necessary. If that doesn't work offer to grey someone to help him
No need to be embarrassed...don't be shy to ask, after all you are paying him/her for the service and consultation...in matters of sex in a room between 2 persons whether of the same sex or not, you can freely communicate with each other without embarrassment esp if it is a professional visit n consultation and check with a stranger not known closely to you and who you may never see again
I LOVE Your attitude regarding Masturbation. So very Open minded of You and absolutely true. We are Sexual beings, and what a wonderful way to fully explore what You enjoy. I also very much enjoy Mutual Masturbation. It is So Erotic and. Sensual watching a Sexy Woman bringing Herself to a toe curling Orgasm, as I pleasure myself to the saime
Not. At. All. Take your time and try this when on your own, firstly. Stroke your pussy all around your inner labia and from back to front along their inner and outer edges. Insert a finger or two and enjoy the sensations that should build over time. You'll begin to feel yourself becoming moist and more slippery. And you'll feel aroused. Once you know you're wet inside and therefore clearly aroused, let the movement of your finger move more forward than your labia, and forward of your urethra. You should find a pea-like thing thats very very sensitive. More sensitive when coming towards it from your pussy (forwards) than when sliding your fingers downward from your tummy. Thats because there's the clitoral hood that's like a little roof over your clit. Coming up from the pussy, your fingers can touch it more directly because they go under the roof, so to speak. Get used to stroking the roof rather than the clit itself. As you get more aroused and also when your clit gets used to the attention, it'll become less sensitive such that you will be able to enjoy your touch. And if you keep stroking, you might find an orgasm takes you over the edge. And practice as often as you like. I suggest you leave the vibrators in the drawer for a while. They can be much too intense. It's also important, imv, to get to know your body and where it feels nice, using your fingers. Once you know it, you can teach him, again, without a vibrator. The only other thing that springs to mind, is when you may receive oral. He shouldn't use the tip of his tongue on your clitoris, at least, not in the beginning. He should get you really aroused first and then using the middle of his tongue surface, where some people have a tongue piercing, put his open lips against you, enveloping the clitoral area and lick you very gently with that centre of his tongue. But, get used to it all yourself first with much solo play. Like oxygen mask in a plane, put it on you first before you can help anyone else. Get used to masturbation and your own special orgasms, before you can teach him. And BTW, what ever size you are - it doesn't matter!!!!! You can get aroused; you can cum from masturbation and in time, you'll be able to cum from him stimulating you. Enjoy the new experiences.
Not all women have clits that protrude much. My wife is one of them. Hers is not visible. She has a plump pussy and her clit is kind of buried where you would expect to see it. It is however very sensitive and I find if I rub the top of her pussy I can stimulate it just by rubbing it up there. Just a little pressure against her pelvic bone and circular rubbing will do the trick. If I mix in a couple of fingers inserted into her and find her g spot that will send her through the roof.
