My Girlfriend's Ass

based on your posts I'd have thought parenthood would never become an issue for you for quite different reasons

 

I think you are trying to generalise about a specific situation with two distinct individuals and inferring things that are not quite correct. I did not know from the outset what he was up to. I didn't really make anything out of it at the time - just that he was doing things that were 'different' to me that felt good. It's hard to explain. He had never said anything about anal sex, never asked or suggested we try it. I didn't think I wouldn't like it I didn't even think about it. He just started playing wiht my ass and I found I liked it. When he first touched my ass with his cock I wondered what it would feel like if he actually put his cock in my ass. In a way it felt like it was my idea.

I was very inexperienced at the time. He was my first proper boyfriend. I had heard about anal sex but I wasn't even sure if people actually did it - that's how inexperienced and ignorant about sex I was. And maybe stupid.

 

While I will go along with people being inexperenced or ignorant about sex, I doubt that you were stupid. Society has stupid attitudes toward sex; yes. Individuals being inexperienced does NOT make them stupid. Indeed, if anything your willingness to experiment and to play outside the square shows anything BUT stupidity.

Give yourself credit, well done.

 

No. Sometimes it's like a jolt and sometimes it's a warm wash of feeling that starts deep inside me. I can't say where it starts or ends only deep inside me and it spreads to the pit of my stomach and radiates up my back, down my legs and arms. It's similar to a normal orgasm but not as intense or as consuming. It's very hard to describe orgasms. It's definitely not a tightly localised sensation.

 

What he said

 

Yes that was a fair question and I have answered it.

 

Now that wasn't a 'niceandeasy' kind of response. We should all try to be tolerant and allow everyone to feel free to ask questions and join in the conversation.

There was nothing nasty about that question but your reply certainly was.

So, you play nice, niceandeasy. Be more tolerant. Be nice. And easy.

 

This.

 

Is 'The Backdoor Man' nickname simply an expression of wishful thinking? Because I can't imagine any woman having anal sex with a man with your apparent attitude.

It's inconcievable to me that a man would leave his wife and child because she will not have anal sex with him. It's also inconcievable to me that a man would marry a woman simply because he wants to have anal sex with her.

Don't you marry someone and have children together because you love them and want to spend the rest of your life with them?

You couldn't fall in love with a woman who wouldn't let you fuck her up the ass? Is it THAT important to you? I mean after all it is simply one of an almost limitless number of things that a man and woman can do together.

Wife Wanted: Must be attractive, intelligent, warm and caring, love children, be loyal and devoted, good sense of humour, patient, tolerant .. Oh and absolutely, positively, must be willing to take it up the ass.

Is there such a thing as an anal obsession? If so, you got it.

 

This is what the Journal of Sexual Medicine had to say about anal:

"Among women who had vaginal sex in their last encounter, the percentage who said they reached orgasm was 65. Among those who received oral sex, it was 81. But among those who had anal sex, it was 94. Anal sex outscored cunnilingus." Table 5, Pages 357-8

"Giving the data another go, he finds that 86 percent of women who had anal also had vaginal sex, 72 percent also received oral sex, and 31 percent also had partnered masturbation. As he puts it, "The more sex acts a woman engaged in during the encounter, the more likely she was to report orgasm. These other activities are what gave the women their orgasms. The anal sex just came along for the ride. ... Women who were getting what they wanted were more likely to indulge their partners' wishes. It wasn't the anal sex that caused the orgasms. It was the orgasms that caused the anal sex."

Victoria Zecret just confirmed EXACTLY what the sex study revealed that women are more than happy to give up that ass if you can pleasure them in bed with orgasms. The problem is that a lot of men are selfish and are only interested in their own pleasure which is exactly why a lot of guys can't get that sweet tight ass.

Personally it's a fetish of mine to give women orgasms, I guess that's why I've been able to have anal sex with EVERY girl I've ever been with. I've even had an anal virgin offer her ass cherry to me due to my analingus skills. She was so curious about anal after I ate her ass that she wanted to know what a dick would feel like in there, she was not disappointed. Anal orgasm are VERY strong for women that much is clear from my experience.

Personally nothing is sexier to me than sticking your face in between the nice warm buns of a women with a thick ass. The tongue is the key that unlocks the backdoor. I think the problem with porn is that it focuses too much attention on the masochistic side of anal rather than the pleasurable side of anal that exposes her to new and explosive orgasms.

Most women have never played with their butt so the first time they have an anal orgasm it surprises the hell out of them.

 

Fuck me. This little tidbit just hit me in the face like a slap.

It's just horrific to think that you and your buddy are bitching about his wife's unwillingness to indulge in anal sex behind her back. I cannot even imagine the conversations you two must have but I can tell you this - your buddy's dilemna would be over very quickly if she ever found out that he's bitching to you about something so personal.

If it's really that important to you both, maybe you and your buddy should get married and then you can fuck each other up the ass all day long.

 

Thank you! :sunny:

 

I was wondering how the topic arose...

Hi Jim, how's the new car?

Oh it's great. Your garden looks good.

yeah, it does. Want a beer? Wife let you in the backdoor yet?

No, we use the front...

I meant her...ummm...rear entrance.

What, the cat door?

No no, you know...her ass.

What about it?

Have you fucked it yet?

SMACK......

 

Personally I feel the same way about The Backdoor Man as you, he sounds like a total scumbag.

But I must admit that I LOVE anal sex enough that I could not go without it. My wife does not like giving blow jobs at all, and that doesn't bother me one bit. I haven't had a blow job in years, but we have anal sex more more than we have vaginal.

As a man there are things I could live without, but anal it not one of them.

Could you as a woman imagine being with a man who would not eat your pussy but was good in every other way, how would you feel about that? Yes it's something small the the devil is always in the details.

 

:2thumbsup:

 

I don't want to claim credit for anything but I agree completely. I love a guy who likes to PLAY. Who likes to make sex FUN. Who treats me with respect and is genuinely concerned about my pleasure as much as his own. I respond to this in a very strong way.

When a guy zeroes in on one thing like a demon it's a real turn off. Whether it's anal sex, cumming ono your tits, in your face, tying you up - whatever.

When a guy worships your entire body - not just the usual tits, ass and ****, then no area of the body is out of bounds.

When a guy wants to make you cum and loves to play around - the more you play around, the more different things you do together, the more comfortable you feel with him and the more likely you will WANT TO do more things with him.

So many guys, God so many, just want to get their cock in your mouth, your **** or your ass, cum and get back to the football or their beer. And they go whinge to their mates that "she won't let me fuck her up the ass".

The thing that made the biggest impact on me when I first had sex with a woman was how long it took. This was, to me, the thing that was the most different between sex with a man and sex with a woman.

In my experience sex with MOST (not all) men usually lasts about 30 minutes from go to whoa. Often less. With a woman it can last for hours. Hours and hours. We kiss, we caress, we lick, suck, we talk, we play, we have fun. It's not over when one of us cums. Just about every man I've been with loses interest in sex the moment he cums. I don't know if men are biologically wired that way or what it is. But it's fucking sad.

When a guy goes down on me with enthusiasm and energy just after he's cum it drives me totally fucking nuts and makes me want to do anything for him.

Sorry, I know I ramble on too much.

 

God this thread is getting interesting. That is a very good point. I'll try and answer honestly.

My first response was that going down on a woman doesn't have the same taboo and yuk factor as anal sex. But. Everyone is different and some men find going down on a woman as disgusting as women find anal sex.

I've only come across one guy who wouldn't do it at all. Only one. But I've had a more than a few guys who were markedly reluctant and who obviously didn't like it. I actually saw a guy turn away and screw up his face before gritting his teeth and getting into it half heartedly. I was horrified and angry. I thought my **** smelled bad or something. I became paranoid over it and spent a fortune on deodorant and perfume.

I have to admit though that going down on a woman was the only thing that prevented me from having sex with a woman for so long. May sound strange but it's true and the first time I was up close and personal with a **** I found it daunting. I did exactly the same thing that guy did. They smell very different up close, they taste funny, all tangy and kind of electric at first and they feel so squishy and strange on your lips and tongue.

So I can understand it. We're all different, we don't all enjoy the same things.

This may sound like a cop out but I can't imagine myself falling in love with a man who didn't enjoy going down on me.

But to answer your question directly, assuming everything else was perfect (which I doubt) then YES, it's a dealbreaker.

 

Godammit. Now I feel like a hypocrit. But anal sex is not as important as oral sex when guys still have a perfectly good **** to fuck but oral sex is the only way I get to have an orgasm.

 

I'm amused at all the replies taking Backdoorman seriously. Anal whores....LOL

:rofl:

But once you stop laughing about it, and think for a moment, it's pretty sad really.