Never say never

I think your other suggestions are good, but a restraining order can be helpful. It tells him that you're serious. And if he does do something again, which he might because he's not rational, then there already has been a record established that you had reason to think he was dangerous. It didn't come out of nowhere.

When my ex wouldn't stop threatening and harrassing me a little time in jail made him realize that I was serious.

Nobody should think, of course, that having a restraining order means that a person who has hurt them before will just stop because of the restraining order. Still, change your locks, have your friends escort you, lock the doors even when you're at home, etc.

The restraining order can help you to have the law on your side.
There was a time when I thought I would never want to have the police on 'my side'. But when a crazy man is angry at you, um, yeah, some armed professionals can come in handy.

Don't make the mistake of assuming that this crazy incident was a one-time thing. Hopefully it was, but you don't know. Right now you just need to think about your safety.

 

if you're scared I have a really good, grounded book about this stuff. I can give you the name, and I highly recommend it. It's written by a man who people who have issues with stuff like this go to, all over the world. A huge message in the book is about intuition.. let me know if you're interested.

 

damn I'm sorry I don't know what to say. Yes guys can xhange but even if they do and it never happens again you're still afraid no matter what they say and that's not cool. It sounds like he thought he would never lose you and doesn't know how to cope now that he has. Rehardless of whether or not you stay with him he needs hekp if he has that potential for violemce. I'm so sorry this happened to you but I'm glad you're okay. lots of love

 

(((((((((Moe))))))) I am so sorry you had to go through this.

This is NOT a "one time thing" abusers continue to abuse. It will only get worse, (and if you think it can't, think again!) You are doing the RIGHT thing by leaving him. I think an order of protection would be a VERY good idea. This man sounds dangerous. He needs to keep away from you. See the police about a restraining order. PLEASE!

Stay safe, Moe girl!

Love and blessings,

Maggie

 

I am in a very safe place with friends. I have people going to my apartment all the time to check up on him, and try to convince him to move home. I have called his parents and they are trying as well. So, I feel quite safe.

I am excited to move on, but it is very hard to not dwell on the past. It's so hard to not think about all the good times we had and reconsider. I know I have control and I won't break down and go back, but it is hard and I need all the help I can get.