New to Anal...love it

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Hello there!

I'm new to anal as well, we have only experimented with oral and fingers.
What tips would you give for a first time? Should you anal douche beforehand? Whats the best way to relax?

Many thanks

 

Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned.. The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and sphincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all. Anal play for beginners Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY. First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure. Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP! Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in. Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug. Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK! After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco! GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE! The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.

 

Thank you tommyhot, that's a great intro, i cant wait to give it ago. I'm still wondering about the anal douching thing or would a nice soak in a bath suffice?

 

I've never anal douched before hand, couldn't hurt I suppose. If I'm in the mood for anal play but there's crap up there I just wait for another night.
"Not that some enema fun couldn't be enjoyed either though!

 

hey pixie doll..can I ask you a question? I don't think i'm too big or anything (6 to 6 and a 1/2 inches with slightly larger than average girth I suppose)...would this be okay for a girl? I've never done anal but plan to do it and I'm not sure if a girl would be okay with it or if I would just get turned away. When I've tried in the past, it hasn't gone well....so how is a guy supposed to start to get the girl relaxed?

 

I can only go on my own experience, so it could be different for other people. But, my bf is a good 7 inches or so. It seemed intimidating at first, but most of the credit really goes to him. he really knew what he was doing. He made me feel very comfortable. I didn't have a lot of experience with anal, and all the previous experiences didn't go well. it honestly never occured to me I would like anal. He went really, really slow. Some girls are embarrassed, because they think it will be dirty, or that it will be really painful. You have to let her know that there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Sometimes during anal, or anal play, there may be traces of poo. It is just a fact of life. Let me explain how it went for me. I was super nervous the first few times. It was hard to relax, but he was so patient, attentive and understanding. He would start with all the yummy foreplay. kissing, stroking, petting. Going down on me, and then he would work in a few good licks around the beamus hole..lol..yeah, I just said beamus hole. Anywho, it feels really good to get rimmed. I understand it isn't for everyone, but if you want a girl to be relaxed, number oe is getting her really good and wet, and an awesome orgasm. make her feel beautiful, wanted and special. Play with the back door. Rubbing it, without working your finger in. You need to do that for a while. It feels really good to have it played with when someone is going down on you. I would get her comfortable with anal play a few times before you even try anal. if she isn't feeling it, then just stop. If we aren't relaxed, you might as well forget it. get to the point, where you can eventually work a finger in, while licking and eating her out. Maybe even try a butt plug, if she gets comfortable with anal play and fingers. I like spooning as a starter position the first couple times. And the girl has to be in charge of the whole thing. Kinda let her back ito you, and get comfortable with a little bit at a time. she will feel more comfortable if she is in charge, and then her body can adjust at her own pace. I would also say, very important, that she either has a vibe, fingers, something rubbing her clit, or stimulating during anal. It was alot easier for me when I was also playing with my clitty. And the orgasms when you have a dick in your ass.....amazing!! I know this is long and convoluted, sorry for that. Thee ADD makes it a little hard to write in an intelligible manner. hope that helps some, and feel free to ask anymore questions