Not Buying Stuff

i just really want to have more stuff

 

Its a commercial holiday, plain and simple. Anyone who isn't satisfied because you didn't spend enough on their gift doesn't need a gift at all, they need a reality check. Anyone who feels they need to spend money to satisfy someone doesn't need to spend money, they need a reality check. Anyone who tolerates either of the above mentalities also needs a reality check.

The article you linked to earlier hits the nail on the head - having things doesn't make you happy, life isn't about being locked up in a room and ordering all sorts of cool things off the internet... its about going out and LIVING LIFE!!!! Its about LOVE FRIENDS AND FAMILY!!!!

In a conversation which incites more interest:

"malia got me a sweet watch!!!!"
"malia made me the most heartfelt gift I could have gotten!!"

Heartfelt gift is going to probably be the center of the conversation for the next few minutes and a post it stuck in the brain of everyone who hears about it... you just can't go on about a watch, there is nothing special about a watch.

 

Whats your point in posting this, twice?

I can only imagine the trickery you have in mind... I'll play along if it'll make you happy.

 

That is true. It is much nicer to receive a gift, knowing that the person spent 3 hours making it, with you in mind the entire time, than the gift that took 20 seconds to click, enter a shipping address & credit card number, and ship out.

Life shouldn't be about material objects, which is why I'm not buying anything. I want to take the time to show people that I care more by making stuff. And I want to take the time during my no-spending-year to make things that I can use rather than just buying it. I want to feel the pride in knowing I made something for myself or for others. That's what loving life with family is about...knowing you have something to be proud of...memories, fun times, etc.

 

But those purchases for pleasure only lead to more purchases for pleasure... its a bottomless pit that most of the country is falling down right this second.

I was... then I asked myself, why am I pushing this motor to the breaking point???? Fast, sure, but what about when the motor explodes and costs me $1000 to fix, and in the meantime I've got no a-b transportation... that just wasn't a concern before, because I wanted more more more.

That money is so much better spent going out and doing something... I could have seen the blue man group like I've always wanted, or go to a concert (or 10!), or fly to florida.... ANYTHING, but no, $ dumped into a motor that will only explode...

That mentality can't be propogated as normal, its no more than a bottomless pit of inadequacy.

 

why do you assume i have some sort of trickery in mind?

i'm just stating my love for having a bunch of stuff

 

If you are concerned with having lots of "stuff" you are mislead. Read above posts as to why.

 

i dont' buy into your belief that i'm mislead

 

man, if its a passion of yours, it's a passion. If it wasn't, then yeh, pouring money into a car probably is pointless.

i'm sure right now instead of typing on a forum you can be in florida or seeing the blue man group too.

Purchases for pleasure are not EVIL man. Chill. Maybe if thats the only thing that makes you happy. But I can buy and buy an endless amount of paints, pastels, charcoal,brushes, canvas. And just want more. And the idea of dieing with having spent so much money on paints and pencils...I actually love. It's a passion thats worth the money.

 

If the world knew that, we'd be in a different world

 

I think what he was saying was that he realized after dropping the money that it wasn't worth it in the beginning due to the loss of money. There were other dreams he could have been fulfilling with that money

A passion is amazing. My passion is writing and I do it as much as I can...granted, it doesn't require much money to be spent..maybe $5 a month.

If you are following your passion, by all means, go all out. What I've been saying is that I don't see the need to spend money on thing that isn't NEEDED in my life

 

Right now I'm broke, thats the main reason I'm here. I've already exausted my job search resources, now I gotta sit with my thumb up my ass and wait, its agonizing.

Buying paint/pens etc is buying consumables.. those are things you use until you need new ones. Thats definitely worth spending the money on if you use them.

My point (and this post) was about wasting money on things that don't really accomplish anything. TV's, shoes, bags, car... etc... things that you get to perhaps already replace something perfectly functional, and still only want better/bigger/faster. *That* is the destructive mentality - nothing wrong with needing a new pencil after you run out of lead lol.

There is a thin line between passion and excess, in fact they normally run hand n hand... just a matter of asking why you are so passionate. Personally I wish to serve a greater purpose than building the fastest yaris in the USA... and I do feel anyone who lets themselves be enveloped in such things is ignoring what is truly important.

I remember watching the show MTV did on street racing (or vh1?), there was a guy who had a wife/girlfriend (very hot btw) who he ENTIRELY ignored to work on his car, and that was the norm.

When I first saw that, I didn't see a problem, the guy just loves his car.

I saw it recently and thought, wow that guy is going to lose what is really important in life because he wants to dedicate his life to a car... he was me.

 

And a lot of people don't take the time to find their passion. Most of them follow the needs of society with their MBA's and Ph.D.'s just to make a buck. Is that their passion? Maybe...a lot of people have a passion for making money and being financially set. Some people, however, are lucky enough to find their passion. They know how to get it and when they do-the money spent is more than worth it.

 

I find there is very little passion in the world at the moment... people so guided by norms and morals that they don't even try to find their "true calling".

Nobody is born to make money, money serves no purpose. People get attached to "stuff", want more of it, work as hard as they possibly can, and get all the "stuff" they want... but thats not what life is all about.

The lack of truly GOOD doctors is a major issue, right now we've got a bunch of monkeys writing prescriptions for pills they get paid to sell. The good doctors are the ones who would do it just to make an honest living, not to be doctor 90210.

 

and MY point is, if he fucking loves his car, let him love his car. you know? I love heels. I love love heels. I dont blow money i dont have on them, but if I have one pair im sure you can say its pointless to have anymore. But you know what? I dont give a fuck. It's a little pleasure that I love.

yeah, I realize whats important in life too. but NOTHING is wrong with indulging on material things sometimes. I'm not trying to live a self righteous life and make it like i'm better/smarter then everyone else because I don't buy material things.
I buy high heels. And I love it.

 

Yes, and I can't afford much right now, so I'm choosing to use what I have until I know I can afford to splurge once in a while. A lot of people that are in financial ruts don't really think to stop splurging on what they don't need. They feel they deserve it. If I accomplish something that I feel deserves something, I'll make myself a nice meal before buying something I won't use. I feel I have enough things to find pleasure in without going out and buying more at the moment.

 

Why do you love buying shoes? Why does he love spending all his time under the hood of his car? The point is that there are much more gratifying things to do with that money... I can't imagine anyone looking back on their life and preferring... "wow those $200 pair of shoes were awesome" over "Those 3 concerts I went to were incredible"... see what I'm sayin?

The guy has his head up his ass while his wife/girlfriend tolerates that he spends no time with her... when he's on his deathbed you think he's gonna think "wow my car was fast!" or "I lost the love of my life over a car".

Now, buying a pair of shoes every once in a while isn't so serious, the problem is is directly proportionate to the amount of sacrifice you give in order to maintain that vice.... I doubt your shoes take over your life... but that guy is entirely enveloped in something that is accomplishing nothing but taking all his time and money.

I was exactly like him at one point... but I caught it and ceased before I lost sight of what was truly important in life. That "passion"was not passion at all, passion infers some sort of satisfaction... I would have never been satisfied... I'd put it more toward OCD.

Excess begs more excess...

 

actually, id like to go down in the ground rocking some steve maddens or jimmy choo's. Gota go in style my brotha.

But yeh, maybe you value concerts. I value feeling good. If some cute heels makes me feel good when im having a bad day, im all for it.

Not everyone is prick who ignores his gf because of a materialistic obsession

 

I'm sayin possesions are not the way to true happiness, your sayin you like buyin shoes when you get down.

True happiness is not a pair of shoes, thats appeasement until you want the next pair

 

and im saying you need to stop telling people what should and shouldnt make them happy.


chill.

live your own life.