Not Very Happy

you're more than welcome to fill us in.

 

Lol. You're a broken record.

 

I am not forgetting this. Most of the people who walk over us tend to be people who have power over us for obvious reasons. Either you show them that you are not scared of them simply because they are more ppowerful than you or you will end up a bitter person who allows more powerful people to mistreat you and who lets out the anger that they give you on those who are weaker than you, and therefore become like such bullies.

I am tough and I have a lot of work and studying experience in the world, but you need to learn that being tough and having experienced problems in life is not going to stop you from getting further serious problems later in life and from such problems making you feel pain later on in life as well. In fact such problems hurt more as an adult when youre ego is greater and the problems are more complex.

That was not why I told that person that he did not know what I was going through. It was a reaction towards someone saying that I give up easily. You cannot know how easily I give up in life without knowing what I have been through, to make me feel like shit.

Anyway, I blasted the lecturer. He blasted me back and said he is surprised that I had the balls to say what I said, and next week I have to meet him for advice on my article, in which I will tell him that I misundertood him and told him I thought he was blaminging me for the presenters not coming when he was simply mad that I was late for which I am sorry for and know that it was wrong.

However he reacts, I think that I did the right thing in putting him in his place. I no longer have this anger in me which most people had advised me to swallow.

 

I'm a teacher, too, and I could never justify shouting at my students.

Students should be treated as customers, not kids. (Unless they are actually kids, but it would still be wrong to shout at them)

OK, so someone comes late. That just sucks for that person - they will have missed out on some stuff the rest of the class got to learn. Not something to get in a fuss about, unless they disturb the class when they arrive.

Sounds like your teacher either had a bad day, or could be better suited to some other profession. Or both.

 

How old are you, 21 or so? You make me laugh because you are a young student and think you know everything. I can recognize it seeing as I was the same way. And I've been hot headed my whole life and still have some degree of bitterness about certain things, so don't think that releasing aggression or anger will prevent bitterness.

Idealism set aside, respect is earned in the world and especially in the job market. Carry that attitude into work as a fresh grad with nothing more to offer than the thousands of other grads in the job pool, and you'll find yourself on a string of unemployment.

It wasn't until I had expertise and was very valuable to a company that I could be an opinionated asshole again.

 

"the student is always right" could make for an interesting educational experience...

 

By making a wrong guess about my age, based on what I have written, you have completely convinced me that you are obviously an excellent judge of people's personality. However allow me to aske some questions in response to what you said, smart alec:

When did I say that I know everything? Would I be even asking this question if I knew everything including the answer to the question that I have just stated?

Why is not letting everyone boss you around being hot headed?

When did I say that I believed that I could prevent being bitter altogether? It is by expressing my bitterness that I am simply not letting it eat me inside.

Having had a lot of work experience myself I also must ask you, what is it about your work experience that makes you think that you can lecture me about what I need to do to get and keep a job?Do you own facebook or something or are you a multimilionare?

 

I was judging your posts, which I hope are simply young and naive. I know little about your personality but I do know that at some point you will be humbled. Which believe me is not a bad thing.

You never said you know everything however you did post implying you need advice and direction, but were closed off to anything said. You decided you needed to 'blast him' and not take shit, and that was that.

I don't own Facebook or have millions in the bank. I am a high producing auto tech that makes the company I work for 2500-5000 per day with my own hands, knowledge and tools, on mainly high end European imports. So I get a lot of respect and basically do what I want. I've worked a wide range of jobs where I was expendable, and I have a bachelor degree which put me at the bottom of the job pool with all the other grads. I've worked for lawyers and multimillion dollar businesses outside of the automotive industry. The owners of my company are very wealthy but the function of their business depends on people like me since they do not have that skill set. That's what I mean by expertise. A set of skills, a license of some sort or talent that makes you critical for a business to operate.

So basically all I am saying is that I wouldn't let something like pride come out too often, at least until you start getting to that point in whatever your path might be.

 

Well you were wrong when trying to guess my age and you are wrong in saying that it is naive to express yourself and that people who do it only do so out of pride. That is a silly thing to suppose.

I never said I wanted advice. I was annoyed and so I made this thread to express my irritation. It was not an open invitation to put me in my place.

Though advice is welcome in this thread you could have done many other things like to relate to similar situations that you had or tell me what an arse the lecturer is or say things will be fine. If you put someone in their place and tell them their being a softy for showing that they have human qualities such as emotions people are not bound to be happy at that.

Yes I did blast him, so what? Sometimes you have to do that.

AS for you're expertese I am so impressed. You own a Bachelors degree, became an auto mechanic and make money for everyone apart from yourself.

What has that got to do with pride, and while we are at it where is yours?

 

I get what you are saying about going about it in a different way, I'm very opinionated about certain things and need to work on that.

And you obviously missed my point about the expertise. I make the shop way more than I make, but I make more than most people I know. Money is not my point, my point is I can show up late and tell them to fuck off if they give me shit. That attitude was not a good thing when I was a student or apprentice. You'll figure it out.

 

Are you in the UK? I hear that the teachers and profs there yell all the time at kids and youth, because it's the only effective way to get their attention.

 

I stuied in the UK, but I do not study there now. The English lecturers did strike me as being polite. Many of them are stuck, but I was never screame at by one.

 

OK, I apologised to the lecturer and told him I was on on meds and other stuff. He said to forget the issue and that we should meet up to discuss how to go about writing the rest of my paper. LOL

 

Agreed. Just remember after this semester, you will not have to deal with him anymore.

 

Thanks bud!

 

Oh, shit now I handed in the paper later than I said I would because that wanker kept giving me additional stuff to read and now he is really getting a kick out of it by sending me nasty emails.

I swear if he will not give me a grade I will tell him he could not write himself out of a paperbag, interpret a fact if it jumped out of one of his books and told him he was a fact, and that I would anyway not ask him to supervise any thesis I wrote if he were the last nut job in the whole Department.

So much for modesty.

 

Now the lecturer wants to "discuss" my paper privately. What th hell, is this going to be a paddling session or something?