Older men..

My boyfriend who is 43 told me that when he turned 40 he started dating a girl half his age. After one week he realised that they had absolutely NOTHING in common and told her that he'd made a mistake. They hadn't even gotten to the point of sex yet. He just didn't find her intellectually stimulating. She was unable to have a conversation with. I'm not saying that applies to you; but you should find out what motives a fifty year old man would have, to want to have a relationship with a child...

 

Hey everyone, thanks for your comments

Wiz, how was it with you and Rider.. have you been together for long? And were you good friends before you started dating, did you wait for her to turn 18?
Sorry, this may be none of my business by the way

And i know i'm still only a child, i'm fully aware for that and that's why i wouldn't do anyting now.. i'll wait till i'm 18, i know it's the right thing to do.

Thanks again for your nice comments people.

 

Hey Sara, sorry for posting this publicly but I haven't been able to reach you. I'm not sure if you are intentionally blocking me or not. But if I offended you, I just wanted to say I'm really sorry. Maybe I got a little carried away but I wasn't being totally serious. I would love to talk to you again, but I understand if you don't want to.

Oh and I'm 24, that's an older man to you, so I'm not off-topic.

 

We met each other on this site back in May, and as for things in common: hmm, art, music, movies, idealogies, etc. The first time we spoke on the phone our conversation lasted 7 hours with no lapse. We talked until the batteries on the phones died, LOL. Literally.
Then we were in constant communication day to day - either phone-email or AIM.
A Momth ago we decided that we woudl meet in Wiz's home in Woodstock. I flew from North Cariolina and met him in NYC at the airport.
He rented a Limo and took me from NYC up into The Mountians and Woodstock NY.

From that day we have been together and I help him in his three businesses. Our days are spent working-hiking up in the Mountians-Listening to great music at home or going to teh local Rock Club so he can photo shoot the bands. All of our other time we talk about anything from Art to the meaning of The Universe and life.
We believe that we are just Spirits having a HUMAN experience and our bodies are just the Physcial Containors. Also thet ALL of our Spirts are AGE LESS. Plus we have the best Sex Life anyone would want-I'm 19 and The Wiz taught Tantra Sex over the years.
So I guess that's why a 54 year old would enjoy the freshness of a 19 year old who has so much in common.
The key is to reamin CHILD LIKE and NOT CHILDISH!
Follow your heart but wait until you are 18. Till then have fun and learn about one another. Love-Light and Peace The Wiz and Rider On The Storm , Woodstock, NY

 

Sara:
You seem like a very bright young woman to me. I would guess that we could talk for hours, but if someone such as yourself were interested in me (40 year old man), I would have say, "Wait until your 18". It is very flattering to have someone young interested in us "old men"!

 

I'm glad this topic came up! I'm 23, he's 51. Like Wiz & Rider, we met here in November, we talk on the phone daily for hours & love each other more than anything. He's more worried about how I'll feel going out w/him than I am, but that's 1 of the thngs I love about him. We even joke about me liking old men. We even plan on marrying & having a child or children. I get a little worried about what people will think, but then I think "screw them, who are they?" and "I don't care." I just worry about what his son (who's 21 I believe) will think. I can't wait to be w/him soon and I hope it'll work out. Sometimes I feel like I'm in some sort of soap opera or something, but it's kinda fun too (hehehe). Good luck!

 

yes, please.....

 

i personally like guys to be a lot older than i am. in fact, i've been going out with 30s somethings that still acted like they were 18!! so i guess age is just a number, but on the positive side, they had more experience

 

that's great! i'm truly happy for you guys Best of luck to you two

why thank you but like i've said before, i would never get involved with an older man till i'm 18. Even though i like older men now, i still wouldn't do anything with someone that much older till i'm 18.

 

My hubby and I are 21 years apart we met when I was 18 & he was 40. We've been together 5 years. We bonded over music. He teaches me things, I make sure he doesn't turn into a bitter old man. But at 15 thats a little young.

 

sure

 

eww gross

 

That's great, i'm real happy for ya guys

 

I'm in a very bad place right now. I stay at home and I'm 21. For almost the past year and a half, I've been in a relationship with a 38 year old. My parents never knew (I didnt tell them for fear of how they'd react) until this past sunday. I lied to them about where I was going on vacation and anyway, they found out. My mom feels betrayed but her reaction is exactly why I didnt tell her. I wanted to tell her, but only after I was out of the house. She thinks that he is a pervert who only wants sex and preys on "babies". She also thinks that there is no way for him to see anything in me besides a lay. My sweetie is my best friend and I'm his. My home relationship is in shambles right now and my mom is distancing herself and rebelling.



When confronted on sunday, I lied to her about how long we'd been together. I thought that would somehow make things better. As she knows it, we've only been an item for 7 months. She says that we wont last and we've lasted already twice as long. On top of it all, this is a long distance relationship. She just doesnt understand how committed we are to one another. How I'm in fact an adult, with my own mind, who is no more susceptible to being taken for a ride by an older man than a woman her age.

 

i'm so sorry to hear about you situation hun *hugs* i think my mum would act exactly the same way yours did, if she found out i was dating a guy much older than myself. Some people just can't see how two people with that much age difference can be in a relationship. But maybe you just have to give her some time.. you just broke the news to her so perhaps she only needs to get used to the idea. I bet that in time when she sees how committed you are to one another, she'll understand.
Sit down with her and try to talk to her, and be honest.. everything will work out at the end, just give it some time
Love ya!

 

I don't think being attracted to older men is the least bit bad or wrong, or even that out of the ordinary. I've been attracted to older guys since I was about 14/15, but even now that I could legally be with one I don't see it happening anytime soon. I'm easily intimidated by anyone older than me, especially men, and I know that intimidation would probably stand in the way of a strong, healthy relationship. I would constantly be worried that he was thinking that I'm immature or childish. Also, since I've never been attracted to guys my age I haven't gained much sexual experience, so I'd feel inferior in that sense as well. I suppose that if a person truly loved me for me that my inexperience in life and sex wouldn't matter, but it's getting to the point of love with an older man that seems so doubtful and impossible.

Sorry about the rambling. What I basically intended to say was that your attractions are normal, and I hope that when you reach 18 you're able to form a strong relationship with the right man, regardless of his age.

 

you're so right maggie! i totally agree with you.
but i think i'm just gonna leave men in general alone for now.. i need to take some time to get over the last one..

 

I'm 22 and he's 35. I met him, lost him met him again. Slept with him and promptly moved in. It just went that way that we clicked beautifully. I'm giddy and impulsive and he's a steady rock that keeps me grounded. He was getting into a rut and calls me his angel who brought light into his life. We're engaged and having our baby in October. I think older men can be wonderful, but just like any man young OR old you have to honestly question motives. Once you've answered them to your satisfaction, anythings game!

 

aww that's a wonderful story, i'm so happy for the two of you
but you're right, i've learned that older man can be just as much pigs as younger guys..

 

I've follwed your thread here and I've got to tell you that the remarks you've made, your decision to wait, and the advice you've offered others show me that you already have maturity and wisdom beyond many I've met three or four times you age. If the man you choose is right for you he will be more than willing to wait for someone like yourself. Wishing you a beautiful life....