On Being Thin...

You guys will learn that when you get older you have to work HARD to maintain that look, just as women do.

When I was 20, I was 6', weighed 155. I surfed, biked and skateboarded everywhere and hated fast food. When I was 30 I was 240 because I had an office job and 2 kids to rear on my own, no time for me or to eat right. Now, in my 40's, I'm hiking, working out of doors daily and my weight is at 200, and I look good.

Don't throw the hard work to stay in shape on the women, keep it on yourself. Besides, after she's had a child or two and gotten that rounded, Goddess-figure body, Mmmmmm yeah...

 

haha nah he's not like that at all. he was a tour kid back in the day.. no inflated ego there. haha. yeah i don't think it's necessary to "pump iron". i mean, if you have big muscles because your job requires you to lift stuff all day, that's sexy.
but the thick neck thing... ::shudders:: haha

 

ewww, and the veiny look they get when they work out all the time? bleeeccchhh!

Zoomie, 2 kids and an office job and you're still healthy and sane? you rock! No seriously, all men should be like you. and hiking is the best.

And I agree, if you're muscular because of your lifestyle that's sexy. If you're muscular because you spend hours in the gym every day, not sexy. That time could be spent elsewhere.

 

I can't wait, counting the days..

 

Looks do matter to an extent, but to me the way in which a guy carries himself means the most.

Let's say we have two guys...same exact body, tall and thin. Guy 1 walks with his arms crossed infront of his chest, head down, back hunched. Guy 2 stands tall, arms casually at his side, head up, straight, tall posture. Same guy, one is much much much more attractive. Same goes with fat guys. With just a few minor alterations you can go from looking like a scrawny insecure guy to a lean confident guy. Little, effortless change, big difference.

Another thing about skinny guys. For years if you asked me I would tell you that there's no way I'd want to date a skinny guy. The statement itself was true, but it really had nothing to do with the guy, but more to do with my insecurities about my own weight. I was afraid I would feel gross and fat with a thin guy, so I would only let myself go for bigger guys.

Pretty sad and pathetic, but that's the way it was. I hate to say it, but a lot of the insecurities guys feel about weight probably come from us ladies projecting our own securities out onto you. We're wired to desire our strong protector, ya know? But as us ladies push our "normal" weights higher and higher, it follows suit that we still want our big strong protector, and as we grow, we kind of force his image to also.

Anyways, I'm still not completely over my insecurities about my own weight, but I can atleast see them for what they are and not let them interfere with potential mates. I've dated skinny guys since, and after I get over the initial jealousy and insecurity of not being as lean as him, I love it. A nice thin body is so beautiful and natural looking. Like I mentioned above, there's an extent that that can go to, but I doubt many of you go there. (I'm talking the look of a concentration camp victim) If you're simply healthy and inshape and maintain a slim physique then I wouldn't stress it. Be proud and thankful for such a beautiful form

And as previously mentioned...there is something to be said for those wirey guys in bed.