Open Relationships But Married?

He really can, its not all overtly sexual in most of his songs.

 

I haven't read all the comments in this thread but I think this varies per relationship. I don't think there is a blanket right or wrong answer to this. It ultimately depends on the 2 people in the relationship. As long as they agree on what their expectations are from each other then that's all that matters whether it be an open relationship or not. I don't feel like its anyones place to judge others on what they choose to do within their own marriage or relationship.

 

The fact that something is good does not mean I can suddenly own another person. I thought slavery was dead. To me, the part of my marriage that is most important is actually impossible to share. Our daily struggles and successes through life together, the little emotional injuries we bring home, the bursts of giddiness from everything going according to plan, and the inside jokes from those you-had-to-be-there moments. When I am anti-social, I still want to talk to him. When I want to be all by myself, it doesn't feel like it is an intrusion if he wants to sit quietly with me. That is not something that can be shared, even if I wanted to share it. There isn't a way. Sex is just not that serious, and it so different from partner to partner that while I wouldn't be opposed to monogamy as long as sex was really regular and not at all sporadic, I just don't see it as ideal or even natural. In fact, I never saw monogamy as natural, which was precisely why I liked it. I liked knowing that my dude and I still lusted after others and simply did not act on it. I liked the difficulty. However, monogamy is just not right for my husband and I. We tried it, and didn't like it.

 

It's inaccurate according to YOU.
I'm aloud to have my own opinion too. Too bad.

I should note that some things I say just to poke around at people. You can tell when I'm more serious, however.
I'll leave people guessing with this one.

 

That's exactly what I'm saying. It's inaccurate to a lot of people.

 

But it's also accurate to a lot of people.

 

And that's totally fine, but it shouldn't be stated as a blanket fact. It's strictly opinion.

 

Yes.
And posts are getting really ridiculous.

I brought my opinion on previous pages. It's all opinion, as is anyone else's.
It was clearly stated as opinion all along, if anyone took the time to read.
Case closed.

 

People have a problem with opinions here.

 

Oh lawd. I'm totally fine with opinions. In fact, I love quiet storms posts. I'm just saying, when it comes to issues like this, you can't generalize what's right and what's wrong. Also, I wasn't aware that she was just poking around.

 

Sorry MAMA that was honestly not directed at you
I almost put in the post that it wasn't directed at you

 

It was directed at me. But heres the thing, Quiet Storm and I are in agreement and we both know that. But since you're here just trying to stir up trouble with me, you missed that point.

 

See, now you're the one causing things, because that was certainly not directed at you, either,
Sorry sweetie.

We're also in agreement here. I'm not into sharing.

If you reread my post, I said "people on here"
And there's a lot. (of people on here)

It seems you're the one missing the point. I posted in this thread a while before your conceited ass showed up, so who's the one causing shit? Learn to read. Your name wasn't in my post.

 

Just gonna go ahead and put you on ignore now. Kind of had enough of this and all your PM's from last night. Adios!

 

Sigh. Back to density. It's like some people can't read.

 

It's all good Mama.

It's a risk being controversial or going against the grain. I was sincere about my overall opinion.
But when I say stuff like...how good a pussy or dick is, I'm just poking at people. I have a devious side, you know. I like to sometimes provoke people who think they told me off, but playfully.

 

My wife and I don't have a traditional open relationship. Instead, she has many other partners but I don't. When she has sex with another man, which happens a lot, she tells me all the details of who, how, when and where. Sometimes I even watch. that's our thing but its not for everybody.

 

The woman I lost my virginity to was in the final stages of a divorce, after her husband had come out of the closet & accepted his Gayness. Following that, they remained the best of friends, but both were quite content to have each other have partners round, while they had casual sex with their respective partners in their own rooms. In fact, even on the second time I had sex with her (the first time had been in my own digs), I could hear her husband & his partner having sex in the other room & that, in itself was even more of a turn on for me, when I was already bursting with horniness at the expectation of my impending 2nd sexual experience.

I never did find out if the knowledge of we were getting up to affected the guys in the other room in the same way as their actions affected me, but it wouldn't surprise me in the slightest.

 

My wife has always had a higher libido than I, for lots of complex reasons I started to have erection difficulties about four years ago and thought we were heading for divorce. In short I knew she was falling for her boss and suspected they might have been having an affair. As I was considering challenging her about her relationship she announced she was going on a "course" with him to Antigua. I was knew it wasn't a course as that type of thing didn't happen within her firm.

On her return I just asked her if she'd had sex with him whilst she was away, her reply was "of course we had sex what did you expect?" This instantly removed any doubt from the equation and asked her if she was going to leave me. She said she'd like us to stay together but our emotional relationship was over and she wished to be sexually exclusive to her lover and asked me if their was anything I would like to be doing and asked if I was gay (which surprised me she even thought that) and said she suspected for sometime I had cross dressed. I said I loved her, was certainly not gay and wished to continue caring for her even though our sex life had been over for some time.

We seemed to skip quiet quickly to a situation whereby I was basically very submissive to her and enjoyed being her housemaid. Her relationship with her boss finished about 12 months ago but she was now very much hooked on young black guys. I have never witnessed her encounters but we both enjoy getting her ready for new dates and the whole scenario,

 

How old were you when this happened?
46?