Opposites attract OR birds of a feather

Not to piss on your social psychology class (psychology is interesting and science has its place) but it depends on the individual case. Whilst on the one hand, Hitler and Mother Theresa maybe wouldn't have made a great couple, but some opposites do attract and contrasting qualities can create intrigue and affection.

I think it's about how two people get along together. Some couples retain there "spark" because their relationship is somewhat tempestuous.
Also, any two people can be seen as birds of a feather in their minds (not necessarily to others) - connections can be found between any two people if you look hard enough.

 

My wife and I are opposite's. I think chemistry brought us together.
She's very outgoing / I'm shy
She's a neat freak / I'm a bit of a slob
She's full of energy / I'm real laid back
She's a fighter / I'm a negotiator
She like's sour / I like sweet
In the 21 years we have started to share alot of the same values, but she still thinks I'm full of crap about some things and I feel the same about her, but in the whole time we've been together we've never been apart for then a few days and I couldn't imagine waking up next to anyone else.

 

'Mostly' is a word you aren't aware of, huh?

 

I don't recommend getting serious with someone whose world view is opposed to yours, but if you have the same general goals you can disagree about the means of getting there. That kind of debate can be stimulating.

I love a woman with a bit of spunk, someone who stands up for what she believes, but knows that you have to pick your battles wisely. I try to be that way myself.

Physical attraction is a bit elusive. In general I like brown eyed brunettes, but when I think about who I have actually dated, seems to be an equal number of blonds in my past. No high maintenance fashion queens for me, thanks! I am attracted to the girl next door type, but someone who is occasionally sexy and mysterious too.

Like a lot of us, I want someone who brings out the best in me. I would do my best to encourage her to pursue her dreams too.

So in short, I don't think opposites attract, but complementary spirits attract one another. If she were exactly like me, that might be a little dull, too. We should each bring something exciting and new to our respective worlds.

 

Yeah, pretty much for her to be weak in the areas I'm strong in and vice/verca

Makes sense, for a good fit. two kinda crappy people joining to become one pretty capible person.

 

wait a minute, are you being facetious?

 

you took a psychology class, you should be used to it.

EVERY time a psych teacher says "there is a tendency for people to act this way, more often than not," someone jumps up and says "you're wrong, i know one person who didn't act that way once!"

it's one of the reasons i think college admissions should be more selective, but i digress...

 

Wow, I didn't realised I'd be flamed so much for making a comment. Yes I'm also aware what mostly means and that there are exceptions to the rule. I was perhaps suggesting that generalising with mostly is a bit strong, that's all.

 

i wasn't flaming you, i was digressing.

 

I'm trying to stop negging, but you totally deserved one there. Making such a big deal because I pointed out your logical error, and another person started a related rant

 

Sorry, I honestly didn't think it was an error. The thread said "over 90%" and I was suggesting that that figure was a bit bold. Apologies for any misunderstanding.