There are 13-15 y/o's that are sexually active. But I agree with the females who've posted on this topic. 10 years old is a child, (and you'd better get those thoughts out of your head, unless getting raped in a prison shower is another fantasy of yours.)
That's the realization that your phasing out of it. If you never wake up and realize there is a huge gap in mental capacity between you and them which leads to unhappiness then yeah there's a huge chance you'll end up in prison.
i like in the u.k you have all privileges of becoming an adult at 18 but what - hear you ask is the difference between a 17 year old and an 18 year old? not too much at all really. but what about a 17 year old - or virtually adult and a 10 year old or younger? quite a bit. i will level with you though when i was 17 i was dating a girl who was 14.
In large parts of the 'undeveloped', i.e. non-Christian 'third' world, anything upward of 10 years old is considered marriage material. but in medieval Europse it was just as common, what with life expectancy barely exceeding 40 years - that is, if you were aristocracy. Of course, back then, 'children' in the modern sense didn't even exist. By which I mean to say that children for the most part were considered small adults, with none of the sentimental attachments and meanings common today. The history of Western civilization, with the increase in 'standards of living', has witnessed the invention and progressive extension of the idea of childhood. It should be obvious that the common 'age of conscent' (18) is a comparitively arbitrary norm set more for legal purposes than anything. To put it bluntly, it is less out of consideration for the individual's psychological development than out of a more comprehensive need to regulate reproduction of the species as a whole, that such 'moral' norms are set. Contrary to popular hippie belief, sexual taboos aren't just the result of 'ignorant' religious figures acting irrationally puritan. Rather, one could make the argument that religion and its moral codes serve foremost a regulatory 'bio power' function. But we're getting lost in the meta-view here. All I'm saying is w.r.t. the 'rules' of sexuality, is that they are subject to change, depending on the time/socio-economic paradigm. I'm not saying pederastery is in an extra-moral sense excusable. Though at the same time I must note that the most enthusiastic of anti-pedophilic zealots tend to themselves be serious douchebags (convicted murderers, 'normal' rapists, crack dealers in prison, ultra-right war monger Republicans outside, you get the picture). While the desire to protect young children from the wims of dirty old men is in itself perfectly legitimate, it always seems to me that the most ardent of pedophile bashing goes down with people who are in fact themselves (proven) morally bankrupt. It's like a quick moralistic fix. In prison, no matter how many people you've killed, women (of conscenting age, ha) you've raped, you can forget about all that when there's a 'pedo' in your midst. Wasn't Priscilla like 14 when she married Elvis?
It can also be argued that if you know you have those temptations, and resist them and never act on them, wouldn't that be an example of strong morals and character? Also living in the real world, and not one's fantasies makes one realistic not delusional. And I think a case can be made that those who prey on kids are delusional.
I have to agree with this. How many people here have imagined killing someone? Having a thought is not a crime. Now, if you're obsessing about really young girls constantly that's another story, but if every now and then you feel some sort of attraction just recognize it and move on. No need to beat yourself up, but no need to sit and fantasize either. Like a lot of people have said, it's probably a phase... 17 isn't exactly "old". I'm only 21 and I'm a WAY different person than I was at even 18-19.
At ten I was still like watching cartoons and wondering what it would be like if poke on was real I sure as hell was not ready for sex. At 12/13 I was a total slut but it would've still been wrong for me to be fucking a guy in his 20s
Lol honestly, I'm not like that at all- I love men, pleasuring men, sex etc. BUT I've also seen firsthand how predatory some men can be, and it really leaves a sour taste in my mouth when children are looked at in a sexual manner. (And yes, I know, women can be predatory too).
