physical attraction

Lizziet - If you really are blind, I apologize. If so, How do you do the internet - can you read it in Braille? Does someone read you the message and then type the reply for you? Can you type the reply in Braille?
You have a wonderful, supportive perspective in your posts - a "the glass is half full" approach to life.

 

Lizziet - I read other posts in this thread after I responded to your first response to my earlier one, which confirmed that you are indeed blind. Can you see anything? Are there shapes out there or do you just "see" blackness? I have correctable 20/800 vision (an occupational hazard of being a lawyer) so when I take my glasses off, it is like a picture out of focus - I see fuzzy shapes.

Regarding the original thread here, a blind since birth person would be the best one to answer it. You can feel a person's face and body, and hear and smell them, but the classic elements of beauty have never entered your consciousness. You judge someone automatically based on the whole person, not their physical appearance. You are a beautiful person.

 

I guess the question is - what is physical attraction? For a guy, is it a beautiful face, hair, body, eyes, breasts, ass, legs, what? Someone can have a great face, but a huge plump body or a terribly skinny one with no breasts. Is it the total package?

For a woman, is it the guy's face, eyes, ass, muscles, package, what?

I guess it is any and all of these things. Look at movie stars - women and men with pretty faces or great bodies are not necessarily as "physically attractive" as some of our great movie stars who have less physical attractiveness but who have great charisma. It is a combination of their physical appearance, their facial expressions and body language, and their voice and personality. I have met a number of them, and some are impressive in person, and others who look great on the screen are really quite unimpressive in person.

 

It's important to me that the person I am with takes care of their body and mind ie-exercising, eating healthy, a non-smoker of both pot and cigs, has healthy friendships and has had healthy romatic relationships in the past, seeks counseling if he has mental ailments, has good hygine, has a clean house, car what have you.

I am not picky on looks, In fact I could care less but I have a hard time being attracted to people who don't care about their physical or mental health. I am picky on height and how muscular a guy is. Broad shoulders, height and a strong jaw-line are all things that are pretty important to me but beyond that as long as a guy is healthy and takes good care of himself that's enough for me.

I'm more into personality. I can't stand a guy who whines, makes excuses and doesn't try his best to create a good life for himself. I like guys who are educated, hold intelligent conversations, are self-sufficient, have a strong work-ethic and respect my space. I can tell how well a guy does this by how he takes care of himself physically though...if he has a drug or cigarette addiction that implies complete weakness and is a very unattractive quality in my opinion. Also, if a guy doesn't work as hard as I do I can't date them. Also, a guy who isn't philanthropic bothers me...volunteer do something. Not giving back to society and just taking and taking is a little disgusting.

 

Does my girlfriend's physical beauty matter to me? Of course it does, but we wouldn't have lasted this long if it was the ONLY thing that mattered. Physical attraction may have been one of the reasons I asked her out, but it's not what's keeping our relationship alive. Love is.