Please answer ASAP, I'm a little nervous.

Damn you fucked up! Now we gonna git into some gansta shit!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MrQtOoQRpc"]N.W.A. - Straight Outta Compton [Explicit] [HD] - YouTube

 

Awe shit! Another one of my favorites, too. Lol.

 

whit eat it ha! ha!

 

It sure was yummy, too. Lol.

 

Last sentence jumped out at me.... we're already self-victimizing over all this, ehh.... healthy start

That said, I read the beginning of the post as well (and have no desire to read the middle, I've had my share of hysterical stupidity for the day) and..... do you not understand that her opinion IS an opinion on your character? You have shit for character, and are proud of it. So it is a totally valid opinion and action to say something about your character.

Yes. I negged you. I explained in that neg that it was for the preceding string of posts... though at this point, you can consider it to be for the following string of posts as well.

I love how super sensitive new posters get all butthurt that someone would have the audacity to use the rep system to change their rep..... when they do things deserving of a poor reputation. Goes for the OP too. It's there for a reason, it's not hidden or anything, and it's not below the belt. You (both) have poor character, and as such, I will give you poor reputation. Comprende?

 

Nobody cares dude, quit being a grump butt.

 

Over in the UK, jelly = gelatin

So yes, it's peanut butter and jam.

 

I think a lot of us learned a lot more about you this week than we ever wanted to know. Post online, and people will react to what they read. Plain and simple.

Everybody has bad days now and then, but being 19 isn't an excuse for having the biggest forum meltdown of the year. Maturity often requires not always posting every thought that crosses your mind. Some personal comments are best kept private, between the two individuals, or kept to yourself.

I've never seen any rep guidelines or rules here. People use rep however they want. What does it matter anyway? Those little green dots are worthless. You can't use the points for anything.

 

Aww dammit Karen I was totally saving up for a new toaster. :smilielol5:

 

Amen to that!

 

If positive rep could buy you shit, I'd be in the money.

And if negs hurt you, I'd be six feet under

It boils down to OP posting asking for advice on one facet, and not a very important facet, of a really fucked up, generally stupid situation.... and then feeling insulted when people gave honest, all-encompasing opinions that did not support her in every opinion that she has.

Such a reaction means she probably knows she's in the wrong, anyways....

But yeah, generally playing a victim game, where if you're not supporting her wholeheartedly with any stupid shit she does, you're victimizing a poor nineteen year old when she's not feeling good....

 

I haven't read the last few pages, but a tip for the OP - in life, if it seems like the majority of people are being unreasonable, chances are you're the one being unreasonable.

 

that neg rep you gave mike was totally wrong.cos he did'nt say anything to deserve it.

 

He provided a general air of this being all her business, whatever she decides being right, "only god can judge me" (which is a fucking pathetic cop-out for doing the wrong thing, and I don't care WHAT rapper said it), told his story, similar to the one she's trying to paint about her future, where his friend thinks he made the right choice having kids young whilst totally discounting the way those kids are growing up.

I'm not worried about the OP (she's beyond that), I'm worried about the OP's kid. And I'll go against anyone who argues for HER to do what SHE wants, with relation to raising a child in a shitty situation. I think that she's got serious problems with decision making and perception, and self delusion about her situation. I think that it's morally wrong to encourage her that she's doing the right thing, no matter if she prefers it. She's doing bad things, and needs to hear the harsh truth about it, not simply be fed some bullshit about it really being all up to her and about how nobody here can judge her and it's all about her reasons for everything. She's already a self-centered disaster, and needs no help rationalizing shit...... it's not about her, it's about the kid.

I had a kid young: I accept that I did a string of totally wrong things. It. Was. Wrong. And my kid is, unfortionatly, paying some price for my poor choices. The difference is that most people in my situation decide that it was really a blessing.... well yeah, maybe a blessing for them, not for the kid. And then we have a kid who can go "well it's how I was raised, and I turned out okay" when that's the opposite of the truth. It's a way of rationalizing having done the wrong thing, that amounts to glorifying the wrong thing. I can love and care for my kid without saying that it was the right thing to do, it doesn't mean that if you end up with kids you are a bad person or that you hate your kid, if you acknowledge that you should have made different choices, but still do your best to raise your kid to be honest and understand about those choices, and why they need to try to do things right.

I regret that I did it wrong, not that I did it. There is no need for cognitive dissonance on this issue, as mike in encouraging.

OP's egotism, and mike's encouragement of it, has NO place in considering having a child.

 

how is his post an epic fail?

 

because he's talking out his ass, making assumptions and judgments about people and circumstances he knows nothing about.

 

I don't post everything and in case you didn't read my original post, I was asking for help figuring out what might be wrong. Everything else was unnecessary. I wasn't asking for pity, either. I'm not even the one that turned this shit into an argument. I simply asked what might have been wrong. I didn't do anything stupid, either. I got sick and was late for my period. I'm not pregnant, so no child. If I were, the kid would be just fine. You don't know anything about me because all you've done from your first post is assume things and judge me. You weren't even trying to be somewhat helpful before you even knew anything about me. Just because you had a child young doesn't make you an expert on parenting and unless you can see the future, you have no idea how I'd do. There are people younger than me that have children and do a great job with their kid(s). I'm not saying it wouldn't be best for both the parents and the kid(s) if people waited, but you need to quit acting like every young person would make a terrible parent. If you didn't want to know everything that was said then those of you that asked shouldn't have and you could've stopped reading at any time. And if you don't agree with something I say, by all means, tell me. But don't expect me to respect you if you can't do so without inflammatory remarks, judgement, and a complete lack of respect. I understand I snapped on some of you that didn't deserve it, or at least not to the extent I did. And some just took things wrong as I may have done as well. Oh well, shit happens. Realize that even if I don't agree with you, if you can talk to me explaining your view while respecting my right to have my own, then I'll be more likely to listen and try to understand as well as take your opinion into consideration.
I'm not perfect, neither are any of you. But I know for a fact that when I do have a child, they will be fine. I've put a lot of thought into how I'd raise my future children because there are a lot of things I'd like to do with my life, but being a mommy and cooking for people are my top choices. I know how to provide for and support some one else, I've done it numerous times already. I know how to get help if for some reason I can't get what I need for them, especially since there are a lot more options for a mother than just a young female. I know how to care for a child, I've had to do that before as well, since I was three as a matter of fact. My mother never taught us manners, I try to be polite and have taught my brothers to at least put effort into it. I'm the one that taught them their first words, changed their diapers, cleaned up after them, put them to bed, made sure they did their homework, and got enough to eat. My mom worked all the time to support us so I had to help when she had twins. I'm not going anywhere, so just wait and see if you don't believe me. And if you really think I'm so terrible, then ignore me or help me become better instead of being an asshole about it.

 

Some of you are just trolls and it's sad how intent you are on arguing with me.
I can work. I'm in the process of starting a cupcake business(basically just waiting for start-up money), I know how to get help from my family, friends, community, and the state if need be. My boyfriend has two children already so knows quite a bit. He has a car, his own house, owns property, and owns a business. He has an awesome family he can turn to as well. He donates more to charity than some people make in a year. Just because I'm broke right now doesn't mean it's not possible for me to support a child. I wen to college and have been through quite a bit more than most nineteen year old people and he has been through a lot for a twenty-three year old. We may not know it all, but we both know enough to care for and support a child, even if it came along unexpected and are learning more everyday. Since I am not pregnant, we both have plenty of time to learn more to better teach and support any possible future children and have opportunity to get financially ready and are both planning on doing so. Like I said, just wait and see. I'll be a fine mother if/when the day comes. Until then, it's really pointless to argue with me about it, especially since that day is not here.

 

My blood pressure just dropped ten points, and suddenly I like you much more.

Though it's still a bit below the level of "like"... but it's more than before :daisy: