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whitterbug2012 · Mar 4, 2013

Oh I'm so glad...NOT. I could care less whether you like me or not. I mean, if you do, cool beans. If you don't, ain't no sweat off my back. Don't take that as me being a bitch, that's just the way I see things. But why do you suddenly like me more?

roamy · Mar 4, 2013

RooRshack said:

He provided a general air of this being all her business, whatever she decides being right, "only god can judge me" (which is a fucking pathetic cop-out for doing the wrong thing, and I don't care WHAT rapper said it), told his story, similar to the one she's trying to paint about her future, where his friend thinks he made the right choice having kids young whilst totally discounting the way those kids are growing up.

I'm not worried about the OP (she's beyond that), I'm worried about the OP's kid. And I'll go against anyone who argues for HER to do what SHE wants, with relation to raising a child in a shitty situation. I think that she's got serious problems with decision making and perception, and self delusion about her situation. I think that it's morally wrong to encourage her that she's doing the right thing, no matter if she prefers it. She's doing bad things, and needs to hear the harsh truth about it, not simply be fed some bullshit about it really being all up to her and about how nobody here can judge her and it's all about her reasons for everything. She's already a self-centered disaster, and needs no help rationalizing shit...... it's not about her, it's about the kid.

I had a kid young: I accept that I did a string of totally wrong things. It. Was. Wrong. And my kid is, unfortionatly, paying some price for my poor choices. The difference is that most people in my situation decide that it was really a blessing.... well yeah, maybe a blessing for them, not for the kid. And then we have a kid who can go "well it's how I was raised, and I turned out okay" when that's the opposite of the truth. It's a way of rationalizing having done the wrong thing, that amounts to glorifying the wrong thing. I can love and care for my kid without saying that it was the right thing to do, it doesn't mean that if you end up with kids you are a bad person or that you hate your kid, if you acknowledge that you should have made different choices, but still do your best to raise your kid to be honest and understand about those choices, and why they need to try to do things right.

I regret that I did it wrong, not that I did it. There is no need for cognitive dissonance on this issue, as mike in encouraging.

OP's egotism, and mike's encouragement of it, has NO place in considering having a child.
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bullshit! no he did'nt do any of those things you stated ,all he did was not judge her and continued ta show her unconditional love.maybe you should try it yourself sometime.in your eyes everyone else is always wrong and your always right,an if ya don't see anything wrong with that picture it dose'nt really matter,cos true facts will always be true facts, no matter how anyone trys ta twist and turn them,ta suit their own agendas.

RooRshack · Mar 4, 2013

roamy said:

bullshit! no he did'nt do any of those things you stated ,all he did was not judge her and continued ta show her unconditional love.maybe you should try it yourself sometime.in your eyes everyone else is always wrong and your always right,an if ya don't see anything wrong with that picture it dose'nt really matter,cos true facts will always be true facts, no matter how anyone trys ta twist and turn them,ta suit their own agendas.
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I'm pretty sure I described, in detail, why I have done a very wrong thing, and why OP should not do that same thing.

whitterbug2012 · Mar 14, 2013

Oh, look...ain't nobody got time fo dat. Lol.

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