love backatcha, Paul. I'm a decade younger than you but with my only kiddo at 15 years, and he actually got a date. wow. I'm in what-happens-if mode with him. You can see from my post I doubt that males stay that young. I think they tend to panic and run (g-d knows women would if we could but the issue is portable!) as scared children do. my son is using an online HS. Let me know if you want the info.
You think that all marriages are stable? That it's a more stable thing for a child? What century are you living in? There are many many many unstable unions out there that are so unsafe for a child to be in. What makes you an expert on the subject? It's always easy to judge in hindsight.
I'm an expert because I said so. It depends on the "union", but do you prefer single mom's, single mom's that regret what they did? And 90% of men run away from them. She didn't even start her life yet, and now she's knocked up, so nice.
I have been married three times and I can assure you the amount of marriages that I have witnessed which are unstable far outweigh the stable ones.... Children need love, preferably from two parents.... But plenty do good with one.... Or two that dont need to follow tradition.... That is totally immaterial to a child's welfare....in this day and age!
I could certainly wrap my brain around that ......and I did.....for a brief moment.... Crud is such a realist What spirit and zeal. I can relate to that ALOT but know now that I've suffered thru a lot of dreadful circumstances of my own making and caused others to suffer.....that I've had to step back and watch so many things get brought past my spiritualeyes that I realize now came to happen as a result things I thought, actions I took and all the ways I didn't or wouldn't or couldn't look. We can ALL be free as we truly make up our own minds to be.... Peace&Love and they other day sarah told that she had made up her mind to breast feed, What spirit and zeal. I think she understands that it's all real. Paul @ drumminmama.....You already have your paul I see I still love you :&
WOW that makes you almost 30 . Your sig makes me flower. Really I used to look a the photogallery alot when I first joined last spring. And well I noticed your gorgeous red hair and then your dress and the complexion of your sleek arm... I'll stop :dupe: I met with the 17 yr old young man and his dad and told him that I didn't expect to him to play him dad, be a dad, cuz most young dads don't stay around but that the state would make sure he was financially responsible. I told him it was his responsibility to control his sperm. We hugged after all my rantings. It was real My daughter seems to have a great mindset about the circumstances as they have presented. She knows that the Universe is a friendly place and that she can start to trust her intuition and listen to her own heart. This is a powerful time for her and very full of power for me. Like of liberation of sorts from a certain range of fatherhood to a different level of tribal psychology. "What happens if mode"....aaaha yes . Just spin that around in your special circle for Good and Great Things....sprinkle that on his handsome locks....it's how we as parents need to try and live.....Full of encouragement for our childrens dreams and them help them to keep the dreams alive by their actions. Sons come with different issues than the daughters..I mean i never worried.. "what if my son comes home pregnant" or the rape issue Your son has a very wise mom who has a good and great heart. Peace&Love to you Drumminmama. and we can make talk about the online HS soon The other Paul
My reaction would've been very different ha ha I'd hurt him. Then again, if it was my son, then I'd pat him on the back "good job" lol just kidding! mwaha
Believe me Crud that is sort of how us guys think INITIALLY. Then if we take time to think a little deeper that silly thinking will usually give way to some higher thoughts. Hell you know what I'm sayin. Happens with you all the time doesn't ? I mean at first we can be crazed fucking lunatics....capable of eating human flesh right off the bone with our powerful angry paws and while the thing is still alive ..trying to escape..... That's not our TRUE NATURE deep down tho. SO BIG PEACE & LOVE eh?
Life is long compared to the time our children are in our homes, and she will have plenty of freedom later, and more people in her life to share it with. She may be doing things a bit differently than many would, but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Plus, it sounds like she has a supportive family, and that will make all the difference. Best wishes for a healthy, happy baby!!
I'm so proud of her for choosing to breastfeed! Hooray Sarah! What matters most in a child's life is love. It doesn't matter if a child has love from one person, two people, ten people, or thirty people, so long as they know that they are cared for. It seems to me like there will be lots of love for Sarah's baby... She has a big family. On the subject of marriage... It is a word for an idea, and does not guarantee stability. It hinges on the mindset of the persons involved, which could make it an unbreakable loving bond, or a frenzied dramatic war. I believe the statistics for American marriages these days only has about a fifty percent success rate. What's better, consitency and devotion from one person, or neglect and confusion from two people who can't get their act together? Not to say all marriages are bad, but often times they come with their own unique issues that are just as trying for a child as only having one parent. And on single mothers... I don't believe that so many regret having a child "alone" as you may think. Yes, it's hard being solely responsible, but the love and learning far outweigh the trials. On men avoiding single mothers... Why do we keep coming back to the silly notion that women NEED men? Why should it matter if men "run away"? It is a man's fear that made the mother "single" in the first place, the mother being the one brave enough to take on the responsibility alone. Men that "run away" are no loss! Might I ask where you pulled your statistic of %90, anyway? ... That's what I thought. For every single mother, there is a single father, mind you. Just because he doesn't always own up to his situation, doesn't absolve him of his place. I think if you really did some research, you would find that there are plenty of women who have children by themselves who later find happy healthy relationships with strong men who are as brave as the women they come to love. And on freedom... Freedom is a subjective thing, existing in the mind and personal to each individual. Having a child doesn't make you less free, is makes you more responsible.
"I think if you really did some research, you would find that there are plenty of women who have children by themselves who later find happy healthy relationships with strong men who are as brave as the women they come to love." Quote from the BeautifulIvoryVision Wow see that's what I like hearin. It gives me tingly things. The Vision is a beautiful, intelligent, articulate goddess who has one of the most stunning and fabulous son name Leo and She is around 22. King Leo must be 2 to 3. The Vision will get her vision. The clearer and more specific her dream life ...the more of it she will get to create and live. But then this is true for all of us humansbeing, BUT not all us will get the understanding needed to evolve into the powerful gods and goddesses we are. All you reading this can certainly make it happen. I'm sorry drumminmama LOL but The Ivory Vision has led my soul to a sunny place down south. She doesn't know it tho> I know I know I have children her age....well it's not about age... is it people Peace&Love Paulo
I just want to say, that from reading your posts OleFlowerMan, that you seem to be a very calm and understanding man. You daughter is truely blessed to have a such a father. You seem able to think things through before acting or reacting... which is rare in the world these days. Your grandchild will benifit greatly from having you in its life as a male role model. Congrats on being a Grandpa!
To all you good people on this thread---dont pay attention to crude and his little friend butler because they are just on here trying to get a rise out of people. They were in the craft forum trying to hit on people very inappropriately...please dont give them any more attention by responding to their childish remarks. Paul, you are a wonderful father and a beautiful human being. If only everyone could have such a supporting, understanding father and grandfather in their lives! My grandpas name was Paul and he inspired me with how he lived his life, dedicated to his family and very very loving...its good to know there are other Pauls in the world that share the same spirit and the same name! Peace and love to you!
. Uuhhhh I'll be 50 may 10. Thank you for helping me with the math : Silly you... I was just pretending we were 10 years younger because you certainly don't your old math age. 38......no way you look 38. You look 28 to me. Yea old math I said....In the world that I'm creating I'm actually going younger. Yess you heard right. Younger each month. I'm actually much closer to 30 now And hey Drumminmama...You already have a Special Paul. Starr had a Special Paul. Us pauls are pretty special. I know I am. Special,,,,Very Special. arty: And I'm just runnin this to ALL you women who posted on this important and course altering event in mine and my beautiful daughters life.....well.......well........here's what I wanna say............... Everyone one of you beautiful intelligent strong women are like the Moon and Stars......PRICELESS. Ya know I haven't been in a Love/Partner relationship with a woman ever in my life. I've been abstaining from sexual relations with anyone aside from myself for almost 3 years :nopity: and ya know what my heart tells me.......?........ "Soon soon..you are almost ready to meet your GoddessQueenLoverFriendPartner....soon, soon Smile Breathe deeply and dance .......... A quote from a wise guy from Italy........and I'd like to dedicate this to Crud, as we all know he'll be the next poster LOL so the qoute goes : "Love and respect woman. Look to her not only for comfort, but for strength and inspiration and the doubling of your intellectual and moral powers. Blot out from your mind any idea of superiority; you have none."