Problems in Paradise

Well if you honestly feel getting a better BMI for your own health is the PRIMARY reason behind wanting to do it, that's a total mentally healthy attitude and motivation for that goal.

Also about the breasts issue, if you look on the poll for how guys feel about fake breasts versus natural ones, despite size, men have overwhelmingly indicated breast preference is natural and insecurity over breast size is a turn off.

 

I can see where that might be true, but I find it hilarious and hard to believe because of what I've witnessed myself.


A guy "friend" I used to have told me that I needed to take part of what's in my ass and put it on my chest. Also, more recently, I came across a page on Facebook totally dedicated to hot women (99.9% of which include big boobs). One of the pictures posted was a very beautiful, young Asian woman who (to my surprise) had small boobs. And almost all of the guys that commented on that picture had no appreciation for her beauty because she had small boobs. And I'm not supposed to be insecure?


While I am working on trying to tune out societies views on breast size, can you at least see my point?

 

i say things like that because they're funny, but in reality oversized boobs are still a turn off.

 

They say the world is tit for tat and that's the way I live so I deserve a lot of tat for what I've got to give. Tell him if he wants some he needs to give you some.

 

Well it might be funny to a girl who's confident in her womanhood despite undersized breasts, but to me (a freshman or sophomore in high school, at the time, who had to deal with the fact that middle school girls have bigger boobs than me) something like that being said to me wasn't funny. It made me feel shitty and like I was never going to be good enough unless I had big boobs.

 

I see your point of view, girls are cruel to each other. Also Facebook rate my beauty groups are shallow and not all those profiles real. The pics are often not pics of the person behind the screen.

If you do your factchecking some of those pics are professional ads too.

 

Oh, that would be different. This is one of the "fan pages" called "Fbook's gone wild" or something like that. Meant to be like the "Girls gone wild" TV show/movies/whatever. Literally a page run by men dedicated to finding the sluttiest pictures of hot women and posting them on Facebook for their fans, also usually men.

 

All I'm going to say here, is that when some of these girls grow up, and have sons and daughters who are entering puberty and surf porn for the first time it's going to be awkward for everyone involved to see a young version of your mom being intimate with some strange man or just even being nude and displayed for others to enjoy.

I once read, (maybe it was here I can't remember) of a teacher being humiliated by her students because her students had found some stuff of her online posted by an ex boyfriend unbeknownst to her knowledge because he felt scorned so he sold the pics to a porn site. While that bf was a jerk, this can easily happen to girls who do adult stuff willingly.

 

Wow, I can only imagine how horrible that must have felt. That and it's like.. All of these girls my age take pictures that reveal way too much, thinking there won't be consequences. YOLO, is the common phrase (You Only Live Once). It's all fun and they're getting attention.


And let's say they're trying to get into a career that they're really interested in. Serious employers can find that stuff on the Internet and do you think a serious employer is going to be impressed by stuff like that? I don't. Especially if having an excellent reputation is involved. Like law firms, for example.

 

Yeah even when I was in high school, which wasn't that long ago, most of my peers thought you only suffered consequences if you planned to be a :

1. celebrity
2. enter some political job


Umm no you face consequences because as you they should've known, KIDS are technologically resourceful, including your own future kids.

I've said this to my peers in high school and kinda freaked them out a bit...I made health class fun and non-generic with the kinds of questions I'd ask, and I found it crushing young naivety very fun. And I got some major respect for it too, but I got my share of flack at being pessimistic paranoid as well.

 

Being fit doesn't magically change a body into perfection. All of us have to accept our body flaws. The true magic is recognizing our qualities. They are often overlooked. And true, being fit is the healthy thing to do. What it does mostly, is build confidence. Partly in physical ability but mostly in the mental and emotional status. We feel good ! It's endorphines etc. When we feel good we are less dependent on others to help us feel good. People need people though and that should and will not disappear.

 

Oh yeah. Though even the celebrities don't seem to get it with all of the sex tapes going public. Or they don't really care, which is a possibility.


Honestly though.. I would hate to be that couple that thought "Dude.. Let's make our own sex video and submit it to a porn site! YOLO!" then however many years later, have my son come across it.


List of awkward topics with kid(s):


4) Where do babies me from?
3) Daddy, do you have Mommy on her back again? (I actually asked this when I was like 3.)
2) THE TALK.
1) Mom.. Why is there a video of you having sex on the Internet...?


I don't even know what I would do if my son asked me that. If he even chose to ask. He might not because it would be too awkward and then he'd probably start avoiding me.

 

I think if I was a parent I'd handle THE TALK well, but the other scenarios you list would make me freak.

Because if there is video footage of me online, it would have been done without my knowledge or consent. It could also imply someone bugged a hotel room I had been in with girl. (but this is another topic altogether)

 

Sorry it took so long! Just in case anyone really cares about that..lol.

Anyways, I was referring to THE TALK as kind of a joke because in movies and shows it's always this serious thing. I mean, it is serious. Because you're helping your kids understand the consequences that can come of their actions. But the people in movies and shows always treat it like "the talk" is a horror film. Dun dun dunn.