Problems with numbers

IMV, the number in itself means little.

I know a woman who when in her 20s slept with between 2 and three guys each week for about 3 years.
One-night stands which sometimes became multi-night stands if she needed it and no other guy was available.

I know a woman who when in her 20s wouldn't sleep with a guy until they had gone out for at least 6 weeks.
Then in her 30s, her opinion became 'it's just sex' and so, if she liked the guy and got along with him well, she might have sex with him if things evolved that way, that time.

I also know several, in 30s, 40s and 50s who regard sex between two consenting adults as a normal healthy thing.
So, when I had no GF, two of them (separately) brought up the subject in terms of 'was I managing' or how was I managing (on my own)?
They held the view "what are friends for if they can't help their friends in a time of need".
I slept with each of them and two of them had slept with their girl friends when they were single.

So the numbers mean little. Connection/reason for sex matters.
I'd rather have sex with an experienced woman than a brand new inexperienced one.

 

Not that I recall, but I wouldn't have an answer, as I wasn't keeping score.

I'd think, "Great! I bet she's really developed some skills!"

 

I love your answer

 

I very rarely get asked that but most people who know me or get to know me, find out quite quickly, the type of girl that I am and would likely know or suspect that I'm lying if I gave them a low number. I've never been one that could handle exclusive relationships for very long, or to say that I tend to subconsciously push them away. I enjoy chasing that high of being with a new partner those first few times then after that, it's like a switch gets flipped, and I want to move on. I also have friends who are the same way, except most of them either are or have been married and were just cheaters. I'd rather just stay single and have been privileged with being in a position where I can have multiple partners on a fairly regular basis. But the double standards still exist. Men with high body counts are still perceived differently than the women.

But the way to beat the stigma is to get regular STD/STI testing. I also ask my potential partners to bring a clean test result beforehand. It just makes for safer, yet more fun experiences. When I show a guy my latest clean bill of health, he no longer cares about my sex history. It changes how they would otherwise perceive you. Although there are still the occasional, very old-fashioned minded men out there who can't handle a woman having experience, and it probably has more to do with anything but STD's. Like their own insecurity of being compared to other men, for example.

 

Very well said. I believe in polyamorous relationships and STI testing is kep for good health and peace of mind