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Of course, jerk off buddies, then a little sucking so there was no mess to clean up, all stopped when I met a girl and she looked after it and more.

 

I think I must have had a rare upbringing. I never had a gay experience during my formative years.

 

I am the same. My friend showed me how when I was 8 and he was 10. We never did anything other than look at his dads magazines and masturbate.

 

In my time growing up (born 1965) there was no internet, so everything you learned - you learned from each other and by trial and error.
I had a jerk buddy for a summer, but once girls became a possibility - that was replaced immediately and completely

 

That right there makes all the difference in the world: Discovering girls aren't all that yucky and sex with them is highly exciting will send having sex with da fellas to the bench and, hopefully, never to return. Sometimes, it is gone forever... and sometimes, it returns because, as I learned, when guys don't have a source of pussy, getting some dick is the "fallback solution" and I know that I've had a lot of sex with guys who didn't have a woman, had a woman and she put the coochie on lockdown, that kind of stuff and because "it's better than nothing and better than jerking off all of the time."

In 1964, I found out about dick and went batshit crazy over the whole notion of being able to have sex with a guy when I was told not to do it. As an adult, I remember this and laugh and say to myself, "If they told me to go ahead and do it, I probably wouldn't have done it..." but I did and, yes, sir, me and my friends learned from each other and via trial and error and, um, sometimes, in ways that makes Adult Me cringe at the level of debauchery we were capable of... and I indulged in. The difference was/is that I never replaced one thing for the other; I learned about pussy first and who knew that if you could get both, having sex could feel so cotton-picking good?

They'd say that people who wanted both were crazy so, ahem, I was one crazy motherfucker...

 

Sounds like you did more than I did. I had a buddy whose dad had some magazine, he confiscated a few here and there and it started with just out in the woods looking at them. Don't really remember who was first, probably him - but jerking off while looking at them at the same time began. Which led to just going to the woods to jerk off without magazines. Which led to getting totally naked and watching each other. Eventually a few sword plays and jerking with the heads together and cum together. Never went farther than that, because as you know - in that era - gays were thought of as freaks and sickos. But then came the 8th grade - and girls came back with tits on. No more with the buddy.
And as you say - as we age and our wives start dropping out, usually due to menopause - the idea returns.

 

Boy, did I ever! 1964 was a life changing year for me and my friends. You were born in 65 and I was, at that time, a year into my bisexuality and, yeah, whew, the shit I did back then still kinda embarrasses me today because I was a little whore when it came to getting dick. Then I learned to eat pussy and, fuck, who knew about that? I later realized that this was about the time the Sexual Revolution and Summer of Love got going and, yep, I was all up in the revolution and, yes, with a full awareness of being singled out as being gay and all the shit that went along with that.

Still, dick was good and pussy was better and being able to have both just worked for me; being bisexual changed my life in ways that only other bisexuals can understand...

 

I believe I fall into the same category as most high percentage straight men are - it is impossible for me to feel romance with a male, as well as any affection giving like kissing hugging. Repelled by it actually. Like putting a cat in a bowl of water.
But I love nudity, and love the look of a good cock. And would gladly play with it, suck it - lovely. But have feelings for the dude? Hell no.
I don't know what label that is, but there are a lot of older men just like me in that regard.

 

Heh, heh, once upon a time, I, too, thought it was impossible to be romantically involved with a man... and I found out how wrong I was about that. But bisexuality isn't just about the romantic possibilities (and as a lot of guys seem to think); it is also about the sex and intimacy that has nothing to do with romance. And that's fine. Those who... need a connection that isn't just lust won't necessarily agree with me, but this is what it's always been and before any of us were born. It's about the sex. It can be about more than just sex. It's about whatever is going to work for you. You decide and you do not ever let "public opinion" make decisions for you in this.

 

I was always straight ….we opened up our marriage, then came bi life ….where I was enjoying servicing wife lovers ..then i wanted more and I had my hooks up on my own…followed by active bi/gay relationships with few ..all my sex have been intimate with a man, I can’t fuck or get laid without proper kissing, cuddling and oral play …now …I admited that I am in love with one of my partners ….never have I imagined this in my life time …
Nothing wrong be romantic with a man !!

 

I didn't say there was anything wrong with it. I said I can't feel that way. Me. That only applies to me.