Question For Women?

In case you didn't know you can get STDs from oral sex too. But people really tend to over-exaggerate the whole STD risks. So relax a bit and try not to be so paranoid.

 

will sleep with a guy until they get married?

 

Yes, that is who I was referring to.

 

For me, it takes a while.. I don't sleep with anyone that I'm not in a long-term relationship with and I don't date someone unless I know them extremely well first.. so both of those take so long that I never really think about it. And with sleeping with dudes, I'm not sure that I even know that moment, considering that I've only been sexual with two men in my life

 

So tell me how you ended up taking it in the butt once? Was that with your 2nd bf? And I presume it was his idea?

 

Yes, it was his idea. Taking it in the butt has nothing to do with the amount of sexual partners you have.

Just because someone has only had two partners doesn't really mean too much.. my first partner began when I was in high school & I didn't have sex with him didn't begin until 7 months into our relationship & we were both inexperienced. We broke up when I was about 17 and I was not in another relationship again until I was 19, and I didn't have sex with him until almost 8 months into our relationship, and I am 21 now.

Really, what it boils down to for me is, I'll date you once I get to know you well enough, but I won't stay with you or fuck you unless I can see that you are willing to wait for it, and stay as long as we're both happy.

 

Do you feel that policy of yours has sufficiently protected you from mental/physical/spiritual harm that would have occurred had you not adopted this policy?

Have you ever felt that this policy of yours was a double-edged sword that's hurt you as well as protected you?

 

You sound like my kind of girl.. were you an obvious virgin? did you feel like you were missing an important link of understanding in order to be in control amongst your peers??

 

Women do not get to decide who and when sex will occur. I a girl is attracted to a guy and he doesn't approach her.. well she doesn't have much of a choice there. However, if a guy is attracted to a girl who isn't attracted to him, well he still stands a chance of wooing her and talking her into it!!

 

actually, i think getting married too young is considered the norm.

if a guy doesn't approach a girl, she can approach him. she won't, but she can.

if a guy is attracted to a girl who isn't attracted to him, he stands a chance of being her bestest friend who desperately wants her but can't do anything about it.

 

I don't know where you guys get your info from, but women DO approach men. I see it happen all the time, including with me.

 

Yeah but you're in Europe. American women expect the man to essentially do all the work, starting with being approached.

 

I approach. Sometimes it works out, mostly it doesn't. I guess men want 100% ... something about testeroned-charged egos.

 

It has nothing to do with any kind of harm, it's just morality and comfort-ability.. no offense to all you sexy and sexual people out there.. but in my opinion it's pretty slutty to be sexual with anyone other than someone you've been with and gotten to know first.. it's disgusting to even just kiss people, that you don't know where they've been or anything. It's just so gross. Also, it's a comfort-ability because people in general are foul, disgusting creatures and I can't stand them to be around me, so if you think that I'm gonna get close enough to someone to let their body touch mine then I had better know them veryyy well.

And no, I don't think it's a double edged sword, I don't feel hurt in not opening my legs for every 6th person to make eye contact with me. People are groady and I'm not too interested in being with too many of them anyway

 

If I'm not attracted to you, you're not going to woo me, end of story. And if you continue to try, you're gonna get a swift kick to the nuts, then to the mouth.

 

Thanks for the feedback. Glad to see you have a good picture of what you want for yourself, imho that's kinda rare in general.

I know this is your stance on guys who continue to woo you, but what do you think goes on in the minds of girls/women who are very adamant of rejecting or not being romantic with ____ and then suddenly flip-flop their position and have a change of heart?

As a girl what goes on there mentally in a girl's mind do you think? What causes that change in perception from "Oh this annoying guy again that I've been rejecting for a while" to "Hmmm perhaps I was wrong?".

 

Yes, I'm in Europe and it is definitely that way

 

That's what the girl I'm after will think

 

Women may make premature decisions about men. I'm unsure why that is such a surprise. Yet, if annoyance is present in the initial phases, it is probably mutual. Nevertheless, there does have to be civility which offers the chance for something to develop. As people learn about each other, thats when they discover there are things to like. It's not always evident at first.

 

Maybe I hang out in the wrong crowd, but I've only seen that behavior in movies... I don't know ANY women who have changed their minds like that. For me, and this is also true of the other women I know, if there's an annoying guy I've been rejecting and he keeps trying, I start avoiding places I might see him, and if I have to I'll tell him he's harassing me and to stop before I get the police involved.