Question For Women?

Yeah, there's this myth that a woman, especially a pretty woman, can "get any guy she wants". It's not only not true, it's ridiculous.

 

I live in Portland, Oregon and women approaching men is the norm here.

 

Portlandia says it best


Melanie: In Portland, you can put a bird on anything and call it art!

 

And you can pickle anything. The dream of the 1890's is alive in Portland!

 

You should be able to deal with them yourself without getting the police involved. Have you ever got the police involved? You must be very good looking.. the poor guys. You should give them a chance.. what's so bad about them?

 

I'll definitely agree American girls can be a bit "prima donna-ish", but even some of them will approach guys. It may not be the norm, but it does happen.

 

I've never had to get the police involved, just had to threaten it a couple of times with guys who were being scary-persistent.

I'm not especially good looking, just a normal girl. But what's so bad about them is that they kept wouldn't back off after I let them know I wasn't interested. That's the biggest red flag of all for me; it shows me right off the bat that they have no respect for my boundaries. If a guy has that little respect for me when he first meets me, what's he going to be like when he thinks he has some kind of "right" to me?

One guy, who I had to have the bouncer remove from the bar, wouldn't stop touching me, putting his hand on my ass or my thigh. I kept telling him to stop touching me and pushing his hands away but I didn't want to make a scene, and I was relieved when my boyfriend arrived... but he KEPT DOING IT, acting like he thought he was being all sneaky. My boyfriend wanted to clock him but I didn't want him to get kicked out, so we flagged down the bouncer.

I am not sure why you think I should give creepy, rude, pushy, disrespectful, probable date-rapists a "chance".

 

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What if a good looking, polite semi shy guy pursued you after being rejected?

 

I know, but its SO cool in the movies when the girl gives in?
Its just there is a girl that I waited for at the door of lecture hall for on two occasions last month to get talking to. She seems okay with it, the talks go very well, but she has missed the last 5 classes of the module we share, since that last time. It might look needy to wait at the door but I don't exactly bump into her that often

 

Yeah you're overdoing it in this case. She's not interested.

Yeah, it can be and I think that's the case in this situation.

But I do think persistence can pay off, it just has to be done on a case by case basis. It has worked for some people in real life. There's different ways of being persistent though, and the method of persistence matters too as does the timing.