Questions for Bi men

I was curious only about sex with guys long before I was married. I’m still really into sex with guys but sex at home is non existent. I would always probably be into sex with guys but if I had a sex life at home I doubt I’d think about it much because I’d prefer her.

 

I think my lack of success with the opposite sex might've led me to consider alternatives. It might've led me to think about it sooner. But if I had been averse to the same sex or eve had no interest, I don't think I would get nearly as far as I have with my attractions. I have a genuine attraction to guys in and of themselves, not just because they might be available. And I don't watch that much porn, but when I do it's very rarely heterosexual porn.
Like a typical guy I looooove the idea of two women together. I will admit that idea does influence my tendency to consider having some same sex action of my own.

 

The idea of being bi didn't cross my mind until my late 20s. However, when I was 19 my then girlfriend cheated on me and while it really crushed me (though we made up and stayed together for another five years) ever since I have found fantasizing about my girlfriend or wife having sex with another guy a massive turn-on, fantasies that usually involved thinking about the other guy's cock entering my partner. What made me realize my bi nature was watching porn and realizing I got as turned on by the cocks as the women, and when I eventually did meet a guy for the first time it felt like the most natural thing to suck him, though he wasn't really into it so it still felt kind of pointless. But it only took me another year or so from that first encounter to try anal sex with an older guy, and while I struggled with accepting it I really enjoyed it. The rest is history I guess.. I'd say I'm becoming slightly more bi as time goes by, but still slightly more straight than bi.

 

I’m finding myself on here because I am getting virtually no attention from my wife in the bedroom. The seldom times that we do I have to ask and it seems very unenthusiastic. I’m 35 years old and it feels like she has no desire at all anymore to touch me. its pushing me to explore because I simply just need release. The part that most appeals to me with a man is solely that he simply wants the same thing as me, to be made to feel good and be enthusiastic about because they want it too. I’ve read so many posts on here about many men “just wanting to suck a cock, don’t even care if mine gets sucked.” I would of course want to return the favor but that statement truly means they want the other man to feel as good as possible; which seems the be the opposite of what I’m getting at home lately

 

We still need to meet and talk my friend.

 

I know. I'm here but wife is here with me.

 

I realized I was attracted to men and women at an early age. I know this sounds ridiculous, but back in the days of the Christmas catalog (Sears, JC Penny's, etc) many of us got our first glimpses of scatily clad women in said catalogs. As I approached puberty I noticed I was also checking out the bulges on the male models as well. Was so excited at around 15 when my then best friend told me had been with a guy in the town he was originally from. Wasn't to much longer after that that I gave him a blowjob and we started having sex on a regular basis. He introduced me to two other guys and I ended up blowing/fucking. I've been married twice to two women with pretty high sex drives yet I still look at men and REALLY want some cock. So really, nothing TURNED me bi. I just am.

 

I've always wondered what it would be like to be with a man, had some opportunities but passed on them. Since I turned 70 I think I would really like to try some cock, but not much opportunity here in Arkansas.

 

This is what pushed me to find satisfaction with another guy. I could have searched out another woman I guess but for me at the time it didn't seem like cheating to allow another guy to suck my cock. It's just a blow job between guys. It wasn't long after the first time that I myself started sucking cock and really enjoying it too. I was still having sex with my wife (great sex-when she wanted it) but I was also having a lot of oral sex with a lot of guys in the same situation that I was in. It felt to me more like helping out a friend in need rather than cheating on my wife. Knowing I provided him with something she wouldn't or couldn't do and I was getting the same in return.

 

I've been masturbatiing since I was a kid around 9. At that time I never thought about other guys! When I went in the Army that's my curiosity began about other guys! All I seen was cock! I got hit many times but at that time I wa just young kid and although I wanted cock I was afraid others would fine out about me! Never sucked a cock until I began sharing my wife and one time while watching her get fucked she motion to me to join them and that's when I sucked my first cock and I loved every minute of it! Sometime earlier my wife caught me jacking off in a unlock bathroom door and then asked me if I ever had a man! I didn't answer as she closed the door so since then she has her boyfriends and I have mine!

 

Wow. What a great question. Viewing this thread anyone can tell that the answers are as varied as the people who responded.

For some its as you pointed out; A natural next step in filling an existing void. To a few it was simply curiosity which led to the realization "Hey I like this! Lets do it some more!"

Others have even been coerced by circumstance and discovered a side they didn't know they had.

Then there are those who ended up this way for reasons they don't understand beyond it feels right.

As for myself, I was born this way.

 

Do you think you became Bi because you weren’t getting enough sex with your woman?

Nope, I have always been bi.

 

I became bi because I was seduced by an older man giving me a massage when I was 22. I remember feeling really conflicted about it when I started to get aroused, but after I decided it was no weirder than jacking myself off and allowed him to start sucking me, I had the best orgasm of my life.

No turning back. Been bi ever since. I just love having sex with both women and men.

 

I'm very glad you got over the feelings of conflict. You eventually chose to participate in an experience that turned out to be very fun. And why turn down fun for an oppressive reason? I wish everyone who had such feelings would get over them as easily, myself included of course. I'm not saying I'm not ready, but it took quite awhile for me to get there.

 

Same as me!

 

What I meant was I just love having sex with both men and women!

 

A lot of fucking and sucking going then huh! Same here I love my wife watching me sucking cock and when the other guy fucks my wife wow that just turns me on! All I can smell is the cum from all of us!

 

I think the initial question is a good question.For me I was introduced to gay sex at 16 by my girlfriends brother.I didn’t have sex with a man for 17 years between 21-38.After my divorce I was lonely and started to indulge in porn when I made my way to gay porn I was reminded about how amazing being fucked by a man was.So I guess it reopened the door for me personally as I went on a 2 year run of being fucked by numerous men.When I stopped and began dating women again I had to completely stop all porn watching as I knew if I watched porn it would eventually lead to gay porn which wound eventually lead to more sex with men.Years later (this was 8 years ago ) I started to watch gay porn again (maybe a couple years ago ) and it’s hard because I now have the urge to be taken by a man and be his submissive little bitch but I have a girlfriend whom I love and while some people consider porn a way of cheating for me it’s the only way of satisfying my same sex urges without hurting someone or losing my girl

 

For me, all those feelings of conflict took place within a matter of minutes. I had never even considered having sex with men before this massage seduction happened-- I had only fantasized about women. I was conditioned into thinking that same-sex encounters were "wrong", even though all my prior masturbation sessions were also actually a "same-sex" activities.

But this guy knew that I needed to get off with another person. I was still a virgin at age 22 and was so horny. After I got through all the inner conflicts and said to myself, "just go for it", I soon found myself on top of him thrusting away as he willingly took me with his hands and mouth. It was just an amazing orgasm.

He was a good guy. Treated me very kindly before, during, and after that thunderous orgasm. He helped me set the stage for a very diverse and satisfying sex life that continues to this day.