rags...i chickened out

don't let us be like the pastor and pressure you too....

there's always next year. Also, will you be able to make it to Beautiful Days?

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i wish i could! hahaa! that woudl be hilarious!!

 

Indeed. But there's a difference between advice and pressure. I'm not suggesting you confront him when you're not ready to. Do whatever you need to do in your own good time.

 

am free, will be living with the circus by then but am skint so probably not...unless i break in...

 

I broke out last year to go climb some trees! The fence is negligible.


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hahaha!! ok hopefully i shall be there altho now i am concerned, are you telling me that beautiful days is tree-less?!!

 

Ahh, but it's not necessarily about changing his opinion. You don't stand up to someone for their benefit, you do so for your own benefit. That's why I advised that standing up to someone can take many forms, including turning your back and walking away.

Exactly. Standing up to him is about taking back the power. However you stand up to him (be it actively or passively) doesn't matter, so long as at the end of it, he has no power over you.

 

so...bearing this in mind do you think i should give it another shot? should i ask him this afternoon if i can go to the solsitce? i dont know whether i should...just the fact that i have to ask him makes me mad because its my weekend and im not really up for gettin all angry again...also he'll say no im pretty sure...either that or hell ask me loads of questions and confise me until ive said no for myself.


maybe i should just drop it and behave...

 

No. If you feel able, you should tell him you are going. If you ask, he will continue to say no. Alternatively I suppose you could do what I suggested earlier..... ask if you can go, and then ask him what Jesus would do? Would Jesus try and prevent you, or would he allow you to make your own decision?

 

ohhh...i really want to. i want to say, "by the way, ive decied to go to the solstice after all...i dont think its necessary for me to be around that weekend..." sounds like such an easy thing to do but believe me the thought of it makes my pulse increase. i duno why im so scared but i really think as soon as i step into his office ill turn into a mess and the words will come out wrong or not at all.

but at the same time, i feel really determined to go...errrrr! im gona have to be bold methinks...

 

Your pastor makes your heart beat faster? This is soooooooo not good on so may levels!

 

Might sound a bit silly, but what I'd do is decide exactly what I'm going to say beforehand and go over it a few times in my head, that way it's a lot easier to get your message across. That has always worked for me when I've had to stand up to intimidating bosses. If he tries to make you feel guilty, remember it's just a job, he doesn't own you. He should be grateful that you do so much good work for them, you shouldn't feel like you have to ask permission to live your life. Tell him what you're going to do and if he has a problem with it, it's his problem not yours!

 

eeek! ok, i shall try my best. bearing in mind even makin eye contact with him freaks me out...

raggo

and Dok- you are distrubed and that is freakishly disgusting!!

 

Why thank you!!! :sunglasse