Rape: The Ugly Word

Very Very True

 

I agree with you. We are strong...and in leui of this situation as we congregate together we form a unity which helps each and everyone of us.

 

We are very strong. We survived being attacked, more than once. Not everyone can walk away from that, alive. Some tried to crush us, but we didn't let them. That is a testament to our metal.

And each day that we live our lives to the fullest, not being scared, not hiding from the world, is one more chance for our spirit to grow.

Yes, bad things happened to us, terrible, horrible things. We acknowledge that. We do not try to forget, repress, or hide, from our painful experiences. We allow them to blend with our wonderful experiences, creating the beautiful soul that we are. The salt of our tears tempers the cloud highs of our joy and makes us balanced, if we allow it.

 

...........i know who one of my main abusers was..... he was a very close friend to the family.... still is though i havnt seen him for years..... part of me wants to confrunt him and find out if my memory prooves true........... please give me some advice, do i do this and risk being laughed at by him, or risk dragging something up from the past i have no proof happend..... causing pain to many people .... or do i save all this and deal with it in another way?

Sorry to high jack your thread its just.... this, like you, has become very promenant for me this last year and its getting worse, i shut it out for about 10 years.

 

No No...you are not hijacking...as a matter of fact with everyone telling me their experiences makes me feel like I am not alone. I feel depressed today but not because of the evil thing...I have depression...something I have had all my life I guess...though the stuff that happened has not helped...you guys are wonderful and all us talking like this is helping me and i hope its helping you. I love you all.
---<---<@ Flower for you all.

 

the best way to get back at your abusers is to move foreword a strong woman and not let them run your life under your skin

 

i agree apple...hmm...anybody have any good craft projects i can try out?

 

Fleassy,

I would take care, if I were you. You seem unsure about whether it really happened or not. If it were me, I would not say anything, until I had full recollection. And then, I may not say anything anyways.

It is not important, what happened. What is important is the way we deal with it. And how we manage our lives, afterwards.

I'm not a confrontational type of person. So, for me, confronting my abusers is not always the right thing to do. Also, there are ways of getting the healing benefits of confronting the person (if that's what you need to do), without actually going to them. You just use the same techniques that you would, if they were dead...

Yes, confronting them will drag a bunch of crap up to the surface. It will cause you pain and your (and their) loved ones pain. Unless you are certain that this person is indeed a child molester, I would not say anything. If you have good recollection and can say it was them with certainty, then you might want to go ahead and say something-to protect any other children that he may be in contact with.

But be warned. It will most certainly be denied and you will be called crazy or delusional. I would rally some folks on my side... Siblings, cousins, others that he may have abused, also. If there is someone who can say that it happened to them as well (or that they remember it happening to you), then maybe he won't be able to blow it off, so easily. And you won't have your entire family thinking you are crazy.

Good luck.

 

Mosaic
Glass bead making
make necklaces with those metal pins you bend..you can get tehm from the craft store.
Sewing
make eye pillows
make your own melt and pour soaps and try them out yourself in a warm bath
make your own tea with herbs
learn to cook something new
gat plain tiles and make some cool coasters...19 cents each at home depot
go to the thrift store and find a picture frame thats cheep and buy it for its glass...get some liquid (fake) lead from the craft store and some stained glass paints and make yoruself a prety window

 

you can get bendy wire and make cool wind catchers with beads and sticks and sparkly things to hang in your window.

Or get some teeny tiny mirrors ( I get them at the wishing well or craft store) and get some fishing wire.
glue the mirrors on the fishing wire back to back so the mirrors hang and when they spin reflect light all over...you can make a few strands of these and hang then on a wall it looks really cool

 

make chainmail! Sorry, that was a fun activity my mom and I used to do... the biggest supplier of chainmail in North America lives only like 20 minutes from my place (Saskatoon Saskatchewan, tiny little city) and it was a lot of fun. Great to do while watching tv as well, and trying out new funky patterns. Just make sure any pliers you use don't have teeth on 'em.

 

learn how to knit
I wish I knew...

 

I know in my head it happened, i have vivid memories ofthe last time he tried. HOWEVER i told no one.... i was about 10 last time it happened... and about 8 before that i'd say.. i dont know my exact age of it. ...ive never told anyone in detail what happened though i feel i need or should but physically cant.

I cant "rally together" people he has done it to...i dont know if there WAS anyone else..... i doubt there was.

Ack ...sorry but your reply just made me feel really shitty.,i know you were just trying to help,, ive had a bad day... im going to leave this here.. sorry everyone.

 

Fleasy,

here is a big hug for you...





HUG

 

lol and thanks all of you these ideas are great i love doin the hemp necklace thing...i thought of combining hemp making with sewing...basically instead of sewing with thread sew with hemp...i did it once before and a lot of people loved it! Need thin hemp and a big needle though.

 

thanks all once again...